I've been seeing this girl (31, Divorced, 1 child) for 9 months. I treat them like they are my family. At first she told me that she doesn't see herself with a "heavy" person. I thought she ment someone like 400lbs. She ment me--I'm 5-11 220lbs with type I diabetes. If any of you know Its hard to maintain weight, regulate diet and blood sugars. Anyway our relationship progressed as if she never said it..we did everything together as a bf/gf or even being married.. Her son fell in love with me and even calls me "Daddy Todd" His dad is in his life weekly but I guess he really likes me. I change his diaper, read book, feed him, give him a bath, say prayers and put him to bed. His Mom says "Your a great friend Todd" Like kicking me in the nuts. She has needed cash, I've given it to her. But the big thing is she is a devoted Christian and works at a church. You wouldn't think someone would be so judgemental. She had a bad marrige 7 long years of being unhappy and not satisfied..
2007-09-27 23:40:52 · 9 answers · asked by wingslevel1977 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Todd, you need to find someone that appreciates you for the wonderful person you really are. She has made it quite clear that she is not interested in you and it appears that as long as you are around, she will make use of you. Move on, make yourself happy! By the way, not all those that profess to be Christian truly are.
2007-09-27 23:46:45 · answer #1 · answered by jingles 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is not up to you to judge her, it is up to her God. At least she was honest and told you how she felt. You have no right to expect anything more than that.
On the other hand, it would be nice if people saw other people that have medical problems differently from those that are just not taking care of themselves. You really don't have that much extra weight compared to many people that suffer with diabetes.
Hopefully she will learn to love you, or you will find someone else that will love you as you are.
2007-09-28 06:50:24 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be your self. ask your deepest heart, it wont lie to you. and pray.
You have feeling, and maturnity, why you worried about what the church gonna say baout both of you, if you like her, and you feel they cn comfort you, why you should leave them, no matter they "using you as a money maker or spare part daddy" or they really likes you presence, if you feel comfortable near by them, so keep close!
No one in the world can guess whats gonna happen, but you should be fair to yourself too, if you want to have your own family ( i mean wife etc) you should considering her position too. if you think you love her and her son, and cn spend your life together, why dont you be together and make a happy life, start now, dont wait, be a gentle man, dont ever think about money for your happiness, not even for other people happiness, especially if a little child like you very much, it seems you are really trustful ( little kid will never likes people who not REALLY nice for them) so it is lucky you!
God never judge you to stay away from someone who divorced, HE will always blessing every one who always nice and trustful.
so nothing to worry about, if you like to do those things in your life, so do it, if she want to be your friend only, well you must know: a small seed, if you plant it in a fertile soil it will grow fast and healthy! so if you want her to get closer and closer, and wanting your relationship into next stage, you must fight for it, palnt it in the fertile soil, and keep it with care and tenderness.
ps: i dont think she MEAN IT when she said "heavy"person is not her type, maybe she just want you to know and realize that she wanting a little bit space for her privacy, and it is possible for her to change her mind anytime...
good luck!
2007-09-28 06:58:16 · answer #3 · answered by MaDaM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she does not see herself with you, and it sounds like you wanted to hurry up and get married and have an instant family, it is clear that is not what she wants.
She is using you as a babysitter for her kids, how long are you going to let her do this to you, you are so nice!!!
Tell you what, propose to her, and if she "freaks out", and says no, then you know where you stand!
Then you will have to think, "should I stay, or should I go now"??
2007-09-28 06:53:14 · answer #4 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she's just using you for a support system. It's also possible that she's still hurt from her last relationship and isn't ready to open herself romantically again just yet.
2007-09-28 06:45:17 · answer #5 · answered by bezsenný 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
if you are in love with her ask her frankly what she feels about you and that you dont want to waste your time on her if she doesnt feel anything about you.
2007-09-28 06:57:38 · answer #6 · answered by patyms35 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you must take care of them, they needs you
2007-09-28 06:43:48 · answer #7 · answered by Sim 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
If she's not letting you tap that ***, you should leave.
2007-09-28 06:49:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes.
2007-09-28 06:43:54 · answer #9 · answered by freestyler 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋