My co-worker just came back from a dr appt. she and her hubby have been trying for 4 years to conceive. They have no children, yet. They just did the first round of IFV. I don't think it worked. she had not spoken to anyone and walked in the office all red in the face like she had been crying.
What are some comforting words?
2007-09-28 06:04:36 · 8 answers · asked by sugar sweet 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
OMG whatever you do, DON'T tell her there's always adoption. That is the stupidest advice I've seen here.
Trying to have a baby is a very stressful and emotional time. Your co-worker is feeling a sense of loss and probably failure right now. She won't get much lower than that. The best thing you can do is ask if she's okay, let her know that you're here if she needs anything, and then give her space. She may or may not want to talk about it, especially with a co-worker (no offense). If she does open up, just say that you're sorry... sorry for all she's been through and that you can't imagine how it really feels (because, well, you can't). That's all that really needs to be said...if you say too much you risk saying something that will offend her.
So basically, let her know you're there for her, then give her the space she needs, and if/when she opens up keep it short and sweet.
You're very sweet to care so much. When she's over the shock and hurt she will see that.
Good luck.
2007-09-28 06:25:56 · answer #1 · answered by ღ†Rocker Wife†ღ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She may not be ready to talk about it. Just let her know that you are there for her if she needs you. Don't push her to say anything. She may just need a little time to take it all in. It's never easy trying to find the right thing to say. Sometimes the best thing to do is just let them be and let them tell you when they feel that they are ready to talk about it.
2007-09-28 14:06:13 · answer #2 · answered by angelamc31 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say nothing until he does, she may not be ready to discuss her feelings yet. Offer to take her to lunch or take on a few extra duties for her if she seems overwhelmed. TTC is a very emotional process, and its very easy to offend someone when no offense is intended. She will talk when she is ready, otherwise just be supportive.
2007-09-28 13:10:42 · answer #3 · answered by parental unit 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You;re probably better off not saying anything until she does, and then I would just let her know that you are there if she needs to talk or just wants a shoulder :)
2007-09-28 13:07:12 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda K 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Let her tell you. Don't say anything to her because it hurts to do so. I know you want to ask but its best for her to tell you guys! Just to make sure you dont get on her bad side.
2007-09-28 13:26:31 · answer #5 · answered by lostinlove1919 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless she talks to you about it, I wouldn't say anything.. she may want to keep it private. Try and ask her how she's doing...
If she does talk to you about it, let her know you'll be here if she wants to talk.
2007-09-28 13:08:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
just offer to take her to lunch sometime but DON"T try to "help" don't offer any "advice" !!!!!
here is a site that can tell you a little about what she is going through: http://www.bellybelly.com.au/articles/conception/infertility-family-friends
2007-09-28 13:51:45 · answer #7 · answered by karateJenn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her there's always adoption
2007-09-28 13:07:46 · answer #8 · answered by Miss B 2 · 0⤊ 6⤋