Here is the short version: Last year, hubby did not invite his sister and bro-in-law to the kids b'day parties because of a huge fight. Fight being about how if we wouldnt let them babysit the kids, they didnt feel they should "have" to come to the parties. So, it was like fine, dont come. SOO, a year goes by, everyone seems to be getting along as in there are no fights( still dont allow them to babysit the kids) . Do we assume that they still feel the same and not invite them or just go ahead and invite them like nothing ever happened?
2007-09-28 05:57:28 · 16 answers · asked by undone 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
They never really backed out of their position on the parties, just said they want everyone to be able to get along ( what all does that mean). Should I leave the decision all up to hubby?
2007-09-28 05:59:06 · update #1
invite them. if they decline then you know that they still bear a grudge and you look like the better person for inviting them!!!!
good luck!
2007-09-28 06:01:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you want them there (or at least the kids) then invited them and pretend like nothing happen. I have a sister in law who I refuse to let watch my kids. She's got a car, home, and steady job, but she's also got a 17 year old that's flunked out of high school 2 times (going on 3) and feels that her daughter dating a guy with a 6-pack abs is more important than graduating high school. There for I just don't like her. Now if the kids don't care if she comes or not, then just forget about inviting them at all. Especially if you think they will cause a scene or bring up a fight about what happen in the past.
2007-09-28 06:16:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would invite them as if nothing happened (unless they would cause a scene at the party) If they say again that they don't think they should have to come, just politely say "No, You certainly don't have to come, but if you want to, the invitation is open" & then leave it at that.
2007-09-28 06:15:07 · answer #3 · answered by jon jon's girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are getting along, why start something that could result in another fight? Invite them to the party!
2007-09-28 06:00:55 · answer #4 · answered by junebug 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's FAMILY They will always be family so don't put them out you must invite them and try to work out the problems don't fight about it just talk try to do it before the party so that you get it out of the way and its time to PARTY not worry about what the other says have FUN
GL
2007-09-28 06:32:43 · answer #5 · answered by Dad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want them there? If so, make a blanket invite to all family members, with no names specified.
If you don't want them there, but don't care if they show up then leave it to the hubby to decide.
If you don't want them there, period, then send out invites to those you want to come, and leave hubby out of the decision.
2007-09-28 06:50:36 · answer #6 · answered by Tonya in TX - Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
life flies by too fast to hold grudges and certian mishaps can make you regret holding a grudge.... There is nothing wrong in being the first one to say sorry and patch things up. We spend so much time being angry which leave no time for sharing good times together. Life is too short, enjoy the family you have near by.
Just because they are idiots, you don't have to be one too. Be the bigger person, forgive and forget.
2007-09-28 06:15:52 · answer #7 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite them
2007-09-28 06:17:34 · answer #8 · answered by I got answers! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your original statment about "Idiot-inlaws" says it all. If you don't feel comfortable with them babysitting, then I don't see why you would want them to come to your parties. It doesn't hurt to invite them, but don't get sensitive when they don't come. If you want to get along, I would start by thinking of them as something other than "idiots".
2007-09-28 06:18:59 · answer #9 · answered by sixftrd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite like nothing ever happened.
2007-09-28 05:59:17 · answer #10 · answered by smurfee68 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋