If Mr. Blacksmith<(example) has treated you like a dog or beat the hell out of you, Why would you want to be called Ms. Blacksmith after you've divorced him?
2007-09-28 05:35:32 · 35 answers · asked by spankster 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A lot of women do it for the kids ... so they have the same last names ... !
It is a pain to change everything ( credit cards, bank accounts, DMV - now that sucks, Social Security ... etc ... )
My mom got married when she was 16 - divorced when she was 40 ... so she had her married last name longer than her maiden name ... so she felt like that was her name ... !
Some do it for their career ... it's all about who you know and what you represent ... !
2007-09-28 05:39:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Good point but some divorced women keep their married names because it is easier and there is not always a lot of anger between ex-spouses. When i got divorced my ex and i were on friendly terms we just married too young and the love went away. After 5 years of trying to find some common ground we decided the best thing we could do was just let each other be free. We are still friends and I kept that name until i had remarried.
I don't think men understand how many things and how much work is involved in changing one's name.
2007-09-28 07:49:40 · answer #2 · answered by karenlanea2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most women do so because there are children involved and they don't want to have to constantly be explaining the difference in their name and that of their children all the time and usually to perfect strangers.
But do you know what the really STUPID part is? Taking the man's name to begin with. If men had to go through the hassle of changing their names to that of their wives, there would soon be a law against changing names!!!
I elected to keep my ex's name because I was convinced that he would come to his senses and we would be remarried eventually. Had I taken back my maiden name it would have been included in the cost of the divorce $364) and would have been done at the divorce hearing. However, about a year and a half after our divorce I discovered I no longer loved him and wouldn't have had him back on a dare, so I had to pay $256 to get back my maiden name. But guess what the downside of THAT was? When I married him 22 years before I had to change my name in about 6 places. Changing back to my maiden name has so far involved 61 changes!!! Nowadays it's not just driver's licenses and credit cards, it's also a myriad of things to do with computers! Don't forget video rental places, libraries, etc., etc., etc.
I know one thing for sure and certain: If I'm ever stupid enough to get married again, I will NOT be changing MY name again!!! The one I was born with is plenty good enough and I won't mess with it again I don't care if I marry Bill Gates or Ted Turner. My name is MY name and it's going to stay that way.
I hope this explains things clearly for you.
2007-09-28 05:52:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends a lot on circumstances of your job. If you have been known as "Mrs. Blacksmith" at your job for years, it causes a lot of confusion to start using another name. It could also be that the choice of going back to your previous or maiden name might be a less desirable choice if the name is strange. (Such as Ms. Hogswart!)
2007-09-28 05:44:46 · answer #4 · answered by sixftrd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women keep their married name after a divorce because they don't want to go through the hassle of legally changing their name back. Also, married women have used their new last name in all sorts of ways in their married life -- legal ways, financial ways, major purchases and so on. Not many divorced women want to explain their marital status and situation over and over and over again for years to come.
2007-09-28 05:45:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Though you have a valid question and i have never been divorced, here are some of the reasons i think women choose to keep it
-it is a pain in the butt to get a name change
-they want to have the same last name of there kids
-they have gotten used to having the name (a name change is a huge adjustment)
2007-09-28 05:42:14 · answer #6 · answered by ~NIKKI~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any idea how much of a pain it is to change your name? I've been married for nine months, and my maiden name is still on one of my student loans, my passport, and our cable bill. It's a huge hassle. After having gone through a name change once, most women don't particularly feel like doing it all over again.
Plus, if the couple has kids, she might want to still have the same last name as her children.
2007-09-28 05:47:04 · answer #7 · answered by greeneyes_bjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a really good point. If I were ever divorced I would not want to keep my ex husbands last name. No way. I can tell you why my Mom kept my Dad's. She wanted to have the same last name as me. I thought that was nice of her. Considering my Dad was such a jerk to her. I think if I was divorced I would just change my last name altogether to something I liked. Start fresh!
2007-09-28 05:45:35 · answer #8 · answered by Missy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know nearly every man I know believes if the woman keeps his name its because she wants him, so think about it ladies the hassle is worth the freedom from your ex. I have had a fight with my wife (now ex an no she didn't keep my name) because I told her "your ex believes as long as you have his name your his" . Then she really got mad to find out I was correct.
So ladies no matter what your "reason" remember most men feel that way even if they wont admit it. Especially if he's the controlling type.
2014-09-25 10:18:58 · answer #9 · answered by Brian M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't get that either, but perhaps it would cost more money and more hassle to change everything back into their maiden names. Some women use their married name professionally and are known by that name in their career (like the actress Susan Sarandon...she kept her husbands last name because she became famous with it).
2007-09-28 05:40:37 · answer #10 · answered by Signilda 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋