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Question

I just read an article about the sex on campus of Duk eUniveristy in light of that scandal they had with the lax players and while I knew lots of people on the campus of the school I went to, had a good time, and accomplished some personal and professional goals at my school, being 3 years out of college and single for all that time, I kind of feel......I don't know inadequate?

Im working a job that pays the bills but isn't what I went to college for, and I only been with one person. Meanwhile all they talked about in the article was how superficial and successful people there were.

Ladies, is a guy a failure in life if he wasn't a manwhore in collwege? Let's say I had my moments in that dept. like everyone else, but the fact that I haven't had as many one night stands makes me feel like I missed out?
Is it common to feel this way if you didn't go to a D-1 college?
Did I miss out? In the midst of good times, I've had plenty of drama too there....Is it common to have drama there?

Nellbelle07,

Now I feel better.

Your first line said it all. Thank you!

Answer 1

You missed out on disease, despair and drama.

I didn't slut around in college (yes, I know...I'm a woman) and I don't regret it one bit. It seemed at times that my friends were having more fun in college, but one got an STD (thankfully a treatable one) and another one of my friends had an abortion in college.

Its far more reputable to women (at least the good ones) to be with a guy who's tender than with one who has many tricks in his bag.

My husband was only with one other woman than me. I like that. I think its commendable and honorable.

And just so you don't feel badly; I have been out of college for 12 years and haven't had a job yet that is anywhere near what my college major was. I just picked a degree that unfortunately doesn't offer much in the ways of the job pool.

Good luck. You'll find the right woman someday. Don't skimp out on your morals and beliefs.

Answer 2

Well said Nellbelle