Do most people REALLY enjoy having and raising kids?

Question

It seems to me that wherever I go, there are screaming kids and parents who are at their wits end. Most people I can think of have kids because they were "mistakes" or because they are just going with the flow. Don't people think about overpopulation? Or that most marriages are not going to work out. Or really think about their motives for having kids, and what kind of parent they will be? I just feel badly for all these kids who have lousy lives with parents who don't give them boundaries and are put on Ritilan because they want them to shut up and have children as parents, etc.

Answer 1

I will be 36 tomorrow. I have 3 kids.2 BIOS and 1 step. My biological kids are only 13 months apart.Yes I was young and married and We were military at the time.My son was born basically 1 month before my 18th b'day.And My daughter was Born The next year in Sept.A few days before my 19Th B'day.I loved it!! I loved raising my babies and I love Raising My step son.I did not plan neither of my kids.I was on Birth control and to ignorant at the time to realize antibiotics could cancel my pills out.So God gave me 2 beautiful surprises.My son was rowdy and loud when he was younger But he was always respectful.YOU get out of a child what U put in.Raise them right and to be well rounded.My 18 is finished high school(jumped 2 grades ) and This is my daughters last year of high school.All parents need to raise their children with respect and boundaries.I have seen so many that I wanted to jerk up and shake and ask why did u ppl breed?!!! Disruley children are actually quiet sad when U think of it.But as long as there is sex, ppl will breed.To bad they do not have test before u breed to see if u qualify! That would be awesome!!LOL.So many ppl have kids and shouldn't.Children are wonderful and are a blessing.I see Ur point though, as I said ,,U get out what u put in.If u teach Ur child morals and manners great,If u let them roam free and act as heathens,,That is what u will get as an adult.

Answer 2

I do. I enjoy it very much.

Just because kids scream in the stores and the parents get inpatient doesn't mean that they are constantly like that at home.

Most of the time kids are screaming in stores because they want something and the parents do not want to buy it for them.

Every child is loving, every parent has a part in their hearts for their children.

It's true-people simply don't think about overpopulation-that's not what living is about. Worry about everything else and your life will not be joyous... live your life for you. You want kids, have them. You want to get married, get married, if you want to live in a shell by yourself for the rest of your life, then do it. You make your own decisions.

All I'm saying, is that yes, there are parents that should definitely not be parents, and who probably are NOT parents in the sense that they are simply people who gave birth but are not parenting the child. It's very unfortunate, but if the world were perfect what would YOU have left to complain about?

Answer 3

I did not plan to become a parent. I especially preferred not to have children. My only child was a surpise, and was born while I was married, but the marriage did not last. I took responsibility for rearing my daughter and for ensuring that I was not taken by surprise again. I reared my daughter, now an adult, without help from the time she was four months old. While parenting was not in my plan and not every moment was rosy or fun, and certainly not easy, childrearing is, in my experience, the most rewarding of all human endeavors. I wouldn't trade anything for the experience, and my daughter has become a woman that amazes even me.

Answer 4

i have 3 myself... i was a young single parent of twin girls for many yrs.
now i am married, the girls are 13, and i have a 2yr old as well...

life is not easy, the first ones i was very young, not ready and did the best i could, and learned a lot along the way.i think i am better mom now, i have learned lots of life lessons....

and most do not think of future consequences of their actions at that age.. i know i did not... now i do, because my actions will effect not only myself, but my husband and 3 girls...

Answer 5

Well sometimes kids can get rough,that's why parents hate that! but some parents,in their hearts love their child,even though their terrable to raise,but sometimes (when their quiet!) they can learn more about their child and how to raise it more.They learn to be better parents!