My wife keeps bringing up celebrities that have "open marriages". For those who have never heard of this, it is when both the husband and wife has the option to see other people within the marriage. I DO NOT believe in this, and I do not like when my wife keeps bringing it up. Has anyone heard of this?
2007-09-28 05:27:42 · 35 answers · asked by akbar s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If she's wanting an open marriage then u should question the fact if she still loves u cuz I believe when u love some1u wanna be w/ that 1 person and no1 else... An open marriage is just creating a disaster.
2007-09-28 07:10:44 · answer #1 · answered by NONAME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've heard of it but I don't think that many celebrities have those types of marriages. There are 2 recognizable types of people who have those relationships: 1) People who like the stability of a relationship but aren't ready for full committment and 2) People who are insecure and think that they can't please their partner/don't deserve her or him/don't think that they are good enough to find someone else. They basically let anything slide just to remain in the relationship. If you are a person who thinks of marriage as being something that represents a cease in relations with other people then that's what you should stick to. If you feel the need to bring it up here then obviously, it's bothering you. You should talk to your wife and see what she thinks of it and why she keeps bringing it up. Maybe she's met someone that she likes and wants to have an encounter with her/him OR maybe she just thinks that it's interesting. Either way, you should get to the bottom of it. She's your partner right? Teams don't work well when you aren't sure about your teammates logic.
2007-09-28 05:36:23 · answer #2 · answered by Vince R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not only have I heard of this but we have discussed utilizing this option. We decided that it was not the best option for us and decided to have a polygamous relationship instead. That way all the members of the family unit are fully invested.
Try to open your mind and then ask her why she is interested in an open marriage. Possibly she is just a little bored and wants some excitement. If that is the case then you can both work to together to find a happy solution.
2007-09-28 05:39:54 · answer #3 · answered by Rebecca W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely your wife is seeking an easy way out of your marriage or is feeling you out on how you would react if she were with another man. Now is a dangerous time in your relationship as something is going on IF she is indeed mentioning open marriage ALOT!
Be careful my friend!! Start hiding your money outside of the banking system in case the end is near and hits you by surprise!
Sorry if this answer sounds kooky or stern BUT just think about what I have told you! Any normal person may mention something about open marriages at one time or another but when it's being brought up quite frequently I would think somethings going on.
Good Luck my friend!!
2007-09-28 05:35:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I've known people who did this and I guess whatever floats their boat.
I wouldn't feel very comfortable with that myself. I do think that excessive petty jealousy does more harm than good in a relationship, but just everyone f**ing around doesn't sound like a partnership to me.
It could be that your wife brings this up because she's intrigued by the idea, or it could be that she's intrigued just by the outrageousness and audacity of it. Sometimes it's the outragous behavior of celebrities that attracts our attention, even though we wouldn't want to engage in the actions. OJ is an example. So if I were you, I'd wait for a relaxed moment and just ask her why the interest. Ask her if this is what she wants. You might load the question by asking if she wants you to be f**ing around with other girls.
Good luck with her.
2007-09-28 05:43:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy, my wife brought this to me one day. In the end, I found out that she had an affair and I believe that she thought if I could agree with an 'open' marriage then it would maybe make her indiscreation less severe. I never wanted such a thing either. I guess what I am saying is be careful, there may be more here than her curiousity.
2007-09-28 05:38:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Many people attempt this kind of relationship. Some successfully and other not so. Myself I could not live in a relationship of this sort but that doesn't make it wrong. Best bet would be to discuss this with your wife and see why she keeps bringing it up and if she is suggesting that your relationship turn into one of these. Who knows she may be just trying to make conversation or kind of poke a joke about these relationships and you could be receiving things all wrong. Have an open minded and honest conversation with your wife. One where you both are completely honest with each other about what it is that you see as your wants and needs for your relationship to strive and grow Best of luck..
2007-09-28 05:33:24 · answer #7 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The next time your wife brings it up discuss it with her. You may be reading something into the conversation that she isn't thinking at all. She may just like hearing that you don't approve of such a thing and maybe that makes her feel more secure in you faithfulness. Communication is the key.
2007-09-28 05:41:22 · answer #8 · answered by CINDY J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I've known probably a couple of dozen couples who were in open relationships.
With the exception of one, all of them failed, and the primary partners split up to be with one of the "other people".
It's not something to 'save' a marriage - it's something that requires an extremely secure, strong relationship in the first place. And if either partner feels forced or co-erced into it, it won't work.
2007-09-28 06:22:39 · answer #9 · answered by Nandina (Bunny Slipper Goddess) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah, a very close friend of mine had this kind of relationship with her hubby (didn't marry, moved in together after 7 yrs of being BF/GF and remained together less than 2 yrs after that)..... he was always encouraging her to date other guys or even to have cyber sex with acquaintances, apparently this turned him on..... he never did it himself though, which was weird because my friend also gave him the freedom to do so.
When she actually did sleep with someone else, he was infuriated and accused her of cheating and turned violent..... needless to say they started having a bunch of problems which ended up breaking this "open marriage". Now they both went their separate ways and my friend has a new relationship which is NOT open at all..... hope she learned her lesson well!!!
2007-09-28 05:39:34 · answer #10 · answered by Lprod 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋