hi, i want ask do i have responsibilty about my seph son he dont live with us my husband forcing me to do evrything for him and he always fight with me for his son?
2007-09-28 07:25:44 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my setph son not live with me he come for visit and every time e fight when he comes i dont know how i manag
2007-09-28 07:27:36 · update #1
Your responsibility is to keep him safe and healthy when he's in your care. Other than that he's your husbands and his mothers responsibility. You have no legal right to him. Just cause you married his dad doesn't mean he's legally your child.
2007-09-28 08:43:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your stepson is not your responsiblity its your husband. Yes you can assist him on certain things but it is otherwise his responsibility not yours. It seems your husband doesnt want to take the responsibility and is passing it to you. You must have a serious talk with your husband regarding his responsiblity to his son and not yours and state you will no longer to anything for his child. My suggestion the next time his son comes over leave, go shopping, visit a friend, family etc. Yes for the idiot who said you married your husband and he comes with a package is WRONG. A package is when the child lives with his father 24/7 then you become a full-time mom to this child. A child who visits is not your respnsibility.
2007-09-28 14:55:07 · answer #2 · answered by beliz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think you do. What a strange situation, though. You're married to the father but he's not your son. It's especially difficult when it comes to disciplining him, I bet. You can try taking a step back and telling your husband you don't feel comfortable doing so much for him. It all depends on what you do for him. Do you do his laundry before he goes home? I would just pack it up and send him home with it. There are probably lots of little things you can do to show you care about the boy, but you're not his caretaker. His dad is. Good luck!
2007-09-28 14:32:22 · answer #3 · answered by tanam73 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you have as much of a responsibility towards your step-son as you do your OWN son.
Nothing more, nothing less. Should there be fights about it? No. If your husband makes you feel this way -- why don't you sit down and talk with him? If he doesn't listen, suggest counseling or a mutual friend.
2007-09-28 14:30:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband has responsibility for your step son. If he leaves his son in your care, then you have the reponsibility of any caregiver for a child which is to keep him safe. To discipline, to enforce and to teach are all responsiblities of the father. Do not allow him to place these responsiblities on you as this will make the step son resent and hate you. None of you need this.
2007-09-28 14:31:08 · answer #5 · answered by Cinthia Round house kicking VT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made a decision to marry a man with a child and you likely knew what you were getting into. However, I would say the same thing about natural parents - it is not fair for one to do all of the work with regard to the children.
If you are his partner, and he has a son, then you need to support as long as you are respected. If you are not respected then you need to set things straight and put up limitations.
2007-09-28 14:51:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are you fighting about? you do have a responsibility for him, when you decided to marry someone with a child you are accepting parental responsibility for that child as much as your spouse is expecting you to be involved. on the other hand he should not be causing conflict in your marriage. i would suggest you talk to your spouse and step son and get some clear expectations set, you should try to form a bond with him at least a friendship
2007-09-28 14:31:12 · answer #7 · answered by kisses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't know. Your grammar is very garbled and hard to make out, and there aren't very many details. Are you saying that your step-son comes to visit and your husband is making you take care of him? And your step-son is fighting with you? What is the issue? If you would please rephrase your question to use full sentences and tell us what the problem is, we will better be able to assist you.
2007-09-28 14:29:53 · answer #8 · answered by gilgamesh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you do, just as if he were your own son. I have a step-son as well and I treat him just like I do my own children. This to me is a very silly question. You knew when you got married that he had a son and when you married your husband you also married his son.
GROW UP
2007-09-28 14:28:50 · answer #9 · answered by Jay's Girl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have 3 step children and 2 of my own and I look after them as if they were my own. In fact my stepdaughter says I am her real father as he was a deadbeat drunk.
2007-09-28 14:41:00 · answer #10 · answered by PokerPlayer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋