I am married for about five years.My problem is my husband receiver rather than giver,Sometimes it annoys me ,especially in case of oral sex he is receiving it but i dont .I want him to do it as well.I dont know why he is not doing it.I think i am guite pretty and clean I mean in hygienic way but i dont know what is a problem or how i can solve it? Are there any males who are not doing it if yes then why?
2007-09-28 09:53:54 · 18 answers · asked by lovebird 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I told him but he is not doing it anyway
2007-09-28 09:56:01 · update #1
Does he have experience with it? Some guys are intimidated 'cuz they don't know exactly what to do, or they have been criticized for their technique (or lack thereof). Ask him to do it, and if he hesitates ask why. The problem is not you or your hygiene. Compliment him, soothe his ego, be willing to show and teach.
2007-09-28 10:09:23 · answer #1 · answered by Centaur 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried guiding his head there as you are doing him, 69 is a great position with you on top sucking and licking while he does the same from underneath. Besides in that position he can look and and play with your a s s, caress you boobs and generally get very turned on and horny.
Another thing you could try is both of you get naked in bed and as he starts doing things to you, roll over on top of him in a sitting position, then just slide yourself to his mouth, He has a choice then lick or suffocate.
If that position doesn't work then the two of you need to sit down have have a very serious conversation, when you're not all hot and bothered. Ask him straight out why. Perhaps he doesn't feel experienced enough or is a little afraid of the taste or some other thing that never crossed your mind.
Personally I agree with another one of the guys who answered your question, I love the position and would much rather give than recieve in that situation. Besides I can control her orgasm that way much better.
Good Luck
2007-09-28 10:17:55 · answer #2 · answered by Cliff R 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
basically an older technology's attitude - and that i would be shifting on, ok? possibly not a solid thought to have youngsters with this guy precise now, if he isn't being cooperative. yet once you do, be attentive to that existence receives extra advantageous as you develop up. you should start up with the aid of giving one yet another permission to desire what you like. Then, because of the fact marriage isn't comparable to relationship, it is recommended to pass lower back to first base a whilst. I guess he can study to get you off, if he's conscious of what he's making an attempt to examine.
2016-10-20 06:04:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well whats good for the goose is good for the gander ......
Either he steps up and goes out to eat at the Y once in a while, or your tounge hockey with the trouser snake should come to an end.
I guess some guys just don't liek to do it - others are just selfish. I actually prefer to give - I could stay downtown shopping for hours if she would let me :)
Talk to him about again and let him know its a two way street or he road will be closed in BOTH directions !!!
2007-09-28 09:59:49 · answer #4 · answered by aa889d 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I enjoy it, however some men have a problem with the taste, smell etc. Be up front with him, ask him why he doesn't want to give. If it is something related to the taste or smell, suggest getting some flavored lubrication which can calm the taste and smell.
If he is just in it for him, then cut off the fun, no nothing until he starts returning the favor. Its a give and take relationship, it shouldn't be one sided.
2007-09-28 10:57:13 · answer #5 · answered by ckcool192000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have always enjoyed giving. Even more than receiving. But I have worked with guys who just turn inside out at the thought of giving. I mean they turn green. There is no way they are putting their mouth there. I guess you got one of those. All you can do is talk to him about it.
2007-09-28 11:50:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys do have a phobia about it that I just don't understand, some IT'S NASTY! IT'S THIS IT'S THAT, you will need to get him good and drunk and ask him that's probably your only hope to find out what him problem is. He may may not think he is doing it to your liking if that's it offer to talk him thru it. (you can teach an old dog new tricks)
2007-09-28 16:04:40 · answer #7 · answered by Al 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say - but I don't think you can force your partner to provide you oral sex, the feeling's gotta be mutual. Otherwise, you can either stay happy with your partner for just being who he is or else you've got a real problem in your relationship.
2007-09-28 10:20:57 · answer #8 · answered by Belle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW!!! WOW!! ....I really can't tell you what to do your husband should want to make you happy and I would certainly tell him that its a problem for me ...there are condoms available for oral sex its called a dental dam if thats such an issue ....but if he can't give he wouldn't receive simple as that ...I guarantee once he starts he wont be able to stop ...
2007-09-28 10:11:24 · answer #9 · answered by meka33311 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a man who does all the giving, and not getting the recieving. I am not afraid of going down to the *** hole where it is driving her crazy. I am trying everything I can to get her to go down on me, she just refuses. I spend hours going back and forth to show her is not nasty. she loves it, she finishes before i do, and then she's done. no more for the night. I get very frustrated.
Maybe we need to hook up and we both get what we won't.
you wouldn't regret it........
2007-09-28 12:19:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋