any sources or ideas on how to end the power struggle phase?
thanks!
2007-09-28 05:24:11 · 8 answers · asked by Ember Halo 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
the power struggle phase is very common in relationships, more common than not. it immediately follows the "honeymoon" phase and is so common because of human nature, not immaturity. the duration can vary, but it is nearly always a regular stage in relationship development.
2007-09-28 06:04:45 · update #1
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2007-09-28 06:24:30 · update #2
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2007-09-28 06:23:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know the power struggle phase until you have children. A marriage is compromise and I work on the philosophy of fighting the battles worth fighting, and not to argue over the others. After your baby is born is when the real stress and struggle could occur, so realise now you can't control everything in life and share the responsibility, I can assure you this united front between you is going to be needed once a child enters into the family unit.
2016-05-20 23:25:03 · answer #2 · answered by stefani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's for something as silly as who is to do housework, eliminate the fight and hire a maid.
If it's about who tells the best story, have your friends over for a story-telling contest and have a night of entertainment.
If it's about who is the better driver, take it to the race track and race it out.
If it's about who is right, research your answers and print out the right answer.
If it's about always having to BE right, for goodness sake, audition for Jeopardy and win money for being right!
But STOP turning every single stupid little thing into a fight. Washing the dishes is not a fight, it's a chore. Doing the laundry is not a fight. If it's that big of a fight, send it to the local "Fluff n' Fold" Laundry service. It's the whole purpose of their existence! Telling a better story is not a fight - get it right, practice your delivery, and go onstage at the local Comedy Club and get the laughs. Cooking food is not a fight. It's a meal. Have him cook food one night, you the next, and so on, and so on, until you both are the place for the awesome party in the neighborhood with the danged good food.
Just quit turning it into a fight. Fight poverty. Fight the gangs. Fight drugs and alcohol abuse. Fight Child molestation. Not each other.
2007-09-28 05:41:05 · answer #3 · answered by enn 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it is just a matter of realizing the other person is not out to harm you. In my experience the longer I am married the struggle gets less and less. If it is causing a lot af marital problems seeing a counselor may help. Having a third party see how you interact may give you a lot of insight into your marriage. They also will give you more effective ways of communicating without stepping on each others toes. Good luck.
2007-09-28 05:34:47 · answer #4 · answered by jellybelly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a counselor as soon as possible..Healthy marriages will have Boundaries..that means you will RESPECT each others decisions and won't have to be in charge everytime a decision needs to be made....Decisions about certain issues cant be both ways ..Then out of respect for your relationship you will both share the decision making ...RESPECT for the relationship and each other is KEY ..Then when issues arise you willl Share who gets to choose for that particular issue...There will NOT be any power struggle....Its give and take..NOT one or both being the Bully!!!! Good Luck!!!
2007-09-28 05:39:27 · answer #5 · answered by Dog Rescuer 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In marriage there is no win lose situation...it has to be win win...if one of you lose you both lose...if both of you win...you both win
2007-09-28 05:28:03 · answer #6 · answered by Patti_Ja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There should be no struggle in any marriage.
Please read this book it will give you insight like no other.
The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran
2007-09-30 02:50:43 · answer #7 · answered by djdundalk 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
that ends when the two people finally decide to grow up.
2007-09-28 05:49:50 · answer #8 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋