2007-09-28 08:51:55 · 28 answers · asked by Chris C 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You just do-----when it gets to be too much--then you try and talk though it.
2007-09-28 09:22:41 · answer #1 · answered by eeyoree rocks2003 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that you think you are married to the wrong person.
First I wonder, why do you think so? Cause at some time you must have loved her or you would not have married her.
Are the differences that big that you can't solve them?
I suggest that you two talk to a marriage counselor first and if you still think you are married to the wrong person after that then by all means talk to her and get a divorce.
2007-09-30 13:39:36 · answer #2 · answered by Y'Luna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting a divorce isn't always an option. People will tell you to do that thinking it is the only solution. Was this person right when you married but changed through the years? That happens a lot, in fact happened to me, we both changed. Once children are in place it changes things. Divorce isn't just "breaking up" like when you are just dating. I would say get counseling, find out what happened. If after that then go from there.
2007-09-28 15:58:08 · answer #3 · answered by just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they may not be the wrong person, it may be that u both just have no problem solving skills. perhaps therapy would shed a different light on the problems. most marriages would be better if both parties could work out the problems instead of always being mad and working against one another. when u leave a relationship because of problems u never seem to learn how to cope and will have the same problems over and over again with someone new. staying and working it out does mature u alot better than leaving.
2007-09-28 15:57:45 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its always said that take your time to know exactly what your getting yourself into before tying a knot. If you marry a wrong one, you get burned. However one might not be knowing how s/he hurts another unless you all communicate to each other about your problem. Talk to each other openly how you feel, what you hate to see the other doing, how you like the other one and things to be. Perhaps there might be a change for that person to change her/his behavior. Some people takes one unforgetable hard hit to realise there wrongs, learn from it and change. If you have tried all that you can do and there is no result, sit down and agree to go separate ways and see how the what the world holds out there for you
2007-09-28 16:02:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your in with 75 % of the other married couples, after you marry the thrill dies. Your getting use to them and we all have bad habits that we just seem to not let show until I do is said and then we let it all hang out. I have never seen a couple that loves everything about the person they married , they don't pick up after themselves , they aren't good lovers and you are stuck , so just overlook what you don't like and enjoy what you do like. No body is perfect , if you want a perfect person don't get married.
2007-09-28 16:01:28 · answer #6 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cope by getting out of the marriage. You aren't only cheating yourself but also the other person. both of you deserve to be with a person that loves you, not copes with you. Get out, let him/her go. Its better to be single and happy then married and misserable.
2007-09-28 15:56:24 · answer #7 · answered by Maalru3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think you married the wrong person then get a divorce so you can both move on with you lives.
2007-09-28 16:06:21 · answer #8 · answered by tjmoore83102 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try counseling, try rekindling the love you had. If it doesn't work, just divorce. It is hard, ppl hate it and will critizize you for it, but don't worry about that. It's the way YOU want to spend the rest of your life, misery or possible happiness. Try the first 2 suggestions first and don't make ANY rash decisions. Divorce is rough, whether you know it's right or wrong!
2007-09-28 15:58:31 · answer #9 · answered by Ginger 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am torn with this one completely. You took the time to date this person for a while, then you took the time to ask them to marry you and now you are saying its the wrong person? Perhaps you should have thought of that BEFORE you got married. You have two choices, either work on this relationship and stick with it (Dr. Phil's Relationship Rescue comes to mind and counseling!!!) OR divorce this person and move on so this person can get with someone who does love them, and properly!
2007-09-28 15:56:51 · answer #10 · answered by iamroxi 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Be sure that she really is the wrong person or if there is something you can do to improve the relationship.
Try counseling if you think there is still a future.
If this is not working then I would definitely consider a divorce.
Good luck!
2007-09-28 16:03:56 · answer #11 · answered by ruebezahl2001 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋