Serious Questions For Men?

Question

I often feel stereotyped and embarrassed because of some of the stupid things women do to men. I am just curious if men feel the same:
Do you feel you are unfairly stereotyped because of some of the predatory things that some guys do (rape, child molestation, using women, etc.)? Do you think that most
women distrust you or your intentions because of their experiences with bad guys? Does it bother you when other guys do predatory things because it affects how women view all men?

Answer 1

yes I wish guys in general had a better image

but those types of guys really help the good guys because when a women finds us she is truly happy and understands the value of what we represent

if nothing bad ever happens then we have no way to determine what is Good

Answer 2

My belief is that it has to do with trust. When so many people have their trust broken by someone of the opposite sex, they just begin to stereotye that all men or women are that way.

Case in point -- most women feel that men are liars and will say just about anything to get want they want - sex! And for the most part - this is probably true.

On the other hand - most men feel that women are gold diggers and the only thing they really want from men is their money. And for the most part - this is probably true!

My belief is when a man learns to trust a woman to be truthful and not after his money - and when a women learns to trust a man and that he is not a liar and does not lie - it is a very refreshing and rewarding experience that is hard to duplicate. Once the trust is built - it is important that it can't be broken - because if it is - it just feeds back to the start of the problem and reinforces the stereotype.

This is just my opinion. But I do believe that trust is the key!

Answer 3

It would be counterproductive to stereotype women with the perception that they stereotype men, but from my observations this dynamic can be witnessed in any nightlife situation (ie at a club or bar).

However, I think it is justified that women are cynical of a man's motives or intentions, hence, how would you explain the protective father or brother?

It bothers me that some men give in to the predatory behaviors, but from my experience women only begrudge the man who committed such an act.

Answer 4

Great question. And yes it happens in family courts all the time. False allegations are so prevalent because of the stigmatization of men based on what a very few of us actually do. And yes abusers and rapists really piss me off because their actions only lend to these stigma's against men. Most men are protectors by nature and want only to provide safety and happiness for our wives and children. That is why so many men join the military we want to prove that we are defenders and test ourselves by enduring all sorts of hazards to be the best protectors we can be.

Answer 5

Well, we always have that stigma when we walk through the streets. Once i was minding my own business, strolling peacefully, when a dumb kid came running and rebounded on my lap, so to keep him from falling, y grabbed him the best i could in the upper back, and pulled him into myself again. The mother wouldnt stop bitching about how she would call the police, and blah blah. Luckily, in the few moments she was silent I told her what happened.

Answer 6

I' am not a guy but I couldn't pass up this question...if you don't mind let me share ...I myself have been in relationships where I have been used and abused by men either because they inflicted it ..or simply because my self esteem permitted it .....when people men/women go through hurtful things we have a tendency to place everyone in the same boat...but when you meet someone who loves you and is willing to help you to learn and trust again the walls eventually come down if that person is willing to heal at the same token you have to be ready to deal with women who have issues (so to speak) if you don't have patience or can't deal with this type of thing move on you deserve a whole person...but if you love her and want to show her you care stay and I gurantee you its like she will become a woman before your eyes it will be like seeing her the first time...mentally she will love you, sexually she will come out like a butterfly, she will have a confidence because one man took the time to care ..

Answer 7

Well, I hope that women (maybe with the exception of Andrea Dworkin) don't compare men to rapists, child molesters, women abusers, etc.

Answer 8

yes yes and yes because feminists tag along and listen and agree with everything the "leader" (any feminist in government that has a loud mouth) and they cannot think for themselves so they stereotype us all...

Answer 9

Me like woman WOmaan arrr huh huh

Answer 10

duh