I had to leave town for 8 months and when i came back he had another woman, how do i win his love back?
2007-09-28 08:58:31 · 22 answers · asked by smilez13 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
why would u want someone who does not want you>>>
He has moved on
time for you to move on
2007-09-28 09:04:17 · answer #1 · answered by sunbun 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to?
Move on to finding someone else in your life because even if you manage to "get" him back by this so called winning as you put it - what's the actual "prize" you're ending up with?
Obviously he cheated on you even if you were gone for 8 months (why you don't say) - but 8 months may seem an eternity for some, it's really not a long time to remain faithful. Think about that when being married to him for a life-time.
2007-09-28 16:04:45 · answer #2 · answered by Tinker B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say this...But when you love someone you wait for them...You don't use their not being there with you as an excuse for cheating or getting involved with a third person.
Your husband sounds like an immature and selfish man.
I think that your desire to gain your husband back is unhealthy. Perhaps you think you love him; or perhaps it's a matter "face" or ego,,,you just want him to leave the other woman...I don't know. And why would you want him near, anyway? I don't understand your position.
I do think you should invest some time and money and go to therapy so you can deal with your issues ASAP. The faster you heal yourself, the better,. Good luck.
2007-09-28 16:48:52 · answer #3 · answered by Nena S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you can win him back depending on the way you will play your game. First is to talk to you husband, don't raise any voice, angry, etc. Don't show angry towards the other woman neither. After you talk to your husband and know what you have to do( bear in mind that you have to do your responsibility as wife) talk to the other woman politely. Don't accuse her for what she do even if she would resist to be with your husband. Tell her what had happen between you and your husband that caused him to start dating. Remember you have upper hand in the house, and don't give you man a change to be with the other woman. Don't stock your husband neither to keep him away from doing what he wants to do. At long last, she might figure out that its time to pack up or your husband would let her go. Take the opportunity to repair your marriage at that time.
2007-09-28 16:29:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is bizarre. I'm sure you two were in contact with each other. Did you not notice anything before you came back? If you left for 8 months and didn't even call, I'm sure he did find another woman. You need to provide more details about what happened before you can get any decent advice.
2007-09-28 16:05:53 · answer #5 · answered by Sway 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to get back with your husband if you went out of town for 8 months and came home to find him with another woman. If he loved you or even if he was in love with you he would have not been sowing his oats. get over this and move on.
2007-09-28 16:36:41 · answer #6 · answered by mmurray001 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey i dont think u should go back to him and try to find love again. i think u should just hold ur head up high, b a confident independent woman, and show him that u understand the situation even tho u dont like it and that u dont need him! but if u do REALLY want him back then.......i guess u could try to talk to him and tell him wats goin on and if theres anythin left unsaid. but i think u should take time to view ur options and mayb u might find an EVEN better guy who loves and respects u because pretend u if u do get back together, who says he wont cheat on u again? have u ever heard i will survive by gloria gaynor? well if u havent get the song and the lyrics. to u it might seem silly but i think it will help. just reflect on them. i will pray for u and good luck.
ps: keep ur friends close.
2007-09-28 16:10:34 · answer #7 · answered by Andy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well does he care for her, or was it just a something to occupy his time.
I was away from home for a long time. I met a girl and we had a physical relationship.
My wife knew about it, and the girl knew I was married. Neither I or my wife were virgins when we married so it wasn't like I had given away anything. Just another name on the list of people I slept with.
If he has feeling for her, it may be tough to win him back, just do what you did to get him the first time.
2007-09-28 16:07:51 · answer #8 · answered by Jon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for him, he obviously was thinking it was over and he was very lonely. Now that doesn't excuse what he did however what you need to do is show him that you still love him and you still care. I have been there (on his side) I know what he did and why he did it but trust me we are like cats we go to where we can get attention. Get interested in his life again and don't smother him just be a friend just like when you got married. It will work I promise
2007-09-28 16:06:23 · answer #9 · answered by allmine227 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
None -
People in a good marriage will not leave for 8 months nor will they cheat on each other - move on!
2007-09-28 16:05:51 · answer #10 · answered by Professional in FL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. You obviously didn't have it in the first place. Move on. If he wasn't happy it would have happened in time anyway so don't put the blame on yourself for leaving town.
2007-09-28 16:12:29 · answer #11 · answered by girly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋