I worked 12 hours. Came home and my fiance is working on his garage and expects me to go get dinner. Should he go get dinner or should I let him continue working on the garage because he wants to get the garage done? Am I being shelfish for wanting him to get dinner because he is working on the garage?
2007-09-28 12:26:44 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Personally if he was the one that was home - whatever he was doing - he was the one with access to the stove and as such, should have been the one preparing the meal. If you were home - cleaning, washing, etc. it wouldn't be an excuse for you not to have a meal on the table, would it?
How long was he "working" on the garage? Was it the full 12 hours that you worked? But I guess I have to ask - can he even cook?
2007-09-28 12:37:18 · answer #1 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you are working, and it should be a shared duty. If nothing else, the two of you go together and get dinner. It would have been best if he would have let you know to get dinner earlier so that you could pick it up on the way home from work though. It is likely that he is working nonstop and has been doing so for the major part of the day. When I start something like that, I do not stop either. When you stop, it is harder to get back to it, and it is wasting time when someone else can go get it while he is working on it. I understand you working 12 hours a day, but you also have to look at it from his point of view as well.
2007-09-28 19:41:43 · answer #2 · answered by Angelic Valentine 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, this marriage is doomed unless you give up trying to control him. You can't make a guy do something he doesn't want to do. And if he finally does it, because you nagged him into it, guess what, he'll resent you for that, and the resentment will build up over the years. So, if he really doesn't want to go get dinner, and you really don't want to go get dinner, grab something from the fridge and go put your feet up. Let him figure out what he's going to eat. And if what you want to eat isn't in the fridge, then guess you'll have to go get it. While you're out, you might as well be kind, and get something for him too. That's the way marriage works. Don't make it into a power struggle, there's too much love to share to squabble over the little things. May the Blessings Be
2007-09-28 19:38:50 · answer #3 · answered by shine_radiantstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! You are not going to make it as a married couple if things like this keep coming up. you must be a high maintenance chick not to see that if you love someone you don't take into account the hours of work in a day. If you worked for 3 days straight you still suck it up. fixing the garage will benefit both of you don't you see that? Feel bad for the guy!
2007-09-28 20:13:13 · answer #4 · answered by nfgatcer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why didn't you call him before coming home and make plans for dinner instead of 'hoping' he would prepare something. He's a man! He's working in the garage, men have one track mind they don't think of 2 things at the same time. If you want to be happy with a man tell him what you want and what you expect of him, don't assume he should know what your wishes are.
You should of called him and tell him that you were tired and you were gonna pick up something to eat on your way home for both of you.
Problem solved.
2007-09-28 19:33:06 · answer #5 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When I worked, my husband and I had an agreement.. whoever got home first would be in charge of dinner. Whether it be fixing Hamburger Helper or ordering out, this would solve any future problems.
2007-09-28 20:36:46 · answer #6 · answered by 2Beagles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what's the big deal? it's dinner for heavens sake..! sounds more like a power strugle to me.. i hate to tell you this but very few men feel it is their responsibility to feed themselves.. lol! you two better sit down and discuss your expectations and roles you want of each other!! just friggin order out!! maybe if you suggesting firing up the grill..he might be all over that.. most guys love to cook on the grill!
2007-09-28 23:18:24 · answer #7 · answered by gingersnap6565 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say make dinner for yourself, and tell him to fend for himself. Better start training him correctly now, or this behavior will continue. It's been years since my wife has picked up takeout for the family.
2007-09-28 19:36:24 · answer #8 · answered by x2000 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both busy.. dial a chinese and pour a couple of glasses of wine... life is too short
2007-09-28 19:35:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are, he's doing something too, it's not like he;s sitting his *** down in front of the TV and doing nothing. Get over it.
2007-09-28 19:31:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋