We use to run a restaurant in Long Island,NY. We saw a business opportunity in his area of Turkey(big tourism boom in the last 5 years kdue to windsurf becomming popular ) . We built a small hotel which took forever due to a very laid back attitude about eficency.Now it's opened and with the Summer season over we are very slow. I am sitting here bored, fustrated and scared. I can't leave because all my financial holdings are buried here. My husband is Turkish,after returning here 3 years ago has reversed back to local attitude and customs & forgotten his 13 years of aggressive life style in New York.I am very confused about what to do. If anyone has any suggestions on how to cope with this type of lifestyle please help.
2007-09-28 00:22:27 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm from Russia,but I have spent 5 summer vacations in Turkey. I know their culture, they r pretty different from Europeans and Americans (as I guess).Turkey is perfect place for vacations, but not for the rest of your life. I sadly have to say that it's kinda dead end for u. Turkey considered to be secular , but Muslim traditions r still strong over there .But if your decision -to stay there,first of all u should learn language and law. I know many women from other countries married to Turkish - sometimes they need help to resolve their problems in Turkey. In case of conflict situation with husband - they r alone!!! language and law- it's important - good luck.
2007-09-28 02:10:15 · answer #1 · answered by Ginger0106 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should live in Mississippi. Life is slow there too. Fast food means you get it in 10 minutes or so. They only have two speeds--SLOW and SLOWER!!!
It is hard to adjust, but your health will benefit from it once you have adjusted and made new friends.
Immigrants come to the US and do it all of the time. It just takes time and patience.
In the meantime, try to read a lot, develop some hobbies, a study the culture and language.
2007-09-28 07:28:47 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
on whose name is this hotel? if it is in his - i can't tell u anything nice, u re screwed. but if it is 50-50 at least ( i thou hope it is in your name) u may sell it. and return back. i can't imagine that anybody would go and live to turkey among those people. they have different culture, different attitude. u had a lot of courage to go there.
2007-09-28 07:28:47 · answer #3 · answered by yeahright 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get out of there pronto. Just save enough to get yourself a plane ticket and don't tell hubby a thing about it. Just go! If you get out, consider yourself lucky to be alive and DON'T go to relatives house. He'll find you easily there. I think he "duped" you and you need to do what's best for you.
2007-09-28 07:46:08 · answer #4 · answered by Wet Doggie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try going to the US Embassy in Turkey and see what they can suggest to help you.
2007-09-28 16:39:30 · answer #5 · answered by merry59 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
have a serious talk to your husband and tell him about your concern before you start doing anything stupid....tell him about how you feel and see if things will be better after then....good luck!!!
2007-09-28 07:28:38 · answer #6 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋