I have been good buddies/friends with this guy for about 2 years now. I am best friends with his mother as well--in fact we are inseparable and that's how I ended up even being around this guy.
Now she calls me the daughter she never had.The three of us go everywhere--even been on mission trips together and he and I always work together great--we're a great team.
I love being with him but I always saw him as my little brother until recently. I'm 22, he's 19--the same age as my eldest brother. I've always thought he was kinda cute, but obviously not for me--mostly because of our ages and the fact that I was almost his sister--I'm so close to the whole family.
But we've started texting each other alot and/or spending a good deal of time msg'g the other on facebook. Whenever he's home for the weekend from college, we usually spend at least half that time together.
I'm sort of afraid his mom will think I've gone nuts, and I love her to death.
So would an "us" be wierd?
2007-09-28 07:02:56 · 18 answers · asked by venzgirl21 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I don't know where to post this, so I just wanted to thank everyone who answered me and say that the impression I've gotten is: it might be slightly awkward, but overall a good idea eventually...and to take it slow. Will do. =)
2007-09-29 13:50:28 · update #1
If your guy friend and you don't consider it weird, then no, it's not weird at all. I was once in a very similar situation; I was best friends with 3 sisters and had known their family through our church since I was born. Once I hit the age of 15 I spent so much time at their house that their parents considered me part of the family. I slept on their couch, helped myself to the contents of their fridge when no one was home with their blessing, and I even was invited to family reunions and Christmas parties. I had always considered their brother, who is 10 years older than I, to be like my brother, but slowly and imperceptably at first, we began to feel attracted to each other. It was a very weird feeling at first, because of our ages and the connection I felt with his family, but when we decided to date, his family was thrilled, as was mine. We have been happily married for 2 years and have a beautiful 8 week old daughter...and we live in an apartment in the back of his parents' house! If anything, I think it was less of an adjustment to go from the daughter to daughter-in-law role. Like I said, it really depends on if it makes you feel weird. I never felt like I was kissing my brother, or obviously I wouldn't have married the guy and had his baby!:)
2007-09-28 09:54:53 · answer #1 · answered by milkmaiden731 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's that weird. It probably feels awkward, but sounds like you two actually know and have true feelings for each other as a person, which most people cannot say. Alot of people just think one another is cute, and then they get to know the real person.
You two actually have a history together.
And as for the mom, if she always says you are the daughter she never had, well maybe eventually you will be the daughter in law she will have!
Good luck :)
2007-09-28 07:16:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you talk to the mom? You don't have to come out and say anything since nothing has happened between you and the son, but maybe you can feel her out and see what she'd think. You know, you could say something to her about the amount of time you spend with him and then suggest it will be hard for you to find a boyfriend because guys might think you're already taken....something like that. If she says you and her son would be a cute couple, then go for it!
The age difference is nothing to worry about although it could be difficult if you like to go out to clubs and he's not old enough to get in. Otherwise, I don't think you should worry about age.
2007-09-28 07:14:10 · answer #3 · answered by Loves the Ponies 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really. Actually sounds like a match made in heaven. You guys are probably really meant to be together. You're supposed to start off as friends anyway. And the age difference doesn't even matter now at your ages. It's only 3 years, and you're both adults. It mattered a few years ago, but not now. Go for it!
2007-09-28 07:09:43 · answer #4 · answered by Jeff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wouldn't seem particularly weird to me (especially when you consider all the other viable combinations of couples comprised of people with more divergence than you both have yet they manage a successful union). Great friends...that sounds like a good place to start. And as for his mom, she knows someone is coming into his life someday to fill that capacity...why not you? (Besides, she already likes you.)
2007-09-28 07:22:49 · answer #5 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not wierd at all - Most couples miss out on being friends first and it's important! Take it slow - let the love between grow and let it lead you - Good Luck!
2007-09-28 07:11:27 · answer #6 · answered by Big Red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so it all sounds so sweet, but make sure it's not something your jumping into u wouldn't want to riun any friendships if it didn't work. I guess what i'm trying to say is make sure it isn't just some crush, but to me thats not what it sounds like. Good Luck to you, it's not weird and I would go for it.
2007-09-28 07:07:59 · answer #7 · answered by Casey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know...that depends on how you all feel about it. You aren't related, so no biggie there. Maybe his mother will be overjoyed that you two might be together...at least she knows you really well. But, if you two do decide to try it out...remember, if it ends, so does the friendship...usually.
2007-09-28 07:07:16 · answer #8 · answered by CC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it a shot. the mom might think it's cute. childhood friends grown up to be sweethearts <33
2007-09-28 07:06:13 · answer #9 · answered by cafeene_rush21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. She'd probably love to have you as an official daughter (in-law) some day.
2007-09-28 07:07:12 · answer #10 · answered by justme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋