Iam 14 and iam an love with my cousin.He too loves me.But my parents are very strict and i dont know what to do.He compells me to have sex with him but i refuse to do so.We have just kissed one another.HE is 16 and since iam not doing as he wants me to do so he gets upset with me.He thinks that iam a kind of kiddish.
So please help me out..........................
2007-09-28 01:33:57 · 7 answers · asked by rosi 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I will not give the usual answer or you are 14 what do you know about love....you could be very mature, we don't know you. What I do know, from being around for more than 30 years is that if love is true it can't be forced. If you truly love your cousin, and I sincerely hope this is not your first cousin, and if he loves you, you guys can wait until you are older to have sex. Having sex may seem like a simple act but having someone that close to your VERY personal space...well it changes things. He may think you are acting "kiddish", but I think he is acting like a bully, next you will be telling me that he said if you don't have sex with him he will go somewhere else and find a girl who will! This doesn't sound like love sweetie, it sounds like lust.
Take your time; don't let him pressure you, if he really loves you he would wait until YOU feel comfortable. There are ways he can relieve some of his stress in the meantime, if you know what I mean. He doesn't have to call you names, and if he does well that sounds kind of "kiddish" to me. Give it time, because you will never get this time to be a kid back. If it is meant to be it will be....but let it go for a while. Keep your strength up, you are not the first girl to be pressured by a guy into having sex before you are ready, and you won't be the last. Sex is something special and personal, not just something you do on a Saturday night, so please don't let him treat it that way, or YOU!
On a side note there are many ramifications to being with your first cousin, both from a society stand point and a genetic stand point. It is illegal to marry your first cousin in several states and all of Europe. The reason is actually a genetic one. When two people who have a similar genetic make-up conceive a baby, sometimes there isn't enough variety and the baby can come out formed weird...like not normal. So before you go and commit to being in love and only wanting to be with him, please take all of this into account.
2007-09-28 02:02:45 · answer #1 · answered by CaCO3Girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are correct do not have sex with him. Your parents are also correct.
Let him think whatever he thinks. You are not Kiddish.
In most country it is illegal to have sex with a cousin.
The reason is:
The child could be born with severe birth defects or even still born.
He can go to jail for forcing you. He should know this, birth control methods can fail, there is no method that is 100% good. You can get some desease or sickness.
He can go to jail even if you do co-operate, since you are only 14 years old and you are a minor. He can can get a 40 year jail sentence for just touching you. Two falonny counts each can carry 20 years.
He may not know all this but tell him to see a lawyer and show him this answer.
If your local law does not object to cousin having a relationship of this kind, still do not engage in this, without seeing a gynacologist and a gene compatibility expert a doctor and a lawyer too. You can have life time of problem.
Some states in USA allows the marriage, if the female is past child bearing age. I think it is Indiana, USA, female must be older then 55 years.
2007-09-28 01:48:07 · answer #2 · answered by minootoo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This boy don't love you or he would not be pushing you to have sex with him. He is using you to get some!!! You better stay away from him or you will regret it plus hello COUSIN that is suppose to mean something. You are kin that is wrong.
2007-09-28 02:57:11 · answer #3 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is your COUSIN, you have no business doing anything with him. You need to realize that is a bit perverted and stop it right now. Your parents would not approve because you are related and that is wrong
2007-09-28 01:45:11 · answer #4 · answered by ~Kayla S~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your hormones can run away with you.
I would suggest that you wait to have sex until you are ready. If you are not then it will not be as good as you would like.
Leave it until you are ready.
2007-09-28 01:41:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's 16 perverted and trying to get laid cause he probaly never has been before and the moment he does get it he will leave you. Plus its gross, unless your from the south then I guess they are more leanant down there.
2007-09-28 01:38:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
umm you have problems if your in LOVE WITH YOUR FREAKIN COUSIN!!! gross!!
2007-09-28 14:58:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋