How do i Juggle working in a Full time demanding job with, two young children and housework.?

Question

I am a fulltime working mother, who is struggling to juggle my busy life. I have two demanding Children, a demanding job and a greay hobbie i just dont want to give up. how do i fit in the housework???????????????? Oh yes and i have a husband who thinks sitting watching the tv or on the computer is helping. LOL
HELP PLEASE

Money is an issue, so a cleaner is out. and my kids get all the attention they require, thats why i dont have time to get the housework done

Answer 1

Your husband needs to step up to the plate and do his part. I hate to say this but because you put a "LOL" in your question it looks like you're not on hios case enough. There's no LOL humor in this. Especially when you're sleep deprived and running on empty.

My suggestion would be to ask your husband to do certain tasks. Or that you have a rotating schedule to do stuff like unloading the dishwasher, cleaning the bathroom, etc.
He should always be in charge of taking out the garbage (for some reason, guys like doing this, don't ask me why!).
Or put him in charge and ask him to come up with a plan so the two of you can manage your family and house together. He's the CEO of the household (we'll let him believe that he is...) and he should be your family's fearless leader.

You don't say how old your children are. But they might be at an age where they can keep their own rooms in order and do some light chores around the house. If you have a pet, they could be in charge of keeping the pet bowl/ litter box/ bird cage clean - stuff like that.
For great housekeeping tips try www.flylady.net - great tips on how to run things like a tight ship.
Good luck!

Answer 2

It is a hard situation. I also had two young boys, a full time job, and a home to keep organized. It's easy to fit laundry in between other things. You don't say what the hobby is, but maybe the kids can get involved in some way so you are doing both at the same time. Planning meals for the week saves tons of time at the grocery store, and in the kitchen after work. The only way I know of to be able to try to do everything is to multi-task. It's exhausting, but could be worth the effort!

Answer 3

First of all don't be anal about the housework. Don't sweat the small stuff. Teach your children that when they spill something they need to clean it up. If your husband doesn't pitch in, don't feed him. When he wants dinner, tell him to have the television or the computer fix if for him. I even had a sign in my entryway that told people that I was a working mom who felt it was more important to spend her "off time" with her child. Therefore if those entering the home didn't like the mess they encountered in my home they were free to get out the vacumn, the mop, the broom etc and do the housework. You've got to realize that you're not going to be able to do it all so don't even attempt to.

Answer 4

money is not an issue
so you choose NOT to do it
you failed ot mention how old the children are
as children should Never be demanding
after all you are in charge, not them
the problem is you have spoiled them early on
and they know they can make demands and you will cave into them every single time
your children lack structure and duties
hence why it seems you must tackle everything
you have made your own dilemma and yet refuse to do anything about it
why did you take on a full time job for example
to think you can do that, keep a house clean and be with 2 kids is unrealistic
either structure your priorities and assign duties
or go part time
or hire a maid

Answer 5

Does the holder of the remote work? Look in the yellow pages for "Merry Maids" or the equivilent. Or, you can pay somebody to tend to the kids; tax advantages here on a 2441; and get a merry maid to keep the house caught up. If the holder of the remote becomes unhappy over this just remember the following. I have a half dozen sweet daughters who let me live; one daughter asked her siblings, "How can you tell if a man is really happy?". One of her siblings replied, "Who cares?", and they all laughed and rolled around on the floor. Good advice.

Answer 6

set your priorities and make sure your actions match.

there's a saying "No one on his deathbed ever said: "I wish i had spent more time at work"".

I might even add hobby to that depending on your hobby.

It's all about priorities. Neglect your kids and husband now and you will regret it. If the day comes when you're taking your child to drug rehab or picking them up from jail it will be too late to go back and change things. There are no re-dos in real life. That's just for video games.

I wish you well.

Answer 7

Hire a maid service once a week. If Numb Butt complains, tell him if he can't help with the housework . . . he can help write the check for the maid. Stick by your guns. As long as you don't put your foot down, Numb Butt will let you drop dead from exhaustion before he does something . . . you would probably lay there for days before he noticed you had died.

Answer 8

Short answer: you can't.

You really need to get hubby to help out more.

Answer 9

Divorce him and give him custody. Then he'll have to get off the couch and you'll have all the time you need.

Well done Punx, you genius.

Answer 10

hire a housekeeper