My husband is an overweight person and is never interested in sex though after 2 or 3 days he bcomes ready for sex but is never able to make me enjoy. I m not at all sexually satisfied if i say him to visit the doctor he alwayz says that he is allright. He does never care for my body requirement . I m so confused it was our love marriage and he does love me but why does he not understand my urge to enjoy sex. I have passed many nights crying. Since the day i married him i am not at all happy.
What shall i do plz help me ??
2007-09-28 02:13:36 · 31 answers · asked by honey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not being sexually satisfied does not make you a virgin. I am not sure what your idea of virginity is ? What is it that your husband does every 2-3 days by getting ready for sex. You mean he gets ready and does nothing or he has sex with you but you dont feel satisfied ?
Try giving viagra to your husband. Take him for long walks. Go to parks where you can enjoy a good walk in pleasant sorroundings.
Food, Music, Atmosphere, Clothing, can be good aids to have an active sexual life.
2007-09-28 02:23:20 · answer #1 · answered by Pramod R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That sounds really tough. First of all, find a counselor because you both need help. Go yourself at first and get some insight on what your particular situation needs. Communication seems to be a problem and a counselor could help you express the severity of your problem to let your husband know just how much you hurt.
As a quick fix, check out adamandeve.com. Every woman should have a few good toys, I know it's not the same but sometimes it's better.
I wish you all the best.
2007-09-28 09:38:23 · answer #2 · answered by Track1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very serious problem. You need to tell him in order for the marriage to continue, he must see a doctor and you both need to talk about this problem. Sex isn't just something nice, it's a requirement for a healthy marriage (IMO). No couple married 7 months should still be virgins.
2007-09-28 10:01:20 · answer #3 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart! I am where you are in the same situation! Funny you should leave this message! I get through this with masterbation fully but it's wearing thin and I am in the urge and a part of me wants to cheat but I don't want to ruin my marriage and I truly love him! My husband just thinks everything is ok and he's in denial! But do one of my numbers I'm preparing to try be drunk and try to screw him that way! I don't know what else to do either! To think we been together 7 years and married 2 months!
2007-09-28 09:24:56 · answer #4 · answered by rita_hiemy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, If it has been luv marriage than u 2 must have been quite comfy with each other physically.Talk to him and try to understand his inhibition. Probably u being very beautiful and him being fat all around must be giving him inferiority jitters. U must give his male ego a boost when in intimate position and pamper him so as he is able to overcome his inhibition. Still if things don't work out and you both are satisfied in your relation except for this one activity than sit down and discuss and seek his permission for outsourcing the services for the gratification.
2007-10-01 03:56:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, if you can't persuade him to open his mind and learn how to pleasure you in the bedroom, the marriage will fail.
Everyone needs good lovin'...if he won't get help soon, you may have to consider getting your marriage annulled. It may not be the answer you're seeking but hey, if he's not going to fulfill his duties as a loving husband to you, what other alternatives do you have?
Try and seek councelling for your marriage first, if you continue to hit brick wall after brick wall, tell him, goodbye.
((Hugs))
2007-09-28 09:27:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there any chance he could be gay and loves you as a person but not sexually? Let him know that a healthy sex life is important to you and to your idea of marriage, and that you want him to see a counselor with you to work things out. And
don't expect him to meet all of your sexual needs - learn to satisfy yourself.
2007-09-28 09:24:57 · answer #7 · answered by Theresa 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need some outside intervention. Tell him you both need to go talk to either a marriage counselor or the pastor of your church. My best guess is he needs some Viagra but is embarrassed to go ask a doctor for it.
Kent in SD
2007-09-28 09:21:18 · answer #8 · answered by duckgrabber 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I sympathise with you. There are only 3 ways out:
1. get a divorce & marry a stud
2. get a boyfriend
3. tell him to improve...talk to him about it openly..tell what you are going through...& if he does not eild after that go to choice no. 1 or 2 whatever suits you
2007-09-29 09:32:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are confused about the definition of "virgin" if you are having sex whether or not you enjoy it you are certainly not a virgin anymore. If you aren't satisfied, take control. Try riding him instead of him making love to you.
2007-09-28 09:22:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋