How can I stop seeming so "pure"?

Question

Guys seldom see me "that way", and I never get asked out to wild parties. While talking to an aquaintance some time ago she said that there is a "purity" to me. I don't have to be a wild woman, but I feel like life is passing me by. What is it about a person that makes people think that a person is too "pure" to ask out to a bar or on a date?

18. I just put it on my profile. I'm a late bloomer and little insecure, so I guess I seem younger than what I am.

I don't think purity is a bad thing. I just want to stop getting treated like a little girl, even with people around my age. It's so frustrating.

I can go in, I just can't order liquor.

Are the first two people trying to be smart?

Because many people won't go into a question like this if they think you're a kid, braniacs.

Answer 1

You may feel that life is passing you by because someone hasn't asked you to a bar or out on a date. Don't feel so sad. People think of you as being good and "pure" because you are not wild and experienced in the things they may be interested in. As bad as you may feel now, this is a good thing. You don't need to go to wild parties. Think of your own value system and how you want to be treated. You don't want to be used or treated as if you were easy. Eventually someone will ask you out and be honored to have someone like you with them. Because you have virtues, higher standards and seem to be pure to those around you, they are actually showing you respect by not placing you in a compromising situation. You can have fun but you need to do it on your terms and it should not be measured by how other people handle their lives. Be true to yourself and you will end up being happier. All good things in time.

Answer 2

The definition of maturity is: the ability to delay gratification. If you can delay your desire for instant gratification long enough to make it to become older without loosing your purity, you will be thankful. Going to wild parties can create patterns and experiences that you may spend years in agony trying to undo. There are advantages to being "pure" - people trust you more and that's a good feeling. People have deeper feelings of "like" and respect for you. People don't want to use you as much when you seem pure. Feeling used is a very bad feeling.
Please give some thought to all the advantages and disadvantages of being considered pure and whether or not life is really passing you by or whether it's just the momentary, although destructive things that are passing you by. Do you have anyone to talk to?
If people are perceiving you as pure, I'm sure it's because something in you, is good, kind, loving-- these are admirable qualities that I hope you make an effort to enhance rather than minimize.

Answer 3

To me being pure is a beautiful thing now days . So many young girls end up as unwed mothers . So many use drug's and drink .

I was the same way when I was your age I was upset that I wasn't getting asked out ,having a good time like the other girl's my age . Now I look back and thank God ,as so many girl's that I went to school with ended up unwed mother's.

I will say that I did try drinking ,smoking and did try pot as well ,but it did nothing for me . Once again I thank the Lord ,as there are so many horror stories of people's lives that have been messed up because they abused their bodies with these poison's ..

Just because you don't get asked out to wild parties doesn't mean that your life is passing you by.

I'm 46 and still have no desire to smoke ,drink or use drug's ,nor do I feel that I missing out on anything . I have 2 grown children and a b/f who is the best thing that ever happened to me.

You may not always understand why things are the way they are and they may seem unfair at the time ,but sooner or later you will find things out and you will probably be thankful just like I am

Answer 4

You speak as if purity were a bad thing. On the contrary, purity is a virtue.

My advice is to not make yourself seem impure, because being pure is a good thing.

By the way, I'm 18, a virgin, don't go to wild parties, etc. I happy with how I am. You should be that way too.

Answer 5

I get that from people, too. But it seems the difference between you and I is that I don't mind it. I have no desire to go to wild parties, etc. I just enjoy being me, and know that as everyone my age gets older, I will still seem younger, and the laugh will be on them. I find that it weeds out the superficial kinds of men, and other kinds that I have no interest in. As for you, I wouldn't suggest you be anything other than you are, IF you know what that is. If you're sweet on the outside, but wicked inside, then that's your little secret to hold until the most patient, persevering people find out, and are shocked, awed and amazed. It can be an advantage. >;-)

Answer 6

There certainly are men in this world that will see "that way" as an attractive quality- unless you are only interested in the rough and tumble party guys (which all end up fat by 30 hehe) why try to be something other than yourself (pure or not) to try and impress a new group of peers. Be true to yourself- and that will be the most attractive you to a sincere man- btw you're 18 and can't go to a bar?!

Answer 7

Ah Frenchy..I took use to have this concern. yet i chanced on the answer, notwithstanding that is variety of difficult. you ought to have the flexibility to make your self look "particularly" off so as which you dont get extra artwork, yet sane adequate to maintain your interest. i chanced on that randomly speaking (or specifically circumstances yelling) at people who're no longer there works properly. additionally, bursting into gales of laughter for no obvious reason looked as though it would help plenty (it particularly is elementary some days on right here). additionally you are able to tell your boss which you like an afternoon off a minimum of as quickly as another week to fulfill alongside with your therapist. Then go into deep component of your sessions, and how your Dr. has given you meds to postpone the inevitable psychotic destroy. that ought to do it!

Answer 8

My girlfriend's that way... like a purity deemed unto by a type of worldly naievity... she's sweet though, so, really who gives a s**t if you're "wild" or "passifistic" or "pure" or whatever other adjective you use to describe yourself.

BE WHAT YOU ARE.
And like it. Find what works with it.

Sounds like you're desparate for the bone... that detracts from the question about "purity".

Answer 9

There is nothing wrong with being "pure". Life is just starting for you, so I can't see how that much of it has passed you by, but remember, just as beautiful boats and cruises pass before you in the water, there is much more trash and flotsam. You want to swim in the trash? You'll get dirty, leaving memories you will regret.

Answer 10

agreee wit person above

*im not tryin to be smart i would have to know how old you are to answer this

and any kind person that's worried about what other poeple think is immature in the first place

if you wanna stop being seen as a good girl then loosen up hit tha clubs get wasted and just live life!

stop whinin bout it on yahoo answers

lol

NOW im being smart