i know u'll say "this is not Eman who says this" but this is she.
according to Rana n gigi's questions about rapped girls,
would any of u guys marry a rapped girl if u know she's innocent?
always men want to marry a virgin, and ofcourse he'll be sure of it later but for a girl, how will she know that he had never gone into a forbidden relation before ?
and why its allowed for guys - not all tab3an and not in Islam - to have these relations before marriage and moreover become proud of doing this?
this may be deleted i know
2007-09-28 10:20:02 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Travel ➔ Africa & Middle East ➔ Egypt
@ All
sorry for not thumbing up ur answers u know am still level 1
2007-09-28 10:32:09 · update #1
I will marry her without any hesitation if I love her , without discussion or even knowing the details ,we are just people why we would judge others, we have to presume others innocent till proves opposite ,it is very simple
edit :Ok Eman let me answer the rest; sorry but I think people exaggerate a little we were created as Humans we are not angles God forgives so who I am ,not to forgive, I would get married to a woman who is not virgin if she did a mistake and decided to take the straight road later, (if I love her) I can not even believe that we are discussing this subject, (well lots of young answerer will not accept that, as this subject (sex, relations....etc)is very huge to them, As for men,/ what goes for women goes for men, that is God religions, that is the logic, that is the common sense
Moonrise :I am surprised ,, you said …and she tells him that she was raped, it is up to him to forgive her or leave….. A man FORGIVE her that she was a victim ,???!!!!,, I can not even believe what I read…and it comes from a girl…...Yarab ar7amna (mafesh faydah)
2007-09-28 10:29:14 · answer #1 · answered by Zoser 6 · 7⤊ 2⤋
Im not a man but I have to say... everytime I get to this egyptian section I get more sick... what is going on here? I have known so many egyptian men and I have to say this disgusting behavior I have never seen... what is this men can have sex before marriage but women cannot? I mean seriously do these ppl honestly thing GOD says oh men you have sex and be immoral its ok but you women have to stay innocent? UM also how does a woman being raped make her any less innocent? I wish every person who believe in this madness would die tomorrow so some evil in this world would be done away with.
edit: moonrise you must be brainwashed i feel sorry for you. Why dont you pick up a bible and try reading it
edit: zoser thank goodness we have someone smart here :)
2007-09-29 03:16:35 · answer #2 · answered by Halawa 5 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Halawa: for sure there are many of us that don't want us or our children to be raised in a society with the mentality of some of the answerer's in this section, this maybe one of the reasons that we keep answering these questions, trying to educate or rather stop the indoctrination of cultural, Wahhabi's or salafi literal translations of religion.
zoser and others gave good answers to your question Eman, thats why i didnt expand
2007-09-29 07:19:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Well, if the raped girl was my fiance or the girl that I love, definitely I will marry her without hesitation.
If the raped girl is someone whom I don't know, I would marry her only in two cases:
1- If that will save her life
2-If that will avoid her from torturing by her family
Fadel eih delwa2tee?........... il baby hane3mel feeh eih lama yegee!!!!, maybe that will overturn the situation, and maybe not.
Rabbena yesame7kom 3ala essou2al dah, badal man salee qyam il leil, a3deen nefakkar fil bint wel baby hane3mel fihom eih
2007-09-28 18:05:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
The woman is more important to be taken care of. She is going to be the mother and the mother is more important for building a healthy community. You can imagine a family with a bad father and compare it with a family of bad mother. A kid may continue his life without problems even if his father is not a good father, but it's more difficult for that kid to live his life normally if he had a bad mother.
Women get pregnant and responsible to select the good man to be a father for the future kids. Which means no mix of fathers. Imagine if a woman had a relation just 1 day before marriage and then she give birth to a child after marriage, what kind of problem we'll find here.
Beside all of that. The man's feeling is not much affected or connected to relations before marriage. I mean not in the same level the woman may feel. This is nature of men and women.
In all cases it's forbidden and it's a sin for both men and women.
2007-09-29 01:44:20 · answer #5 · answered by Wise Heart 7 · 1⤊ 7⤋
akhreeen we2fety fe saf el banat
akhreen el7amed Allah
ana begad mabsootaa gedn enek we2fty fe saf el banat
el7amed Allah
anyway i dispise boys that really go in relations with girls and i will never marry one and if i knew after marriage the divorce will be the easiest way
2007-09-28 17:29:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
yes it's okay, with me at least, I don't mind marrying a raped girl at all.
2007-09-29 10:44:15 · answer #7 · answered by Psycho 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's a very good Q .... i think the majority of middle eastern men will not marry the raped girl why ... that our culture ... me if she innocent i ll marry her of cource ....
2007-09-29 15:49:41 · answer #8 · answered by khaled e 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
in our culture , a girl has to be a virgin till she marries.
God has made this fact evident bec He has provided her with a proof of virginity which a man lacks.
a man shouldnt have a relation before marriage. but if he has, he can ask for God's forgiveness , and get married without being discovered.
so, it is the physical nature of the girl that demands this proof of cleanliness.
if a man and a woman fall in love , and she tells him that she was raped, it is up to him to forgive her or leave her. it is a decision he has to make.
2007-09-28 17:35:47 · answer #9 · answered by Moonrise 7 · 1⤊ 8⤋