I was talking to my boyfriend today while I was at work on instant messenger. He mentioned that he was having trouble deciding between three different things to get me for my birthday. He mentioned the first two, and the third was "a ring". Now we have talked about marriage before -- we've been living together for over six months and have been together over a year, so of course we've talked about getting married "eventually". Lately he has also been talking about wanting to buy a house when our lease is up. I was so shocked to see that he had said he was considering buying me a ring that I didn't respond back to his message for a good five minutes, and he said something along the lines of "you're baffled" and then got snippy when I talked about the other two things instead of the ring. Of course, I would say yes if he asked, but I don't want to assume that he is actually planning to propose. Part of me still really thinks it may still be too soon to get married. What should I do?
2007-09-28 13:07:23 · 6 answers · asked by somberll 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like he was throwing the ring out there to see what you would say. There must be something holding you back, & I'm sure he knows this. It sounds like you two need to talk. #
2007-09-28 13:14:12 · answer #1 · answered by nhuvi j 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is BIG TIME afraid of being rejected by you. You're going to be stunned whether you knew the possibility of a proposal was there or not, so either you want to marry him or you don't. You can accept the proposal, doesn't mean you have to elope to Vegas and get married the next day. An engagement is just the natural progression to marriage, buying a home, etc. so jump in and do it if you have the chance. Not everybody is that lucky!!!
2007-10-02 12:44:10 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Miss Keir 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him , just because you get engaged doesnt mean you have to set a wedding date right there and then , your already living together and talking about buying a house , if your unsure about marriage are you 100% sure about the rest of your relationship?
Food for thought.
2007-09-28 13:35:38 · answer #3 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, If your gonna say yes if he asks you to get married, Then your ready even though you might not want to admit it.
If you think that its too soon to get married then maybe you guys should have a long engagement. You gont have to get married now wait a year or two.
2007-09-28 13:14:34 · answer #4 · answered by Mom_of_2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm confused . It is okay to live together , but too soon for a ring? Living together is not like a Saturday night date.
2007-10-02 13:11:02 · answer #5 · answered by Merrie S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have any doubts at all, don't do it. No reason to rush when you aren't sure.
2007-09-28 13:24:46 · answer #6 · answered by mab5096 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋