Why do certain ppl obsess over whether youre having a girl or boy?

Question

Since the first time I told my sister-in-law about my pregnancy uptil now she keeps saying over and over again to me, and behind my back to my sister that i'm having a boy. She's so bloody obsessed that its annoying me BIG TIME. She finds reasons about how my pregnancy is going (like commenting on my skin and body) to confirm im having a boy. Apparantly, according to her my skin looks dead and i dont have a big bump, so im having a boy, which is such BS, because my haemoglobin level is 11.9 and my midwife commented on how healthy i look. The thing is the two most important ppl in this pregnancy (my husband and i) dont care whether our baby is a girl or boy, so why is she compulsively going on about it? Because she keeps going on about it, its making me feel uncomfortable like everyone expects a boy of me, which is so stupid, but its how i feel when she says these things.

Yes i think one or two of you have mentioned she may be jealous, i feel this too because she has 2 girls and i think she regrets not trying for a boy while she had the chance.

Answer 1

Oh tell me about it,everyone kept telling me that this time i was having a girl and it convinced me that much that it was a girl it gutted me when i had my 20 week scan and found out it was another boy.
Deep down i knew i was having a boy i even kept on dreaming that i was having another boy but i didnt listen to my instinct because all these people was telling that this means it a girl and that means its a girl im carrying like im having a girl.
So it didnt help because deep down i wanted a girl this time so i had one of each.
You should have seen the look on everyones face's when i said it was a boy.

Im really happy to be having another boy nowand i cant wait to meet him but having everyone convincing me it was a girl didnt help when i found out it wasnt a girl and in fact another boy.

Answer 2

Makes you want to have a girl out of spite, doesn't it?

I think Ruth and I have the same mother-in-law! My MIL was heartbroken over the fact that we're having a girl. She was sure all the ultrasounds and the amnio were wrong! Feeling like Princess Diana (only good for an heir and a spare!) I finally confronted her about it and she said that she just wanted me to have the mother-son bond she and my husband have (which seems to be all in her mind anyway), and she wants the 'family name' (meaning, my FIL and husband's first and last name) carried on. Uh, no way. One, the name is already being carried on by a nephew, two, it's a very common name, three, I gave up MY name for crying out loud and four, my husband hated having the exact same name as his dad and would never do that to a son.

There are lots of girls in my family (I have all aunts and out of six cousins, four are female) and my grandmother clearly favored the boys (even though they didn't carry her last name). I used to think it's a generational thing but now I see that some people just have a preference for one sex over the other -- usually male. When women do it, I suspect there may be some self-loathing at work -- they may not like females themselves and so subconsciously think a boy would be better.

Answer 3

I don't know what race or culture you are but many people obsess about having a boy because of keeping the name going. Like my Italian husbands family was the same way and when we did in fact have a boy the other cousin was grateful because the pressure was off of them to have the 1st boy with our last name. I guess to the girls half it does not really matter because they loose their name at marriage (traditionally). If that is not the case then she is just trying to prove that she is right on her prediction. I would want to have a girl just to prove her wrong hehehe, just kidding. Don't worry about her and have a great pregnancy! It only gets worse as people start touching your belly constantly right up at the end when all you want is to be left alone. HORAY FOR BABIES!

Answer 4

wow...im kind of in the same boat. Im 22 weeks pregnant with my second. I have a 2 1/2yr old girl and my MOTHER IN LAW has been obsessing about me having a boy since my first. Even before we found out the gender of this baby (which I didn't even want to know anyways) she was already buying me "blue" clothes and a Blue spinner and a Blue swing. She told my husband she prayed everynight to God to please let me have a boy this time....like you said it was VERY annoying. Well me and my husband didn't care what the gender was, we where just happy our baby was healthy and perfect.....Last week we where told boy at the u/s, of course she was ecstatic....but now she's saying dumb things like "are you sure its a boy? there's no mistake right? you saw it?" AAARRRGGHHH! Just completely ignore those shallow people and their shallow comments and enjoy the miracle of pregnancy and of a healthy beautiful child :-)

Answer 5

Just don't stress about it. That's not healthy for you! Just tell her that you'd appreciate it if she'd stop doing that. I'd let her know that she's the only person who cares, and it's not necessary for her to keep at it. I'd tell her, "if it's a boy, great! if it's a girl, great!" And if she then proceeds to say, "But I know it's a boy", just say, "Anyone would have a 50/50 chance at being right. Why do you care so much?" If she gets an attitude about it, then she's obviously way more immature than previously thought. Just ignore her.

Answer 6

It stored telling me i became having a woman. Then I did it an afternoon later and that i became having a boy, later THAT day I did it and without notice i became having a woman back! No certainty to any of those previous different halves thoughts approximately looking out the gender of a teenager, exciting, yet ineffective. exceptionally lots each and each physique of them pointed to a woman! EDIT: the main precise way of understanding gender isn't Ultrasound it rather is Amniocentesis. Ultrasound isn't a hundred%.

Answer 7

i dont get the obssesion either we have a daughter already and the amount of people tht have said oh be so nice to have a boy oh i bet u wood prefer a boy...andim like no as long as its healthy!!!! turns out he is gunna be a boy and now people are drumming it inot my head tht i wont need any more children after this one is born!!!!! im not having anymore but tht cuz of choice if baby was to be a girl then i still wouldnt have any more...makes me sick.
when i was born my dads dad (never called him granddad didnt get on) came into the hospital,looked at me whilst mum was changing nappy and he said.."oh its got something missing" as in i should have been a boy.. he was banned from the hospital during mums stay,and he continued to buy me boys things until my brother came along and he ignored me.

Answer 8

Just ignore her! I had the same off my partners family...so obsessed that we were having a little girl. I got really upset too and burst out in tears the once, I can't believe I let them get to me!

I felt like they expected a girl from me and when I found out he was a little boy on my scan I was sooooo excited (as i would have been either way) but he was my little boy and I was soooooo scared to tell them like they would be disappointed! Silly I know!

Anyway, I'm soooo over them now and totally excited waiting for my little boy to arrive. I just ignore any comments now, like you and your husband should whilst you start getting ready for your special little one!

Good Luck!
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Answer 9

I don't know....but it is very annoying!! I have a five year old son and am nearly 13 weeks pregnant and everyone keeps saying...bet you want a girl, I honestly just want a healthy baby!!! And another girl says i think you're having a boy that will be a shame....oh my GOD!!! I knew i couldn't pick the sex when i planned him/her....is it sooo bad to just want a healthy little baby??? Maybe she is a wee bit jealous as this is very common??

Answer 10

Well your sister does sound a bit pushy and maybe like a know it all. Just tell her Look, we'll eventually find out so just quit it. It is a very important thing because it determines your child's life but sooner or later the time will come when you find out.