I'm really fed up ..... I really need your help !! Would you ?

Question

*I'm really IRRATIONAL ...
and
*i can't hide my feelings..
I'm fed up of that
my heart get involved in every single emotion of mine ... i mean
when i get worried........ i get worried too much
when i love .................... i love too much
when i become sad...... i become sad too much
ok... so i mean.....everyting single emotion is really "too much"

and Please...don't tell me "just be yourself" ... coz ... actually now ... i don't wanna be myself .. or .. at least .. that's how i feel right now

so any sincere tips to overcome being such "irrational" ??

Answer 1

I like what slave of Allah said. I share his views.
Another thing, how people feel changes very rapidly, we have a very unstable psychi when it comes to how we feel about things.
Sounds to me that you are alive. That's how it feels to be really alive. If it's not broken, don't fix it.

Another thing. When you say that you're irrational, That is very rational. It seems you don't like something you just did. You would have done better if you had waited a while before acting. If that's the case, there's always a next time.

Answer 2

Emotions "flow" from heart so it's not wrong that your heart being involved in every single emotion of yours. The mistake lies in letting your heart do the whole job without controlling it.

Cure to going so far in your feelings won't be instantaneous, change will take some time to take place.

w delwa2ty ma3a eltaree2a:
You know what, Noha, NOTHING in this world is ultimate.
You can't find a single thing in this life such perfect, so when your heart loves , try to involve your mind, doing so will make you see what you're going to love from a different viewpoint that will make balance in your love.
When circumstances try to get you sad, involve your mind to think about it differently, look at the positive side and be sure there is always positives in any situation however bad it may seem, what happens is that we get too sad to see these positives.
And when things go wrong and out of control that makes you get worried, remember that Allah will always be there for you and He will never ever give you up.

Know that for every human emotion, there's such a plan to control it and not letting things go that far.

Answer 3

Noha, if this truly is becoming disruptive, you may want to check in with your doctor or some therapeutic place. Sometimes, it is a simple matter of this is how you have "taught" yourself, and sometimes it can be a symptom of emerging depression, or mild bipolar. Other times, it is a part of things such as being a teen (or menopause.. don't know your age). It can also be situational... ie you are going through some really rough times, and haven't stopped to analyse the stress, and possible effect on you.
When such things start really messing you up, it's good to get a trained evaluation. Since you already recognize that it is more than you are comfortable with.. you are on the right direction.

Answer 4

Silence/clear your mind, Look into your heart, is there anything good /positive you wanted to do for yourself?. The two above mention actions can be very hard to achieve, depending on your circumstances? So you may need to find a place far away from others ears and scream your guts out. Scream till you can't scream anymore. Then sit down, take several deep breathes and try and clear your mind. The answer is in you. Life is too presious to be feed up all the time! Good Luck

Answer 5

Perhaps your propensity to act out of your emotions is a habit of the will. In other words, your have habituated yourself to respond to the circumstances of life in this manner, and therefore have an underdeveloped ability to apply rationality to a given situation. This habit is not merely an accident, you have used this approach because it has likely worked in the past, but the benefit has likely been short term and the consequences have likely far outweighed the limited good that you have received. Breaking a habit is difficult and it requires that you acknowledge that the habit no longer serves a positive purpose in your life and that you will resolve to act contrary to the habit. This means that you must be willing to bracket your emotions as the primary means by which you interpret the yourself, others, and your overall relationship to reality.

Answer 6

Of course emotion is irrational; emotion is the opposite of logic. I find that when my own emotional state threatens to get out of control, I sit down at the computer and write a story or a poem. I also keep a handwritten journal. Just the act of writing seems to get me to focus on what I'm doing rather than what I'm feeling and it helps me to get things in perspective. I can only advise you on what helps ME, I can't tell if this would be cool for you to do. Good luck.

Answer 7

well, irrational isnt just feeling alot, its when the feeling isnt balanced with reality
for instance, if you worry about paying bills when you are out of work, and worry about that everyday, thats still rational
but if you worried about a tornado hitting your home everytime it rained or stormed (with no tornado warnings issued ) that is irrational
a natural part of youth is being gung-ho about almost everything, and very passionate, so if your young, know that this will change with time and while you will still enjoy and experience things deeply, you will be able to distance them more when you want to
one thing that might help is to write down your feelings, keep a journal, perhaps set aside a time each day to write in it,
you can combine that with setting limits for yourself, say you are worried about something, set an amount of time to focus on that worry, think about it, and try to limit yourself to that, and at other times remind yourself you have used up your half hour of worry for today, or thinking sad thoughts for today, etc
some of that time could be writing in your journal
write down your feelings along with any solutions you can think of for the problem,
as to loving too much, if its a healthy love i dont think there can be too much, you do need to love yourself first, and be able to maintain that while loving others,

Answer 8

I'd love to know you and be your older friend! A young person who is so attached to the world and so acutely aware is a treasure! Would that I could sing while you danced in the moonlight and seduced my son with your loveliness. He needs a good woman and you sound like one of the best...

Answer 9

Small tip for that

Change your mind for the different area(watching TV or Stand out for few min out side of your room)
Drink a cup of water immediately relax will get

Answer 10

20 mg lexapro daily