Am a male and I stutter a bit and that effects my personal life with women what can I do?

Question

Stuttering problem shy around women

Answer 1

See if you can be referred to a speech therapist by your doctor. People who mock you are very cruel. You will meet someone special one day x

Answer 2

I am anxious and I'll have to stammer to get my message across. The main thing is if you know what you're saying and understand it's a part of your natural way to talk then just develop confidence. What helped me is working on my english- I've been getting by on a sup par reading and writing level for sometime. Understanding how to speak english properly could benefit you. Also I try to participate in activities that force me to talk to people like the things at community centers and charity events.
With my friends, I stammer with my words but I know my intelligence is okay so I dont let it bother my that I have an anxiety problem with speaking and it doesn't seem to bother anybody if it doesn't bother me.
You can get some good practice with women if you go to meetup.com. Sign up for a singles group and they'll have weekend parties. The men and women are generally friendly and quick to engage in conversation no matter your level of shyness. Good luck.

Answer 3

Getting the book "Self Therapy for the Stutterer" and working through it step by step helped my uncles and cousins. It is published by The Stuttering Foundation of America and is available in their estore www.stutteringhelp.org

Answer 4

Gosh, do not worry so much! Relax......... the right girls will not mind. Personally speaking, it does not matter that a guy stutters a bit. It is the person inside that I am with... not the speaking ability okay? The heart shines through way more than anything!! Just be yourself..............you are harder on yourself than many girls will be. Remember that.

Answer 5

Use it to your advantage, I use to stutter and always made humor out of it, worked well both in professional and personal life. Never Never apologize.

Answer 6

When you focus on the girl you will lose some of your self consciousness; stuttering is not unappealing or unattractiive, and as another responder said, never, ever apologize. use it, incorporate it, and slow down when you speak...girls will find this attractive and appealing and will want to help you. Make it an asset instead of a liability...and focus on the other person; that will help tremendously.


You're in excellent company:

Bruce Willis, James Earl Jones (voice of Darth Vader), Winston Churchill, Lewis Carroll (Alice in Wonderland), Greg Luganis, Olympic diver; Lester Hayes, former Los Angeles Raider; John Updike, novelist; Annie Glenn, wife of astronaut and Senator John Glenn; Carly Simon, singer; Mel Tillis, country western singer; Jake Eberts, "Gandhi" producer; Jack Welsh, President of GE; Bo Jackson, football and baseball star; John Stossel, TV reporter for ABC's "20/20"; John Menendez, rock singer; John Larkin, American jazz musician; and Bill Walton, NBC Sports commentator.

The stories of James Earl Jones and John Larkin merit further exposition. James Earl Jones, the voice of Darth Vadar in the Star Wars movies and the voice of CNN, is the most in demand voice in Hollywood. Although most people think of James Earl Jones as a 'former' stutterer, he still stutters rather noticeably when speaking spontaneously. As an actor, he has developed situational fluency when playing a role. (Many stutterers experience temporary fluency when enacting a role.)

Stuttering does not have to be a deterrent to success. There are many famous and successful people throughout history who stuttered. The history of famous stutterers can be traced back all the way to biblical times. Moses is believed to have been a stutterer. In Koran, 20:26-29 Moses said "Lord, open my breast, and do Thou ease for me my task, Unloose the knot upon my tongue, that they may understand my words." The analogy of a knot upon his tongue refers to his stuttering.

Other famous stutterers from the ancient past are Demosthenes, Aesop, Claudius, Balbus Blaesius, Aristotle, Isaac Newton, Charles Canon Kingsley, Cotton Mather and Lewis Carroll. Demosthenes, the greatest orator of ancient Greece worked very hard to improve his speaking skills. He practiced speaking with pebbles in his mouth in an attempt to improve his articulation and shouted above the ocean waves to increase his voice volume.

Aesop, Greek author of fables, was a stutterer from infancy. As a young adult the Goddess of Hospitality appeared to him in a dream and gave him the gift of speech. He then became the master storyteller he is remembered as.

The Roman emperor Claudius may have exaggerated his stuttering as a young man to avoid being murdered by enemies seeking his place in line to the throne. Balbus Blaesius is another Roman who stuttered severely. He was an 'exhibit' in a 'freak show' which displayed him locked in a cage. People would give him coins to stutter. His last name, Blaesius, is now the Italian word for stuttering.

The famous philosopher Aristotle had an inaccurate conception of the cause of stuttering. He thought it was caused by a malfunctioning tongue.

Isaac Newton, the English scientist who developed the law of gravity, asked that the windows of Parliament be closed so the public would not hear his stuttering. Another famous English stutterer is Charles Canon Kingsley. He was a nineteenth-century orator, writer and chaplain to Queen Victoria. He had a rather unusual recommendation for treating stuttering. His recommendation was to eat a 'manly' diet of beef and beer.

Cotton Mather was an author, a leader of the Puritans, and a prosecutor of the Salem witch trails. The first book he wrote was on stuttering in America. Mr. Mather tried many methods to treat his stuttering, some successful, speaking in a drawling or sing-sing fashion, and some unsuccessful, such as fasting and prayers.

The well-known author of Alice in Wonderland, Lewis Carroll hoped to become a priest but was not allowed to because of his stuttering. He wrote the following poem which mentions stuttering:

Learn well your grammar,
And never stammer,
Write well and neatly,
And sing soft sweetly,
Drink tea, not coffee;
Never eat toffy.
Eat bread with butter.
Once more don't stutter.

Answer 7

read poetry outloud like get a book and read it out loud it will erase it but not immediatly

Answer 8

Hope that you have a large penis.