I am 29 and never orgasmed. I have had several partners and a few flings and its never happened. I never masturbate and am very self concious in bed and find it hard to relax, always worry what I look like, if theyre looking at my fat belly (after two kids!). Iv been with some very special men and they have been very affectionate and giving, but still nothing. Any ideas??
2007-09-28 10:21:34 · 11 answers · asked by silly_bunch 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
just let all emotions out the window. sex is a time for closeness and intimacy. you shouldnt worry about what you look like. beauty goes way beyond than your refelction in the mirror. If a guy likes or loves you to the point that he wants you in bed, then believe me, he truely believes you are beautiful. im pretty sure you look great. and in the worse case the guy is turned off, then he wasnt that special guy in the first place. so relax, and have fun. and God Speed.
2007-09-28 10:31:20 · answer #1 · answered by Arod 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have answered you own question, you are self conscious and worrying what you look like in bed, you should try to masturbate if will relax you and ultimately you will orgasm.
Remember this when in bed with a woman a guy thinks she is beautiful he would not be there otherwise
2007-09-28 18:15:29 · answer #2 · answered by john h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you were to relax it will just come on its own. I use to have this problem and it was because I was focusing on it to much, I didn't have my first one until 4 months ago. If I were you I would try masturbating and see what feels good to you that way you can tell your partner what you like. Every woman is different so you need to know what feels good to you. It also helps to be with someone you feel very relaxed and comfortable with.
2007-09-28 17:33:34 · answer #3 · answered by candi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Buy something that vibrates, even if it is from a cheesy neck pillow from walmart. (take the mechanism out of the pillow.)
Get some total privacy and get in a sexy state of mind. Use it on you clt.
If you are interrupted you'lll just get frustrated so do find the right time and place. If you don't do it the first time you try you'll think it's you. It's not.
If you get any good response from manual stimlation you can have an O that way.
Just when you are fed up trying on your own is when it will likely work. Trying too hard will always sabotage the result!
But ironically, keep trying!! It will get easier each time.
2007-09-28 17:27:06 · answer #4 · answered by srsly 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
you know what your problem is, you don't relax and you are very self conscious. With those two in bed with you, there is no room for an orgasm. You may have been with some nice guys, but you didn't trust them. Why women go to bed with men they don't ultimately trust is beyond me. But you will never relax and be unselfconscious until you do totally trust your bed partner. That means, you know he is seeing your beauty and not your flabby belly or whatever else you obsess about in your own mind.
2007-09-28 17:27:16 · answer #5 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
That definitely sounds like a psychological thing. You can't orgasm, because you're too self conscious to enjoy what's going on. If you are really with someone who cares about you, talk to him about it. Tell him how you feel so he can find ways to show you he thinks you're beautiful. Once that happens, you'll be able to relax and enjoy! Good luck!
2007-09-28 17:26:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just reellaaaxxx! Don't worry about things like that, if you fall in love with someone and they love you for who you are then that's all that matters. It may be frustrating, but you'll have to work through it. Try masterbauting, that should relax you more and make you more comfortable around a sexual partner.
2007-09-28 17:28:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find a real man a guy that loves you for you. Stop trying out patners. Get married and relax the orgasams will come like crazy
2007-09-28 17:26:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
do u have the massage jets on ur shower head? well if u dont get one! its awesome it will be the best orgasm u will ever have!!!!!
2007-09-28 17:26:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
let your man carress you good before sex or let him fingeryou, that feels so good, it will make you argasm soon when he enter you
hope this help
2007-09-28 17:27:43 · answer #10 · answered by adjegan a 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋