i think i want out in my marriage,coz i feel unloved,and we always jus argue.on and off for 16 years.id like to be civilise and not messy devorce coz of the kids.
2007-09-28 01:56:14 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Have you been drinking? You're slurring!
2007-09-28 01:59:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
There are one or two solutions. First of all, if you are in the UK I would approach the local council and put your name down for a house for you and the children. Whilst you are waiting, you should be setting up the 'squirrel fund' and making sure that you squirrel away as much money as you can without it being noticed (if you think there would be a problem). Also, make a note of every item in the house so that when you file for divorce, you can list all the items and split the proceeds 50/50. You will also be entitled to a share in the house which is also half. This will take some time but at least it is money and possessions you know will be yours eventually. It sounds all rather sneaky but if you want a clean break without rows, the less husband knows the better. Good luck.
2007-09-28 10:06:10 · answer #2 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing you got to do is get yourself into reality. 16 years is too long for there to be no love, unless someones mentally ill. Kids, school, bills, laundry, place to live. Figure that stuff out honestly. Is he a good Dad? Is he gona want to take care of his kids, or not mind you leaving and letting a "not the Daddy" be Dad. I'm sure you know the answers, see how it all fits. Want a divorce it usually comes out of the assets you get half just for asking the rest is up to you. Its about $3500 pretty cheap. Its being single that's hard, I've been divorced for about six months. It's lonely and you find yourself filling that lonliness with anyone thats willing. Its a hard road sober up and get prepared, but the hard road has a lot of hope which I find rather inspirational. As far as money goes miserable people spend about 50% of everything they got on trying to feel better so if breaking up will make you feel better its like doubling your income. But if it makes you feel worse your in trouble. Good luck. Personally I would reccomend you considering pretending you are divorced go out get a job, go threw everything in the house clean it, claim it, or throw it away, cut all the bills in half, start paying your half, have a sit down talk about life, cut all the housework in half, tell him he'll do alot more than supper three nights and five or six loads of laundry a week when your gone, pretend your in a new house living with a guy you don't really love but makes life easier for now, give him all the sex your gona give that new one, start being the independant woman your thinking about. What ever you think you may do single start doing it now, except for sleeping around. Keep it honest, remember you owe each other a clean break, and the kids two good people.
2007-09-28 03:20:43 · answer #3 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can apply for a divorce yourself - you do not need to employ a solicitor. Go directly to the court and get a form- yoiu simply fill itin and send it off to the court and they deal with the rest. Good luck
2007-09-28 02:21:27 · answer #4 · answered by sal-your pal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just leave him! just try to have a better job so for the future if you file a divorce you have a little money to spend. it would be unfair on your part to be with him wherein you personally feels no more love and attachment at all. you still deserve another man who will love and care for you, honey!
2007-09-28 02:10:49 · answer #5 · answered by ocean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just physically leave. You don't need a peice of paper to give you permission to leave. Just go.
After 2 years separation divorce is automatic anyway, unsure about the cost of that, but it's not so messy I know that.
For now, just move out or kick him out.
2007-09-28 02:00:41 · answer #6 · answered by Acai 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey get out as soon as you can. Do not be with a man just because of children if he does not love you go your own way. Lori
2007-09-28 02:03:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It costs very little. Go to the library. Take out a book called 'do it yourself divorce' - and do it. I did. Good luck.
2007-09-28 06:21:51 · answer #8 · answered by nipper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who have no money can still get divorced. Maybe you can get legal aid. Go to your Citizens Advice Bureau and ask them about it.
2007-10-01 19:04:38 · answer #9 · answered by kitty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always apply for legal aid, if you have no income...
But you dont need a divorce to leave...just go!
Most divorces start with seperation anyhow!
2007-09-28 02:03:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a job first
2007-09-28 02:00:43 · answer #11 · answered by prop4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋