My first and last McCann question?

Question

Forget all the conspiracy theories, and everything written in the gutter press, and put yourselves in the McCanns' shoes. If you were 100% completely and utterly innocent how would you feel about some of the very negative things that have been written and said about you? I have my own thoughts about what's going on, but what I want to know is how YOU would feel if you were a McCann and you KNOW you are innocent? What effect would the negativity have on you?

I'm sorry, I forgot about them leaving their children unattended.
What I meant was if they are innocent of actually harming their daughter.

Answer 1

they brought it on them selves.

Answer 2

I really don't think ANYONE could answer this question honestly..as none of us really know how they feel...and wouldn't want to !
However i admit openly that i am one of those, as certain people put it..Anti McCann.....which i feel is a very unfair description of someone who simply has a different opinion than someone else !
That DOES NOT mean i think they are guilty of murder..because i have NEVER once thought that....and i still don't think that...all i believe is that i think they know something...and like the rest of us...im not sure what..its just a feeling...that does not make me EVIL !!
Like the rest of you i don't know the McCann's personally so i can't say for definate whether they are guilty or not..unlike some people on this site who say they are 100% innocent..and maybe they are...but how do they know that ??
Its a two way street !
But in answer to your original question..i think if they are innocent then they have nothing to worry about..and the bad comments, some of which i have to say are well below the belt and completely un called for will go right over their heads..im not saying it won't upset them slightly and im sure they want to scream to the world..WE ARE INNOCENT.....and if they are.. then they have absolutely NOTHING to worry about except finding their little girl !!!
I think to be fair their advisers have advised them wrongly in many ways.....i think having their own PR Spokesman has done more harm than good..and i think the fund has caused them even more problems with regards to public opinion...however i honestly don't know what i would do if i were in their shoes....i dread to think !

Answer 3

Horrible.I would try not to lose focus as best as I could. I would seek help where I needed it from family and friends and continue to search for my child.

What I fail to understand is for every action there is a reaction, the lack of the mccanns actions and their general behaviour is what made a lot of people dislike them in the first place and it has all just snowballed since then. You can't just feed yourself to the media and not have someone to guide you if you can not guide yourself. The media will spin what the general public are feeling. Putting that into perspective, they could have changed that if they really wanted to by exposing themselves looking for their child instead of flying in planes everywhere, etc, etc. The man that is doing PR for them right now seems to have tried though I don't think it has done much. Too little too late I think from the pr team and the mccanns themselves. They lost a lot of people when they left their children alone. Just because it seems to be the normal thing to do for years, doesn't mean it's right.

I have to add, I can't believe someone just compared Kate to looking like a Holocaust survivor, are you flipping serious? Are you actually going to go to the extent of insulting millions of people to defend this person? I can't believe that. Thought I had seen it all when it came to this.

Answer 4

I am often stunned by the lack of compassion. Bad things do happen to good people. And for those who say "it could never happen to me because I'm a superior parent" - you're just kidding yourselves. Life happens, fate happens and we cannot control every aspect of our children's lives. I've heard of children being stolen from their beds before now, while their parents slept in the next room. It happens, it's bad, and life stinks. It isn't always a reflection of your parenting. The bottom line is the McCanns thought their children were safe, they weren't far away. They were wrong. If they didn't murder their child, then someone else took her and evil was brought into the picture. And actually, most people don't spend their lives looking for evil.
And again, those who say they would be more concerned about their child - tell me, what good would it do to have the wrong people banged up? That way the search would well and truly come to an end.
If the police have the evidence to arrest the McCanns, let them do so. At least all the cards would be on the table, in front of a jury and we, and the McCanns, could get on with our lives.

Answer 5

If I was in the McCanns shoes I would feel totally ashamed and heartbroken that I had lost my beloved daughter because I chose to go out with my friends instead of caring for all three of my children. I would never ever get over it, I would expect all the critisism and more. I would not be able to face my mother again with her knowing that I had neglected my children as they meant the world to her.

Answer 6

I can not imagine the pain heart ache sick feeling that the family must be feeling right now you know when someone says i know what you are going through how can you the only people that have any idea of the pain are those that have been in similar situation it must be a 100 times worse than what i can imagine thank god they have the twins to keep them going and to be strong for with out the twin it would be harder to bear my trust in humans would be minium only close friends and family would i trust

Answer 7

I don't think I would have coped with such dignity myself. I admire the McCanns inner strength throughout this whole tragic episode.

I would hate to be in their shoes. It must be the worst feeling in the world ever. Not knowing where your child is, what is happening to her, your imagination working overtime with the things she may be going through, or even if she is still alive and ontop of that, all this hate directed toward you.. I would like to think I could cope, but in reality , I very much doubt that I would. I'd be in hospital by now being drip fed.

However, they do say in times of extreme stress and adversity the Human brain is a very adaptable tool. It can cope.. apparently?

Answer 8

If it was me I would tell my family to back off for a start and keep quiet the same as Robert Murat has done. Hiring all these people and having their family leak things to the press has been a stupid move and kept them in the papers. They could have just quietly put billboards up in the continued search for Maddy like they proposed to do 3 weeks ago and stayed out the lime light themselves. Of course they would feel crap if they are innocent but anyone would, but stay out of the limelight and at least it won't be thrown in your face daily.

Answer 9

Id only worry about what my family and friends thought.Im sure that they understand these people who believe what they read in the papers are going to be negative,they are intelligent enough to know that so I doubt that is worrying them.
If your child was missing Im sure these people would be the least of your worries,and dont forget they have a lot of people supporting and sympathising too.

Answer 10

If I put myself in the McCanns shoes I'd be unable to be 100% innocent because of my gross negligence in the care of my children while I went drinking.

I'd probably be unable to show my face in public instead of taking every photo opportunity and media interview possible.

I'd also realise that an admitted incompetent parent has no business publicly juding the competency of others (ie the PJ)

I'd also disown all my "friends" as their blabbing to the media seems to have the exact opposite effect it intends.

I'd also easily be able to avoid the negative media speculation as I'd be rotting in jail awaiting my gross negligence charges filed by child services because I'm not a high profile doctor.




Oh and that someone dared to compare Kate McCann to a holocaust survivor is sickening. People in this place love shooting their mouth without educating themselves.

Answer 11

For a long time, I kept quiet about what I thought of them (before they were made suspects..) because I thought no matter how everyone else judges them, they themselves will be their own harshest critic, and no matter what we (I) said/thought about them, they would think worse about themselves...
But unbelievably they seemed to forgive themselves with remarkable ease and Kate herself said she had come to terms with the guilt she felt ("mostly") this I cannot understand, but then their story kept changing every few days, and now while I do not pretend to know what happened, I cannot feel any sympathy for them, whilst I have all the sympathy in the world for Maddie.
This nightmare was preventable, and I can understand why they felt safe in Portugal , it is the sort of place where you do feel at ease, but I would never expect anyone to leave 3such young babies on their own full stop!!!!!!!!

IF I was in the McCanns shoes, to be honest the negativity surrounding me, I would feel deserved, and NO-ONE would hate me more than I despised myself....