How can i not be afraid of doing Sexual things?

Question

I remember when i used to visit my gf.. and i always got really scared to do anything.. IM NOT GAY OR ANYTHING.

Its just really scary can someone plz help me and not be an dkface plz :)

Answer 1

It sounds like you are scared of rejection. Maybe you should ask her what she likes so that you won't be so scared.

Most women like a man to take charge in bed, just don't do anything to strange unless it looks like your lady is into it...

Answer 2

If it scares you then you are not ready for it. I'm happy that you at least have the courage to recognize that.

I know this will sound patronizing, but give it time. As you mature you will gain confidence. As you get to know your gf better you will feel more at ease with her. You may also find out if this is the right person for you.

There is no reason to rush things. That's how people end up with STD's or worse, an unwanted preganancy. Take your time, enjoy being a kid (or young adult) as long as you can. Once you become an adult, there is no turning back. Well, I guess you can, but you end up in the loony bin.

Answer 3

Well here's the thing: you sound like a virgin to me. I have a number of online male friends that live overseas, and it is their culture to stay virgins until marriage. I used to hear they felt sex was scary all the time. The trick is however, to just take things slow. But you say "when i used to visit my g/f." Hell, someone could've walked in on the 2 of you!

But if it's just sex in general, and your g/f WANTS to, just tell her how you feel. She won't make fun of you. Everyone has to be some else's first. And very few virgins knew what they were doing. One thing though -- you'll find once you've had sex, there is nothing to be scared of. Just don't show her porn... 99.9% of women are TOTALLY offended by porn. It would cause a HUGE fight [arguement].

Answer 4

A certain amount of fear is healthy. Sex brings with it loads of responsibility.

Determine what your limits are and stay comfortably inside them. You can learn plenty about pleasing yourself and you partner while observing limitations.

For example, if you decide that there will be no penetration, but you wish to bring your partner to orgasm. Your mission is to discover all the ways that can be accomplished.

Remember, sex is not something you should be pressuring yourself to do. It is a sign of maturity and self respect when you don't jump haphazardly into sex.

My son did not lose his virginity until he was 25 years old. It was his decision to fall in love first. I respect him for that. He was being his own man. It wasn't my teachings or any religion that made him that way.

You have to be you, you can learn a lot about sensuality and pleasure without ever having sex. I have a feeling that you will be an amazing lover when the time comes because you cared enough to wait until you were ready.

Answer 5

You're most likely just nervous about it. You may be worried that she won't be impressed by your manbits or that you won't be the studly sex-machine that she expects.

I suggest that you talk to her about sex, so you get a feel for what she's expecting from you and so that she understands better your level of experience pertaining to it.

Also, I suggest that you try to relax a little more. Most guys are nervous when it comes to performing, but few are willing to admit it. All of your male friends are, or were nervous like you are now at one stage.

Good luck and take it easy! She's a woman, so even if the sex isn't fantastic, she'll still love you as much if you can make her laugh or feel secure.

Hope this helped.

Answer 6

There's a difference between crossing the line and just being feeling nervous or awkward about it. What I found is that if I take it slow and just let it happen, then it turns out to be pretty nice! You don't have to do things that make you outright uncomfortable, and that's okay, too. But sometimes you just have to take a deep breath and go for it. See what happens. Good luck!

Answer 7

The first time can be really scary for both you & your GF... Before you do anything make sure this is what you want to do, & that you are ready to take things that far. DO NOT DO ANYTHING WITH OUR USING PROTECTION....I don't care if the girl says she us on the pill, you never know who else she had sex with,& so no & so on....USE A CONDOM protect your self form any & all sexually transmitted diseases.

Answer 8

What are you scared to do? Just the act of natural sex or is she wanting you to do something your not comfortable or familiar with?

Before you have sex with anyone you should become comfortable with yourself. Masturbate in front of a mirror read a book on sex. Watch porn with your girlfriend. The more you become comfortable with yourself the better lover you will be.

Answer 9

It sounds like you are too young. Maybe you just aren't ready to go further in a relationship...maybe you haven't met the right person. There is no rush, just move slowly and do what you are comfortable with.

Answer 10

I AM NOT SURE WHAT YOU ARE WANTING US TO TELL YOU!

I SAY JUST GO FOR BROKE AND SEE, YOU KNOW YOU COULD BE GAY AND JUST NOW BE SHOWING THIS TO YOUR SELF!!

MY FRIEND WAS LIKE THAT ONE DAY HIS CHICK JUST DID NOT WORK FOR HIM ANYMORE, HE LEFT HER FOUND ANOTHER AND THE SAME THING, THEN HE REALIZED HE WAS GAY!

I WOULD SAY TRY DOING SOMETHING NEW AND EXCITING TO SEE IF YOUR MORAL (SO TO SAY ) IS LIFTED IF NOT , THEN THINK ABOUT A CONSULAR WHO DEALS WITH SEXUAL ISSUES. HEY IT CAN WORK!!