i was in the park having lunch with a friend and a young mother with her child ages about 2 - 3, this child comes up to me and my friend and stares at our lunch, so my friend offered him a chip, the young boy took a chip then another and never said thankyou and we never recieved one off the mother on behalf of the child, the point was that me and my friend could have been anyone, was this right of the mother to let her child accept food off strangers? or was it wrong of us to give the child a few chips?? xx
2007-09-28 03:01:36 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well, the chips shouldn't have been offered, if they were, you should have asked the mother first. The mother shouldn't have let the child take a chip from you all either.
2007-09-28 03:04:37 · answer #1 · answered by CC 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The chips should never have been given to the child to begin with. Moreover, your friend should not have been thanked for doing something she should not have done in the first place. (Nor should she have been confronted for doing anything improper. The incident was over. Move on.)
If you had been, say, in a food court, I would say that the mother was not keeping her children under sufficient control. But in a park, it seems like a child ought to be able to wander off a little, so long as the mom is close enough to see him, hear him cry out, and come quickly to his rescue. Ultimately, a little child was just curious. But you're right. You could have been anyone and the chip could have made him ill.
Next time just say "Run along to mom," rather than giving a child something.
2007-09-28 10:25:13 · answer #2 · answered by Millie M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being a mother myself I can say that it depends on your gut. We have to make choices every day and if you would accept one as an adult more than likely you will accept it for you child. Kids are very curious. They will accept from anyone so you can't really judge the child. The parent should first extend manners, like the thank you the child will learn from it's teacher. As for your offering, you did nothing wrong really. If you are concerned then maybe ask the parent first if it would be alright if you gave the child a chip. It is good that you care. If it was a young mother chances are she is still learning. Much luck and prayers to her.
2007-09-28 10:09:03 · answer #3 · answered by who_indeed_cares 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well you would think that the mother would be watching her child a little better and not let her child take food from strangers, that just teaches the child that its' alright to talk or accept things from strangers, as in your case, you were just being nice but I think I would have alerted the mother first to let her know that her child came up to you like that. Maybe the mother was turned around and didn't see the child walk up to you, children do things so fast, thats why the mother should've been watching her child a little better I think.
2007-09-28 10:09:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Personally it was incredibly rude of the mother to just walk up to you and your friend and stare at your lunch. You and your friend did nothing wrong in offering the little boy chips...normally I would say that I wouldn't let my son take food from people we didn't know, but it was his mothers place to say something. Not getting a thank you from the kid isn't his fault..he obviously wasn't taught manners...because his mother didn't even thank you. You and your friend were totally disrepected by the mother. She shouldn't be teaching her child to stare at peoples food anyhow. Next time people stare at your lunch, send them to DSS for a food stamp application.
2007-09-28 10:07:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It was wrong of the mother not to say thank you and encourage teh child to say it as well. Whether you allow your child to accept food from someone else is a subjective call based on several things - if you were eating it, doesn't seem very risky I think it was fine to offer and for the child to accept.
2007-09-28 10:06:33 · answer #6 · answered by ledbetter 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You cant expect the boy to say thank you if his mother obviously has no signs of being brought up properly. Your not wrong that was actually a nice gesture, its her problem if she lets her child pawn food off other people, yes you couldve asked the mother but your intentions were in the right place.
2007-09-28 10:09:28 · answer #7 · answered by Queen of the Scene 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First the mother should of been watching her child. Stupid people keep having kids and don't watch their kids. I would of offered the kid a chip too. I would of asked the mom if it was okay but it doesnt sound like she was that worried about it. You weren't wrong, in my opinion. The mother was wrong for not watching her child who was obviously hungry.
2007-09-28 10:06:22 · answer #8 · answered by SRH 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You really must not give children food or sweets unless the parent or guardian is with them and you ask them first if it is okay to give them food, times have changes and you must be very careful, looking on the bleak side, what would you have done if the child had an allergic reaction to whatever you gave them? what would you have done if the mother had accused you of enticing the children? and last do not expect children to say thank you anyway, if they are not brought up to show respect and manners you cannot expect them to even be polite.
Ken
2007-09-28 16:28:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending upon the circumstances children are innocent it sounds as if the child was hungry.I know you intended well and you meant well,by offering the child a chip(s).If that was the case,then why are you airring her dirty laundry.Certain things are better left unsaid,but it not as if people using computers.Can walk-up and I.D. the woman out of a line-up.
2007-09-28 10:36:56 · answer #10 · answered by yp_will_chicago_369 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋