i married my husband in january and we have been living with his parents, he promised me he would find us somewhere to live but he still hasnt, we have a 4 month old baby, his parents have a trailer and our room feels like a closet it is so small, and the babys bout outgrew her cradle and a baby bed wont fit in here, his mom wont let me do anything like washing my own clothes or making the babys bottles i cant even take a bath after 10 and we pay all the bills my husband seems like he aint in a hurry to move i cant take it much longer i love him to death but this is just stupid what do u think i should do? be honest, oh and his parents dont help if i need someone to watch the baby i have to call my mom that lives 20 miles away
2007-09-28 05:34:14 · 13 answers · asked by Denise 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You really need to put your foot down and let your husband know it is time to move on. You have a family now and you can not stay in the conditions you currently are. If you 2 are paying the bills there should not be an issue of getting your own place. Tell him how you feel and that it would be best if you had your own place. Good luck.
2007-09-28 05:39:17 · answer #1 · answered by Kwk2lrn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You married a "momma's boy" and he is never going to willingly leave her home. If you married only because you were pregnant, evaluate your other choices. This situation is going to go nowhere fast. If you don'thave a job, get one and find day care for the child. If your husband doesn't like it, get out as soon as you can. You will be controlled until you lose your sanity if you stay in a situation such as this.
2007-09-28 13:00:39 · answer #2 · answered by sixftrd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u want something in life then do it yourself. you go ahead and start looking for somewhere to live and find out deeper into the situation why he hasnt acted on it. maybe he feels lost without parents if you both move. take control and do it only for the sake of yourself and your baby. Congrats by the way.
2007-09-28 12:40:53 · answer #3 · answered by steph g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you take anyone seriously about wanting to be your spouse for the rest of their lives when you have no place to live except Mommy and Daddy's?
This is the problem with children marrying. Yes...I'm talking about you. And breeding too. Only goes to show that responsibility doesn't come with marriage. neither does maturity.
"Trailer"....Ha! Why am I not surprised?
2007-09-28 12:41:58 · answer #4 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take the baby to your moms house to make a point. Also that will give you a chance to take care of your child without a controlling mother in law.
2007-09-28 13:12:42 · answer #5 · answered by nelppik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you poor thing. I know you didnt ask for any pity but i have to give you some. Sit his rear end down and tell him that this is it. In thirty days you will be in a place of your own, or all hel* is going to break loose. Be very firm and maybe he will realize how serious of a problem this is.
2007-09-28 12:44:05 · answer #6 · answered by brandy G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yepp. I agree with the mysterious one. You snagged yourself a good-ol-fashioned-mammas-boy. Give him a deadline( like a month ). Tell him if he doesnt move you out of his mamas house, you are driving the 20 to your moms and NOT coming back.
2007-09-28 12:43:41 · answer #7 · answered by undone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to put your foot down and start to look for houses or apts on your own find one and tell him your moving out and he better go with you that's so not health for you guys to live their with them in that small of a place good luck and stand up to him and tell him you guys need to find a place ASAP :)
2007-09-28 13:09:31 · answer #8 · answered by nikie_atkinson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been suckered in by a "Momma's Boy"!
What I would do is tell him he has two weeks to find a place for the three of you or you are leaving! DIVORCE
2007-09-28 12:38:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start looking for a place on your own, and tell him that you are moving and tell him that if he wants to go with you he better start packing.
2007-09-28 13:46:52 · answer #10 · answered by baylees 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋