In a Marriage situation! Why do some people CHANGE for the better or for the worse???

Question

Thanks Bella. Thanks guys for your honest answers!

Answer 1

Everyone changes, whether they are married or not. It is called growth. It takes place not just physically, but also emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. People develope new interests as they mature and sometimes leave behind old ones. It is the cycle of life. Marriage is all part of that cycle. You marry and you enter into a new kind of relationship, a new kind of commitment that requires change in both people. It's just life.

Why do some change for the better and some for the worse? Well, that is affected by the experiences each person has, how they face them, and how they are mentally, physically, and spiritually equipped to handle them. Change is an individual process. It cannot be evaluated in terms of the generalities of a marriage or life, for that matter. It just is what it is.

Answer 2

That's life...people always change as they get older, especially in a marriage. Who you were when you first married that person isn't the same person you are now, let's say 10, 20,30 years later. I believe a lot has to do with the influences around us. In fact, that's the truth. People who are in a commitment always have temptations and influences that spark their change. That doesn't necessary mean adultery....but for instance, friends and family who have freedom or do certain things in their life that the commited person wishes they can done. A married man may be happily married at home wishes to travel abroad and see the world and to have that freedom to just get away. A married woman who sees her friends going out on the weekends. All of those things are perfectly fine but it's when the partner doesn't allow it. That is when the person gets upset, fed up, or just plain bored with their situation. Life has a lot to offer and if that other person is not their to back you up or to join you in that journey, then there is conflict! People change because they find something they want to do or desire to become along the path. It all depends on who and what their influences are that changes a person for the better or worse.

Answer 3

Life is a struggle...overcome it. There are times where people go through changes. Some are stronger than others. On the other hand, some may take a while to become stong like the other. It all depends. Temptation is in everybody's nature as well as sin. Some people say I know I shouldn't do this b/c it would devastate my mate or me. Some people are careless and need more time to grow up and develop. Age is nothing, but a number. Now, people changing for the better actually see their error and they are willing to make up for it becuz they saw where they screwed up. It's just a part of life. All you can do pretty much is pray if u are a believer. Pray every day for positive vibrations to come your way and for your love one . There is always going to be obstacles and temptation everywhere u go. Unfortunately, it is inevitable.

Answer 4

There are certain things about a person that will never change. Once you reach a certain age that is a part of who you are and that part of you may never change. Although we all change as we go through life. Life experiences effect our outlook on life and that can change a person for the good or for the better. Some people change because they were never really being themselves and then one day the can't live that lie anymore.

Answer 5

Because we grow up and mature, sometimes our needs change as well. I mean a year ago maybe you wanted to buy and drive a truck now this year you want a sportscar, so yes we do change, but in a good strong solid marriage two people grow together, people who tend to grow apart are usually not ready to be in a serious relationship and personally have no business in one, they got married for all the wrong reasons.

Answer 6

There are two reasons for the perceived change:

1) the person has stopped wearing the masks of the dating world and reverted to their basic, true nature. Or . . .

2) the other person has gotten bored with the relationship and has stooped putting any effort into it.

Positive changes are often spurred by strong feelings of contentment, and joy at being in a stable, fulfilling relationship.

Answer 7

When your with someone for a long time you grow and change together. You see the eachothers good changes and ten theres that thing they do that just makes you wnat to throw them out of a window.. Marriage. Thats life.

Answer 8

people change for the better because they believe that they arent being a really good wife or husband they think that if they change that the wife or husband would love them a whole lot more than they usally do people change for the worst because they dont think that their relationship is not booming and that if they dont change for the worst because if they dont their wife or husband maynot me getting in the bed with them and they have to start forcing but thats only my point of view i hope you understand

Answer 9

because as we get older we grow into different people. It would happen with or without marriage, but that makes it more difficult. Especially if you don't like the person they have grown into. Just remember you loved them and remember why you do.

Answer 10

if its for better youll not no till at least 15 years 25years are safer if it for worse you question right wrong at the start worse already has major signs