we recently had a a friend coming and stayingg with us home and he is 78 years old (a widower staying alone). during his stay he always preferred chatting with my wife but one day when i came home i found the old man hugging and carressing my wife on bed. i asked my wife about this and she told me that one day when she came from bath with a only towel around her, he just pulled it off and started hugging her. begging her he pushed her to the bed and started fondling her but couldnt perform as he was not able to. my wife felt pitty for him and allowed him whenever he felt so (he only fondled and not perform).ihe too confessed to me that he was feeling comfort staying with us and begged me not to send away. too felt sad for the poor man as he had no other way at this age. is it wrong to provide a comfort to an old man about to die?
2007-09-28 09:26:23 · 24 answers · asked by orangeman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's nothing but a dirty old man. I wouldnt allow wrinkly old fingers to touch my body...thats gross. I have this picture in my head of what he was doing and omg its not a pretty sight. Unless you stand to inherit a lot of his money then I dont understand why your wife would allow it. If he knows he can do what he wants with your wife's body, then he will do it again. He needs to know what he has done is unacceptable and I wouldnt have him in my home. He's just a dirty old perv.
2007-09-28 09:35:19 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is this for real? Sounds like a story out of Geriatric Penhouse Forum !!!!
If you are serious - I would say that only you and your wife can decide what is / is not allowed within the context of your marriage.
I'd be careful. How do you KNOW he can't perform? He might be on the little blue pill.
How do you know that your wife doesn't / won't begin to enjoy caressing / touching / fondling to the actual act of sex with you. Especially if he is meeting some emottional need in your wife that you are not living up to, he could easily dispalce you as her "prefered" intimate partner.
She gets what she wants / needs "emotional connection", without having to complete the act. He gets what he needs (i.e. as much as he can get at his age). You get left with your right hand and a jar of lube......
Good luck - but I think your playing with fire !
2007-09-28 16:34:24 · answer #2 · answered by aa889d 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My question is, if in the same exact situation, your friend was 38 and was about to die from some disease, would you be so generous with your wife? I am not here to judge the situation but I think that, if this is true, you are allowing this, due to the security of, that you think it will not go any further, due to his age. I just don't think you'd be so generous if it were a younger man, and who knows, this man could live another 20 yrs. Are you willing to continue what you have started for another 20 or so years?
2007-09-28 16:42:49 · answer #3 · answered by Needtoknow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes this kind of comfort is wrong for him, your wife , and you , know matter how old he is , even if he is dying , it is wrong , he may be 78 but not dead yet, if I were fixing to die I think fondling someone would be the last thing on my mind , God says if we look at someone in a lusting way , we might as well have been with them. if I were you and your wife I would have to ask the man to leave . it sounds like I am uncaring but really I am not but right is right . this would be an insult to me if I was trying to help someone and that is the thanks I got . good luck to you all , and pray alot.
2007-09-28 17:04:13 · answer #4 · answered by lilsis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is discusting first off!! but if you are okay with some old man fondling your wife than so be it but thats gross. yuck yuck yuck my husband would be pissed and i would have kicked him out the first time he tried to touch me. why would you feel sorry for a perverted old man that just wants to use your wife as a sex toy
2007-09-28 16:38:21 · answer #5 · answered by stt143 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, no. That's your wife and both of them should know better. How do you know when he's going to die. They told us my grandmother wouldn't make it 2 months. That was 3 years ago. He's an old perv who is using his age as an excuse. Who cares if he can't preform, Old Balls! Gross.
2007-10-01 11:25:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though I don't believe a word of your story, I'll answer since it was so nicely written....... I don't think there is anything in the world wrong with giving the old guy a little comfort. :-)
2007-09-28 16:36:42 · answer #7 · answered by meagain 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's way too inappropriate, in my mind...
And a little weird.
He wants to fondle on your wife??? Doesn't that disturb you a bit?
2007-09-28 16:35:46 · answer #8 · answered by darkening_hope 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong to provide comfort, but to provide your naked body to rub on and fondle???? That crosses the line.
2007-09-28 16:32:49 · answer #9 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Goodness, you can comfort him, give him company, a nice warm room, food etc.
but fondling your wife?.
that is tooo creeeepy. and I wouldn't allow it.
2007-09-28 16:32:25 · answer #10 · answered by JUST ME M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋