sometimes she dosent want me to kiss her or caress her and after the whole sex act is over she complains that i was selfish. how do you get aound this happening?
2007-09-28 02:00:12 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Cuz ur probably more worried about getting urself off then her... Not to sound cruel...My hubby was the same way until I discussed it w/ him!! It takes alot more to get a female off then a male.
2007-09-28 02:06:51 · answer #1 · answered by NONAME 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its so sad that you think that way. Your wife does a lot by working two jobs. And its YOUR mother and grandmother, so your the one who, mainly, needs to be taking care of them. OR you could at least put your grandmother in a home, with people that COULD take care of her! Just because your stressed, does NOT give you the right to cheat on your wife! Did you not feel the same way about your wife when you first started dating her, as you do this new woman? Just think about it - she's now PREGNANT with your child. Your going to have to start ALL OVER AGAIN! All over! And your 41. Your children were just about to graduate and hopefully start college, and MOVE OUT. You were almost done! Now, you have another 19 years. Congratulations. I feel so terrible for your wife. She, well NOBODY, deserves to be cheated on. Especially after that many years of MARRIAGE. I think your absolutely selfish! And I do not think your "situation" is at all justifiable. Sorry, but if you want an honest opinion, there you go. I would say good luck, but you dont deserve it.
2016-05-20 22:42:59 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men have a biological need to ejaculate. Too often, during sex, the orgasm takes priority over lovemaking for men.
The truth is, women are just as selfish as men during sex. They just have different needs, needs that take more focus, more effort to meet. I am considered a great lover but here's my secret, Ready?
I take all of the focus off myself, spend sometimes over an hour on stimulating her mind and body and delay my own enjoyment. A successful encounter usually means she has an orgasm before you even penetrate. How do you do that? It varies with each woman, that's where practice and technique come in. You have to be sensitive to her responses and keep doing things that heighten her pleasure, stop doing things that annoy her. She won't help, few women will tell you what feels good.
Finally, when she has been satisfied for the most part, then she will allow you to get off. hey, it's work sometimes but it pays off in the long run.
2007-09-28 02:13:35 · answer #3 · answered by morgan j 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Answer this to yourself How was the best sex that you have got with her? it could be when you were his boyfriend or in the beginning when you get married? Think about it, there was plenty of foreplay, plenty of care, plenty of love, plenty of pleasure. Try to revive those moments take your time as you did before that's why you marry her, believe me this work. Because when the time pass and by during the marriage gets a routine and kills sentimental feeling and sex. Then only have sex but without love, touch but without love and this is totally selfish because women get married because of love no because of sex. Men can separate love and sex but women mix it is everything if doesn't have the love touch is selfish. Ask her what do you want to feel and what kind of way, take turn the best way she first then you later. Marriage is about two person and be one so speak about it to be one.
2007-09-28 02:23:31 · answer #4 · answered by Charmed_Lady 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Communication is one of the most important aspects of any relationship. The two of you should discuss your likes and dislikes about sex and put them into action. One thing to always keep in mind to help yourself be more aware of your partner's level of pleasure is the anatomy of her body. Men and women are created differently physically, which also means that they need different types of stimulation to become aroused. The most sensitive part of a man's body is the tip or head of his penis (the glans), where as the clitoris is the most sensitive part of a woman. During embryonic development, both parts evolve from the same sensitive cells, but because of the location during sexual intercourse the man's most sensitive part is being stimulated while the woman's is not.
Most women need 10-15 minutes or more of foreplay before actually having sex. This gives her time to become aroused, helps to lubricate the vaginal walls, and climax....making a more pleasant experience during intercourse. This doesn't mean woman cannot climax during actual intercourse, we know they can, but foreplay increases the pleasure experienced.
Buy some books and study different techniques of foreplay and new sexual positions that help stimulate her. Throughout the day send her a naughty email or text.....anticipation increases arousal.
Spend time getting to know what she wants and needs sexually. Good luck!!!
2007-09-28 02:29:17 · answer #5 · answered by Gretta 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She obviously is saying your selfish and think about sex instead of her... and the case may be that she is tired and doesn't want sex .. but you do...and you just go ahead and do it anyways. Caressing and kissing someone who is not in the mood does not constitute foreplay...
I suggest you start listening to her and discuss this more in depth to prevent misunderstandings.
Good luck
2007-09-28 02:08:26 · answer #6 · answered by Say 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
poor baby..! well, since she says that you are only selfish "sometimes" i guess you are doing okay.. sometimes we as humans want to be "selfish" during sex and as long as it is not an every time occurance .. i don't see a problem..! the difference is that i think guys like it when we act selfish during sex! it is a turn on for them! it sounds like she doesn't want sex at those times and she is just letting you do your thing and when it's over.. she is resentful and says something..! sex is very much a mental thing for us.. (most of the time) and maybe you could become more attuned to her emotionally.. good luck!
2007-09-28 02:20:28 · answer #7 · answered by gingersnap6565 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well if ur willing to kiss and caress her and she dosen't want it and then says ur selfish. that dosen't sound right. something isn't right with her if ur willing and she declines, i would masterbate on her side of the bed then go to sleep. good luck with this cause i really think she just dosen't want u period.
2007-09-28 02:25:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her exactly what she wants during love-making. Have an open discussion, but not when you are in bed. Talk to her when s you're maybe sat together on the sofa or something.
2007-09-28 02:09:25 · answer #9 · answered by Bonnie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you both need to sit down and tell eachothers likes and dislikes so to stop any confussion. this will make the experience much more pleasent im sure. such as ensure her ultimate satisfaction b 4 yours in the way she prefers just ask her.
2007-09-28 02:05:02 · answer #10 · answered by DEBBIE D 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋