She loves me so much and i do the same also.. But I can't marry her cuz of the differences between me and her in the culture... We both agree about this tragic fact.. We tried to move on and forget each other but we couldn't... we still communicate by YM... cuz we are a bit far from each other... she is asking me to keep contacting her cuz she will feel bad without me. our relation is getting deeper and deeper everyday.. what we have to do?? should we permanently stop communicating?? or we stay as ordinary friends ? and how often we should communicate?? should we put rules for our friendship??? plz advice.. thank a million for ur help....
2007-09-28 02:47:33 · 9 answers · asked by Broken_Heart 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If you guys live in America, I can't imagine why you feel that your cultural differences are insurmountable. But if you both feel that it's best to not marry, I would break all contact. Trying to remain friends is going to be torturous for you. Which do you prefer---quick and sudden pain, or long and drawn out suffering?
2007-09-28 02:56:40 · answer #1 · answered by mt75689 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People are dogmatic, they make their views rules and expect people to follow them, they dont change their mind set but try to change the people around them. N people like u and ur gf submit urselves to these dogmatist. I dont want to be harsh.. I have never faced any hurdle in my life like this.. so I dont have experience to suggest u what to do and what not to do in this kind of a situation but still as a layman all I can say is u can go for either one of the two options that I will sugesst u below or else can follow someone else advice too.. Well thats solely on u.
People differentiate cultures and then they also talk about the fusion of the cultures.. which is highly impossible if these dogmas exists.
Ok here are my two options..
1. Dogmatically speaking, u guys should get separated and must stop communication once and for all.. coz I believe nothing can be stopped slowly.. its now or never... so if u guys r so worried about ur cultures then stop talking.. go away and get lost from each other lives..
and my second option is..
2. If u guys love eachother alot and cant live without eachother,, then omit this world called "culture" from ur lives and muster courage and face people around u boldly..
Dont become the subject of the dogmatism, refute their opinions and arguements..
No society is creedless.. irrespective of this many people promote their love in such a way that their love become an example for others.
Let the love lure u guys towards it.. take a oath that u guys wont get separated and sustain it..Dont let love be just a tag attached to lovers.. understand the real meaning..
Dont let this stiff society or ur cultures separate u guys..
Love is not a word use to jazz up something.. it is some thing very pure..
well ur the one who is facing the hurdle.. u know better than me.. how to deal with ur problem.. just do what u think is right..
Good luck..
bye
2007-09-28 03:16:42 · answer #2 · answered by FRIEND 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Culture reasons are not good reasons not to be together. If you love each other then you should be together. I know many people married who are very different but have the happiest marriage. At first their parents didn't speak with both of them until the grandchildren came. Then, everyone wanted to see their grandchildren. They are married for 46 years. I say if you love each other go for it.
Good luck.
2007-09-28 02:52:18 · answer #3 · answered by confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to have a long distance relationship going on,I see nothing wrong with chatting on line and being friends.Everyone needs someone they can click with as long as both of you agree to be just that,online friends.Don't isolate each other by having a online realtionship where you agree not to see other people off online, because the chances of you meeting each other sound slim. You each may be missing out on meeting someone special off line if you decide to just have a realtionship with each other on line. Unless you DO have plans of meeting one day and starting an off line realtionship.But what fun is it to have a boy friend/girlfriend relationship if you can't ever see each other or interact with each other off line?Your best bet is to decide if you two want to meet off line to start a relationship or just be chat buddies.
2007-09-28 03:03:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is this cultural difference?
If you love one another, you can work this through.
It might even turn out that you will be extra happy, because working over these differences (real or imagined) will strengthen your relationship.
Enjoy your friendship, and work on a way to be together.
2007-09-28 02:57:50 · answer #5 · answered by U_S_S_Enterprise 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! Still be together, just watch Blind Date. Great movie about a blind american and Indian woman who fall in love no matter about the culture.
2007-09-28 02:50:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why wouldnt u be able to be with each other because of her culture???... i dont think that culture should stand in ur way...if u guys love each other then that should be enough...
2007-09-28 02:54:21 · answer #7 · answered by Shorty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow i would not leave somone i love over culture!!! but i even if i was that stupid to leave someone over that, cause i think if you really love someone their differences dont appear, but whatever i would stay friends.
2007-09-28 02:50:49 · answer #8 · answered by Liz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when I breakup.....................if i really cared, I don't see or hear or contact her again.IT HURTS TOO MUCH !..............break up or get hitched....................if it is not going to happen........say goodby.........then no contact and move on..........
2007-09-28 02:52:15 · answer #9 · answered by richard t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋