I'm fed up ........ I really need your help !! would you ?

Question

*I'm IRRATIONAL ...
and
*i can't hide my feelings..
I'm fed up of that
my heart get involved in every single emotion of mine ... i mean
when i get worried........ i get worried too much
when i love .................... i love too much
when i become sad...... i become sad too much
ok... so i mean.....everyting single emotion is really "too much"

and Please...don't tell me "just be yourself" ... coz ... actually now ... i don't wanna be myself .. or .. at least .. that's how i feel right now

so any sincere tips to overcome being such "irrational" ??

Addition:

Thanks soo much ... but i really wanna add...
i'm 22 ... so i'm not a teenager...
i've actually passed this period

** when i say "i get worried" i mean worried about people whom i love and care about... i've never became worried about any materialistic things

@ Nada:
my lovely sister..u know i'm talking "in general" not about a specific situation i wanna hide ... please don't say so.. you're the closest one to me and the dearest too

Answer 1

hi noha
this is a scientific method hope it helps you ISA


1- Write down what happened. Stick to the facts and be objective in listing them.
2- Write down your negative thoughts about the situation or event. Here, your subjective, personal view is allowed. List your assumptions, beliefs, predictions, and worries.
3- Consider the emotions that come from your thoughts. Make a list of them, keeping the items short and simple (angry, depressed, feeling worthless, and so on).
4- Look at your thoughts and try to identify one as irrational. (There may be several to choose from, but pick just one troubling or typical thought for this process.) Dispute this thought with the following steps:
* Is there any rational support for the thought? Since you already know this thought is irrational, the answer is "no." Whatever may seem to support it probably only supports a less extreme thought.
* What evidence exists to show that the thought is false? Thinking about each specific thing that points to the falsehood of the thought is useful.
* What is the worst thing that could happen to me because of this event? This step allows you to think rationally about the "worst case," which is usually much less terrible than what you may have been thinking.
* Is this thought a reality or is it just your perception? Because perceptions can be changed, they are much less disturbing than if this thought were a reality.
5- Change your negative thoughts to positive thoughts to change your perception. Substitute more realistic views of the event or situation. Now that you have looked at both irrational and rational thoughts connected with this event or situation, it is easier to recognize them and react positively.

wish you the best my dear sister

Answer 2

Emotions "flow" from heart so it's not wrong that your heart being involved in every single emotion of yours. The mistake lies in letting your heart do the whole job without controlling it.

Cure to going so far in your feelings won't be instantaneous, change will take some time to take place.

w delwa2ty ma3a eltaree2a:
You know what, Noha, NOTHING in this world is ultimate.
You can't find a single thing in this life such perfect, so when your heart loves , try to involve your mind, doing so will make you see what you're going to love from a different viewpoint that will make balance in your love.
When circumstances try to get you sad, involve your mind to think about it differently, look at the positive side and be sure there is always positives in any situation however bad it may seem, what happens is that we get too sad to see these positives.
And when things go wrong and out of control that makes you get worried, remember that Allah will always be there for you and He will never ever give you up.

Know that for every human emotion, there's such a plan to control it and not letting things go that far.

Answer 3

First of all, habibty, I don't think you need help because you don't have a problem and you are not being irrational as well! There's nothing wrong in showing someone's true feelings so why do you need to hide it?

I think what you're trying to say is that you want to be able to control your emotions. You probably just need an outlet and you have lots of friends here that are willing to listen to any concerns or issues you have. Talking out things help a lot and you know how to reach me...

Take care and don't worry too much!

Answer 4

First I should tell you there is no 100% solution for this. Many kind and nice people nowadays has the same problem.

You should learn hwo to have about 5 to 10 minutes to relax your mind and think about nothing while closing your eyes. You can do that once daily or twice a week or once weekly.

You should also have one way to express your feeling like drawing, playing music, sport, writing or whatever you feel you can show your mind in.

Real friends who you can have time to show your mind with are the best positive effect, I know it's not easy to apply the word "real" these days.

Answer 5

I know this sounds like the "same old" but the truth is, support groups are very good. It's not just being with people who share the same issues, it's being able to talk freely, express yourself and learning from each other. You're with people who understand and don't dismiss your worries as "you'll be OK tomorrow". Also, an excellent book is "Women who love to much". It's not just about loving to much but all the excesses you mentioned. You can't solve this by yourself, when someone doesn't want to be who they are, help is needed. Don't go it alone, you don't have to. Good luck!

Answer 6

Hi ya Nonna ya Gameela,

II am not going to say "just be yourself" so u want be mad at me, but i will try to reassure u that this is a phase that we have all gone through when we were a bit younger, but then life teaches u to me more patient and understanding and to take things easily coz the first person that is affected by this "enthusiasm" is you, then off course yr loved ones who feel miserable when they see u feeling "too sad".

I just want to say something about Love, u can never love too much unless it is unrequited love, (from one side), then u r wasting yr time and emotions on a lost case. Other than that, please feel free to love tooooooooo tooooooooo much, coz life is much better when we all love each other.

Edit: try to let yr mind think a bit before reacting in any situtation and listen to it when it says "stop".

Answer 7

it gets a bit better with age, the best thing to do is widen your range of stimuli, ya3ni have many people around you, so when someone is bad news the other is good news, someone makes you sad someone else is making you happy, have hobbies to distract you and really absorb your mind and body, playing a game (even if it's online) is great distraction, physical activities take away tension and leave you relaxed, reading focuses your attention on different subjects, try yoga to teach yourself how to get detached, not to be too involved, and i don't think you are irrational, probably a sensitive person which isn't all that bad ! :)))

Answer 8

My dear sister Noha, plz calm down. It must have been a big thing that made you post the same question in 5 different categories and losing 25 points in 5 minutes :D
Anyway, I am not an expert about girls emotional crisis, but I think you could use the answers from Hope and Nada. They are quite sincere about you, honest.
Cheer up please, da ehna fe ayam moftaraga

Answer 9

Your complain shows compassionate, sensitive and sincere personality, I think in case of happiness and cheerfull reactions you don't need any help just release your emotions and enjoy happiness.

However, I would like to share with the following tips that I hope it will help when you have a situation that upsets you.

-First of all, you have faith and deep believe in Allah ya Noha, so don't forget Allah, who is always beside you and will not fail you.

-Give it a wise while and think with your mind and not heart for few minutes.

- Try to be fair towards yourself

-Remember there are many miserable persons in this world who have disaterous problems and you are much better than many many of others.

-Think about the event, does it worth all your sincere emotions or not.

-Thinks about the results of your reactions and flow of emotions, is it justified and worth it ? or it will have bad impact on you and on the others?

-Do you think that your reaction emotions would solve a problem and change result?

-Is it appreciated by the other part of the event?.

-If you find yourself influenced by the event, try to control your reaction to be proportional to event not more.

-Have confidence with yourself and try to control the direction of events and resist the events driving you

-Remember the close persons and friends, who love you and support you on top of them your sincere sister.

-Remember the beauty in this world, remember all your principals, goals and dreams that you want to achieve, remember the more important things in your life that have higher values.

-Learn lessons from those events and teach yourself how to deal with it efficiently in future

-Learn to be stronger and wiser after every experience, otherwise you will be paying a lot and gaining nothing.

Answer 10

I noticed that you never mentioned "happiness" in your emotions. You talked about worry, love, sadness but not happiness.

Anyways, a guy once told me " When you're happy, don't get too happy. And when you're sad, don't get too sad".
Try to be all mellow.
Whenever I get too emotional, I always remind myself that I am just one man out of millions.
Being too emotional is a "selfish" feeling. I am sorry to have put it this way, but that is just what it is. And I am selfish too. I always think that if something bad happened to me, then I should sob in tears and that the world should feel for me. That is not the case though because I am not that big a deal.
I know that it is not a nice way to say it, but this is the way I snap out when I am feeling blue.
So , toughen up.
You'll be ok. It takes guts to admit that there is something wrong with you. And you're still young. You'll be better in the future.