I wish my mother in law dies tonight!?

Question

I am living far away from her guys. With my husband. I was in Australia before. But just moved to the UK last month. That butch is in France. I am stressed to the sky when I think abt her. I was depressed for the whole half of this year, just recovering from it.. And now that butch is trying to get in my way again..
She just cannot accept that I come from an Asian background and that I am different! I have lived in so many countries, met so many people, but I have never met someone like her. And why did it have to be my mother in law?????!
She wants me to be like .. what? typical french girl???!
FYI: She's had pretty harsh childhood. But I thought that's supposed to teach you to grow wiser! Am I wrong?

Answer 1

Say it one more time and click your heels together.

Answer 2

Pray for your enemies. Don't let her get to you. IF she sees that she is affecting you this badly, she will continue to treat you this way. Try to avoid her at all costs, but when you are around her just don't let her get to you. When she sees she can't bother you by acting like she does; she should eventually stop. If a conversation does get heated, tell her (calmly and with tact) that not every one can be French and that you are proud to be of Asian descent. And that she better get used to it, cause you can't change who you were born to be, whether she wants you to or not.

More than likely she was raised to be like this. Yes her childhood should have made her wiser, but more often than not the bad habits just go around in a never ending cycle, jumping from one generation to the next. Be glad it didn't pass on to your husband. Just show her how classy, sophisticated, and (Lord forbid, lol!) Asian, you can be.

Whatever the outcome, please don't harbor such hatred towards another person! How is it harming her if you hate her?
It will harmfully affect you more in the end than it will ever affect her. Good luck with your looney in-law!

Answer 3

You are in a hard spot! She treats you like her worst enemy because you are. Her little boy loves another woman and this probably kills her inside. It's really funny how a grown woman can act like a two year old. Just remember to stand up for yourself. You did nothing wrong. Most women go through this when they meet thier monster in law. All it really is, is a game. Just simply refuse to play. You will never make her happy, so stop stressing over it. Quit trying to make her happy and direct your efforts to your relationship. OH and DO NOT talk bad about his mother to him!!!!!!! He may say things, and thats okay, it's his mother. Being happy is the best thing you can do because that will make her angry.

Answer 4

No offense, but you need to grow up. She's living in another country. How much stress could she possibly be giving you? Were you unaware that when you married your husband, you also married the family? Use tact, and act adult about it, and stand your ground.
Or maybe I just cannot accept that you are, "different".
*yawn*

Answer 5

no you dont wish that.. you just want the mil the be different.. think about how hurt your husband would be is something happen to her.. and how bad you would feel for wishing it..just try to ignore her.. after all you live so far away.. it must be eaiser for you then those who live in the same town or city as their mil...and she might be a bit jealous.. all the asian women i have seen .. i am jealous off.. they are pretty.. petite.. small framed.. and have a skin complexion you would kill to have.. with long black shiny hair..

Answer 6

The only advise I am going to give you is to NOT let hubby see this question or statement. Does he know you wish death upon his mother, you know the lady that helped bring him into this world and more importantly into your life? So what, she lives far away does it matter what she thinks of you? Grow UP!

Answer 7

I am an American and my husband is from West Africa and i have had trouble with my whole in-law family. I was told to talk to my husband (who is very close to his family and does not want to upset them) and tell him how i felt and give some proof to back up your story. Tell him he needs to fix this problem. If the problem does not get fix it causes problems in marrages. I know it put a big strain on mine. If he want to solve the problem he needs to basicaly say HEY shes my wife, i love her, shes not going anywhere so you need to get along or i wont be able to spend as much time with you. My husband put in, if we have childern dont you want to spend time with them? she will be the one carring for them, and she will control when you can see them. It work. After that my in-laws where fake nice then they got to realy know me and they do like me for me. It took some time and i do have childern know. So talk to him and tell him how you feel and see what you two can do from there.

Answer 8

Whats your question?

You think if your childhood / teenage years / adult years are harsh it teaches you to be wiser? NO that only happens in 1 culture and you know which culture that is.

Answer 9

i understand that you might not like her at all, but come on now, wishing death upon somebody, that's just wrong. and think about what your husband will feel like if his mother passes away. i think it's selfish of you to act that way. I'm all for venting and all, but by my standards and im sure a lot of other people's standards as well, you have gone too far with the death thing. just breathe, and let it go.

Answer 10

Well, you didn't provide us with specific examples of how she is being so mean to you and cannot accept your race, so we can't say whether you are right or wrong. If she is just being plain racist, then yes, she is wrong. But, there may be other reasons why she doesn't like you, and she's just using the race thing as an excuse to dislike you.

Answer 11

That's what you get for marrying someone from a European background. You Asian chicks need to stop hooking up with white guys just 'cause they have money. Try another race....good luck!