How many women have been the "other women"?

Question

Has anyone been in a situation where you are a man's "other women" and gotten pregnant by him in this affair? What happend, what are your views of the situation if so? Thank you.

im not asking b/c i am the other women-im actually the wife. I just want to hear other point of views

Answer 1

I was the "other" woman once, but i didnt know it.. he told me that he was recently divorced and had 2 kids, that he had custody of, and only had me call his cell because the kids were still upset over the divorce and it would only cause them more pain to call the house phone and know he was interested in a new woman.. and he called me from home, all different times of the day and night so i didnt think much of it.. until one day i got a phone call from his "wife" saying they were very much still together, and that they have 6 kids , and that when he calls in the middle of the night its while she's asleep and he hides in the bathroom.. , needless to say.. I stopped seeing him at that moment.. because i respect marriage, and family .. and to cheat with a married person makes u just as guilty of adultery as the person married...

My thoughts on the situation ur asking about, is that the "other woman" is stupid, not only for knowingly seeing a married man, but then getting pregnant.. , Now more then likely if the married man already has children with his wife.. the "other" woman will probably end up raising this child alone..

Ive known 2 guys that were in that similar situation..

One left his wife and went to be with the mistress cause she was pg.. he cheated on his wife while she was pg, so his children are less then a year apart, and unfortunately his son with his wife ended up growing up with out a father, and the guy never got over the guilt.. as for his life with the mistress. that only lasted a few years, as he ended up resenting her because he actually loved his wife, he just got scared , he was young and about to be a dad, and freaked out.. and their relationship only lasted 3 years.. so he ended up losing both of his kids.. , he only see's one, a couple times a year, and the other he tried to see after 10 years of not being around and he wanted nothing to do with his father..

Then there was another man, who ended up trying to talk the mistress into getting an abortion, but she refused.., and then he tried denying he was the father, and then she got angry and told the wife, and the man confessed to sleeping with her but that she was just trying to pin the child on him, to get support and totally turned on the mistress started calling her trash, etc.. just to have it turn out in a paternity test after the baby was born that it was his.. at first his wife left him , and then he tried to hook back up with the mistress saying he was sorry that he only said those horrible things out of fear of what his wife would do, but the damage was already done and she didnt take him back, then eventually the wife came back and they put their lives back together, and he pays child support on the child with the mistress but refuses to see or having anything to do with the child .

So.. either way u look at it, the child ends up with out a father.. because usually when a man cheats, its not out of love cause if he loved his wife he wouldnt do it.. if he loved the mistress he'd leave the wife.. so usually the mistress is just someone that wanted to believe that this man loved her and that she was more then about sex, but the truth is, she was just a port in the storm, that he could have sex with and excitement in his life..and nothing more.. but because they will fill ur head with so much garbage, so many excuses of why they cant leave their wives, and these girls buy into their garbage, they actually get away with using both the wife and the mistress for their own selfish needs..

Answer 2

After my fiancee and I broke up (3 months before our wedding. I had the dress, the invitations were addressed, and my bridesmaids had their dresses on order), he started seeing another woman, (actually probably before we broke up, but he denied it). I was still in love with him and I clung to any affection he showed me. We were still very much a sexually active couple, but on the sly. I was only 19, and dumb. I did end up pregnant a few months later. I prayed to God not to do this to me, that I wanted to get away from him and start over, please don't make me connected to him forever. I prayed like that for weeks. I ended up miscarrying. I told him about it, and when I miscarried and he thought I had an abortion (I could never do that) and he was upset. I let him think it so he would stay away from me and I could start over. It scared the daylights our of me and really made me open my eyes to the fact that I didn't want him to be in my life forever. It was a life altering experience for me.
My opinion on it is this. Anyone that enters into an affair has no self respect (I know I didn't. I was willing to settle for whatever he offered, like some starving dog). That said, we are all human and make mistakes. Only you can decide what is the best route for you. He is either going to have to come clean with his wife, or you're going to have to resolve to raising this child alone (if you decide to carry it to term).

Answer 3

I have never been the other woman. And I would never want to be. If I know a man is taken, I do not proceed any farther, I dont even flirt. Like Katie C. said, we should all have a respect for eachother when it comes to that. I hate it when woman or girls are dating men that are married or have girlfriends and they are ok with it. There are plenty of single men out there and there is no reason to mess around with someone who is already taken.
But if you do not know that he is taken, then it is sad. Because you have already fallen in love, are about to have his child and you find out hes a liar and a sneak. I dont understand how someone can tell someone that they love them but lie about everything. You should always be truthful and honest with the people you love no matter how much it hurts.

Answer 4

Been there done that! Kept the baby, met a terrific guy after all that and made him the baby father and he raises my son as his own! His father knows and he doesn't intrude! But often sends gifts for every holiday and birthdays and every now and then sends a check! Still feeling like he has some obligation! But has nothing to do with the child which is fine but it eats his conscience and mine! But it works itself out the child has no clue who his real dad is and never will!!!!!!!!!! Not if I can help it!

Answer 5

i have never been the other women but my best friend has and was left to pick up the pieces when it all went wrong . although i tried to tell her again and again that men who have affairs very really leave the wife to settle down with you she still continued to see this man it went on for a couple of months and in the end as i knew he would he finished with my mate and left her devastated . i have never have and would never be someones plaything to pick up and put down whenever he felt like it not only are you disrespecting his wife but also yourself

Answer 6

I've never been in the situation of "other women" or getting pregnant by the guy.

Answer 7

Hahahaha

Answer 8

I've never been the other woman. In general, I think it's trampy to be the other woman (if you know it), because we should all have respect for one another -- if I know a man is taken, I respect him AND his girlfriend and wouldn't ever try to break them up.
To mess around with someone who is taken is very selfish, I think, because you are knowingly hurting someone else, just to pleasure yourself.
One of my best friends has been the "other woman" several times, with several different men, and it really made me lose a lot of respect for her, unfortunately.

Answer 9

i have i was seein a guy for a year and then he left me for somebody else but kept coming around all the time it was like he didnt want me but didnt want anyone else to have me i found out i was pregnant and told him he said he wanted me to have the baby but didnt want his fiancee to know about it but he didnt have to worry in the end as i had a miscarriage which maybe was for the best shortly after that i came to my senses and stopped meetin up with him i now have a new boyfriend who i totally love and trust i really forget that period in my life though

Answer 10

i was the other woman once. a long time ago when i was very young. no pregnancies or any fall out though. thank god. i look back on it and wonder how i could've done it but, i was young and had no idea what love and relationships were all about.