I would like my wife to attend parent/teacher conferences with me for my child who she is very close to.The problem is my exwife(mom) who DOES NOT want my wife to go "as she is not my sons mother".Can my ex "legally" keep my wife from going if i want her there?I have joint custody with my exwife and the only reason my ex does not want her there is bitterness and control issue.if this goes to court what will the judge say?
2007-09-28 04:43:04 · 9 answers · asked by Bob F 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
my exwife and i have seperate times for the conferences so its not like they have to be in the same room together.
2007-09-28 04:44:04 · update #1
No. She would have to go to court and have her legally restricted from going. A school is not your exwifes property to say who can and can't go.
2007-09-28 04:54:35 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Read through your divorce decree to see if there is any stipulation for a situation like this.
If this matter were to come before a judge and your ex has no very good cause for wanting to prevent your wife from going to the ptc's I think the judge would be livid.
*Remember, if you are involved in a famly court suit do not spend a single iota of time on any matter that is not part of the case (unless the judge asks you to).
Make sure you truly feel that having your wife at he conferences is useful to our daughter. I would say yes if only it is because the child would know her step mom cares because she participated. She can also encourage, help, and praise if she's involved.
Do not cave to your ex's unaccepting behavior if she's not justified - that would be enabling. Do not, of course, taunt your ex but also do not entertain her behavior when it's not nice.
2007-09-28 11:53:08 · answer #2 · answered by srsly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you have to think about where your ex is coming from. Those are her children not your new wife's. You didn't say how long you have been divorced, so I'm guessing it's recent. Give your ex some space. Give her some time. For the time being the children are yours and hers and until she can get used to the idea that "step"mom is okay, then keep the children issue between you two only. Maybe if she sees this, she will make some concessions. Maybe if she gets a boyfriend or remarries things will change too.
Believe me, I would have strangled my ex husband and his new wife if she ever came near my kids. It was like that for a while after I got over the anger. If you want to keep things amicable between the two of you, give in a little, the transition will be smoother.
2007-09-28 11:53:19 · answer #3 · answered by Ana C 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Unless there is something she can nail your current wife with (I don't know how vindictive she is - would she look for/find something?), I don't think she can do anything legally. You've got joint custody, and it's not as if she has to even sit in the same room with the two of you.
I am curious, though: is your current wife not attending these conferences an option? This could just make it easier on all of you. Pick your battles!
2007-09-28 11:48:36 · answer #4 · answered by Maudie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way she can stop your wife from attending parent/teacher conferences, particularly since they are at different times.....HOWEVER.....your present wife is NOT the child's parent. Did you ever hear the expression "Too many cooks spoil the soup"? You know what it means? Too much input and the kid gets confused. I think your child would be better served if you kept parent/teacher conferences limited to parents and teacher, and don't go adding step parents, live ins, whatever. Sounds like both you and your ex wife have control issues...you want present wife there; ex-wife doesn't...push, pull; push, pull. Both of you need to chill, think of your child, and quit trying to gig each other every chance you get. Why in the world would you consider "going to court" over some little piddly thing like this? Your ex wife isn't the only bitter, vindictive person in this scenerio, my friend.
2007-09-28 11:51:28 · answer #5 · answered by claudiacake 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Okay, you and your ex have joint legal custody. Your rights are the same as her rights, regardless, and your ex has no control over your current wife, period. (As I once had to tell my husband's ex-wife, "You aren't MY anything; you're his ex-wife.)
Now, I could completely understand your ex's protest if you intended for your current wife to attend the conference, IN YOUR PLACE, (although, again, if your wife has your permission, there is not legal reason she could not attend) but since you stated that you want her to go with you, there is absolutely no reason that your wife can't go with you. Your ex is being controlling and unreasonable. Just go to the conference
2007-09-28 11:55:53 · answer #6 · answered by working mom of 3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your ex needs to grow up. She should feel honored that your wife wants to be a good part of your child's life. My personal opinion is...I would feel good that my ex husband's wife is trying to be a part of my child's life in a positive way. There is nothing wrong with a child receiving love outside the biological family. She may as well get used to it, because, like it or not, your wife is a part of your child's life as well as your ex wife's life.
2007-09-28 12:00:09 · answer #7 · answered by Miss Behavin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legally, she can not keep your current wife from attending.
My husband and I are going through a similar issue because my husband is frequently out of the country and business and I do not get to see my stepdaughter while he is out of the country.
Your issue should not get taken as far as court, but if it did, the judge would laugh your ex out of the court room.
2007-09-28 11:52:11 · answer #8 · answered by Poopie Pants 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't take your wife - don't cause problems over small stuff - if it really bothers your ex-wife you should respect her wishes. this is about the kid not the new wife.
2007-09-28 11:52:50 · answer #9 · answered by no kidding 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋