i mean without getting angry with them, so you don't get into trouble.
and why is it the most people who i find try to play these mind games with me are ' white brits'? did they invent mind games?
could someone explain? im not a mind games person and hate them.
im from south east france originally and aim to leave britain eventually.
but i want to know how i can handle these mind games, where i feel they attempt to destablize my sense of reality.
i hate THAT people, i really do. i already struggle with bpd as it is, and have life tough...so i dont consider it brave to have these mind games perpatrated towards me.
im 30 now and struggle with trauma and bpd since 16
2007-09-28 12:12:04 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I avoid these people. I know who I am and I know what I am about. People who try to make me something I'm not may not share my company, and definitely do not share my confidences. Just keep your wits about you, you know who you are.
2007-09-28 12:17:55 · answer #1 · answered by cavassi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what you mean when you say - where they try to make you think you don't know who you are. I have people who would like me to think I am less than I am and will put me down either verbally or emotionally. Those kind usually want power over me or money. I've had trauma and ptsd, and then later depression and anxiety. My counselor told me to read Your Perfect Right by Robert Alberti and Michael Emmons.
Its mostly about assertiveness. Maybe reading that would give you an idea about how to confront people without getting angry with them.
2007-09-28 19:30:40 · answer #2 · answered by dianna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These mind game players are psychological bullies who sense your vulnerability. It's about power. The hardest thing for me to come to terms with in life is this type of pointless cruelty that seems to come so naturally to some people. Perhaps you need a course in assertiveness.
2007-09-29 02:53:20 · answer #3 · answered by Delphi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feel sorry for them, and be thankful that you aren't like that...whenever I see a person that is like that, or mean, or gossipy, or evil...It makes me take note of just how lucky I am, in spite of all the grief I may be experiencing...It is good to see things from the other side,...and just thank the Lord, that you're not like them.
2007-09-28 19:19:09 · answer #4 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that you talk about it with your doctor. Your doctors not only know you and the condition you mention, they are trained in how to deal with the people who play little mind games.
2007-09-28 19:29:02 · answer #5 · answered by Y!A-FOOL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had mind games played with me. And still do, at times. I give it right back to em. I think tho, why they do it is sort of a control thing.
2007-09-28 19:16:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OH MY GOD I KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN! I HATE PEOPLE LIKE THAT! I KNOW SOME1 LIKE THAT AND HE IS CONSTANTLY GOING ON AT ME. PEOPLE LIKE THAT HAVE ISSUES AND U SHOULD AVOID THEM
2007-09-28 19:41:41 · answer #7 · answered by ghetoprincess21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋