Stupid threats if you ask me?

Question

Ok, here it is. My daughter Jolena is 3 and Shes been with me all her life and I just enrolled her in pre school.. Well her "father" lives with his other kids mom and he doesnt work. He eats, sleeps, plays his computer game 24/7 and she does everything for him, she runs the house and she pays his child support to keep him out of jail for 30 days.... He does get to see her but when I dont take her at the snap of thier finger, the kids mom will threaten me t call an attorney and fight for custody. This may be a stupid question, but she cant do that right. And jolena's dad doesnt even have a highschool diploma. Please give me uplifting advice

Answer 1

Youre safe. Allshe can do is threaten and even if she did take you back to court which legally only dad can, they would have to prove with solid evidence that you are unfit to be a mother which is never easy. So call her bluff and see what happens. Tell her youll counter sue for harassment and making threats against you. That should stop her

Answer 2

First of all, you shouldn't be complaining about how lazy and uneducated her dad is. You picked him.

Secondly, it's very difficult for one parent to take custody from another parent. They would have to prove that you are negligent and/or abusive and that leaving the baby with you would be endangering her. My brother went through a custody battle with his ex that lasted nearly three years. At one point, both parents and the child had to see a court appointed psychologist, who interviewed everyone involved and then made a recommendation to the court. The cost of the attorney alone for three years drove my brother into bankruptcy. In the end, he did get custody though so it was worth it.

Getting custody is not as easy as a lot of people think. Tell her to go ahead and call the attorney. He or she will want a retainer of at least $1000 (more or less depending on where you live) up front before they make one phone call or write one letter.

What you should be careful about though is them filing false reports with CPS. It doesn't cost anything to do that and causes lots of aggravation and worry to the custodial parent, which is exactly what they want.

Answer 3

You should not be expected to jump when they want you to pick her up. Set a time and be there. Follow any court orders and if you don't have any you might consider getting visitation legally spelled out.

Unexpected horrible things happen in life and a single mother should spell out (power of attorney) where and by whom her child should be cared for in the event she is unable to.

It is never wise to threaten anyone unless you are prepared to see it through. It's insincere and makes the person look like an idiot. But...you already knew that.

Answer 4

As long as there is set times the father can see the child in the custody papers there should be no problem. And the wife can not sue for custody, only he can, but if he just signs the papers there is not much else you can do but go to court. Check the custody papers first!

Answer 5

Unless there is drug or alcohol addiction, or some sort of abuse on your part chances are you will not lose her. The courts tend to side with the mother 90% of the time... My ex did this too me too..... but he lost !!! Good Luck and don't fall for their "scare tactics". If there is no custody order than you need to get one, then the court will establish the visitation schedule...

Answer 6

Step parents have NO legal right's in a court of law , even if she is standing beside your ex in front of the judge she will be told to sit down she's just an extension to his current family situation she has nothing to do with your child.

I'm sorry but I had to laugh when you wrote she gets angry if you dont come and get your child she'll go for custody , obviously she is very nieve on the whole step mother / step child issues surrounded by court's and I can picture her standing there trying to explain they want custody because well your honour she didnt come get her right on the spot like I ordered her to. lmao god she's a fool.

next time she threatens it look her in the eye and say he may let you be his mummy and support him financially , but you know nothing about the court's so keep yer trap out of it woman and then leave.If she continues just turn and face her calmly and say well go for it , go on take me to court and tell a judge you want custody because I was 5 minutes late the judge will laugh at you , then say nothing after that.

Women like this really peeve me off they're willing to play mum support their men financially and pay to keep them out of jail , supply their video games then you find out their on here whinging and whining their husbands dont do anything and the ex their harrassing has NO idea their even on here lol.

Good luck hun but you dont need it she's to nieve to know the law.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Here's some uplifting advice -

Get over your ex- !!!!!

1) He won't fight you for custody and the state usually sides with the mother anyways.

2) Who cares if he's a lazy bum and mooches off his new gal? and she pays the c/s for him? At least you're rid of him... now quit b*tching about him.

Its bad for your health - if you do it around your daughter - its bad for her self-esteem and her vision of her father (wether it is true or not). Move on, be gald hte bum is someone else's problem now.

3) I'm guessing with all your pent up rage and hate towards your ex-husband, you are just a peach on date night !

Best of luck to you - but get over him......

You're holding yourself back and not helping your child.

Answer 9

Obviously she thinks you're spine less. For her to say that to you. But Do you have a custody arrangement already?? You only have to follow that. Of course anybody can take anybody to court whenever they want. Its her money and time, but as long as you follow your end of the court order you take care of your child, there are no grounds.

Answer 10

she cannot do anything
as you being the biological mother have rights that supercede any she has , and that includes custody issue with your daughter
her threats are empty, do not get rattle by them, be cool and cordial, treat it like a business profession, do not get angry, justr be cool clam and collect
should HE ( your ex ) take you to court he will have to explain himself and his current situation to the court, and unemployment will be a big strike against him
keep in mind in family court emotional outbursts look bad on the person who does it, and she will not be allowed in on the proceedings