What can I do to pick myself back up?

Question

I'm having a lot of problems lately - my life has become increasingly stressful and I'm dealing. On top of that, I'm having a lot of problems with my husband, and with my family. Depression is overwhelming me. I was wondering if anyone could give me any pick-me-ups that work for them when they're feeling down. I'd really appreciate it.

Answer 1

At first, don't occupy yourself with anything. Let your mind be free of BS and forced chores. Your depression may get deeper during this time, but in my case, it helps me hit the bottom quicker. Once you hit the bottom, the mind has reached a "reset" point. If you try to impede this with faking this and faking that, just putting band-aids on things, it may take you longer to recover.

The mind has it's own way of knowing when you hit the bottom - you should experience a peace-like moment. Well, I'm here, I am true with myself, I realize that some things in my life suck, or whatever. It's important to reach the point where you are in peace with your circumstances, no matter how bad they are...you should recognize them as bad, and you should recognize you as good. Remember, we may make bad choices but we, at the core, are good.

So, once you realize you've hit the bottom, and you have come to grips with the TRUE realization of your circumstances and your place in the world, it's time to start crawling out of the deep. It may be a hard process, but at least you are crawling back up, instead of being in the no-man's land or going downward.

Tackle each problem with honesty...whether it's work, family, or whatever. Always be honest with yourself and others. Do not be afraid of being honest and do not be afraid of taking steps to fix things. Ultimately, we can only control what we say, what we do...we can not control what other's say or what others do. This is your life - yes we share a lot of it with coworkers and spouses, etc. but this is your life. Be comfortable with yourself and pursue the path of making the circumstances better for you. Treat each step as a challenge, and grow your inner strength to rise up to this challenge. Even though we lose our senses sometimes, we are all blessed with a warrior spirit. Use the warrior strength within you...do not let the darkness overtake you. Ultimately, there is nothing in the darkness.

Once you start getting near the top of the abyss, hopefully with your spirit at peace and determination to reach the top soon, you should start feeling better about yourself from the inside out. Now it's the time to go out, take a drive, do something fun with the family, complete a project at work, etc. You should be flowing with positive energy.

Again, this will come naturally to you. It's just the nature of the depression cycle. I go through it once a year, at the same time of the year (I don't know why) but I see it now as a cyclic process:

* you start falling in the abyss
* you let yourself hit the bottom as quickly as possible
* you come to certain honest realizations about yourself and the world around you
* your mind resets
* you choose to fight and crawl back up
* you crawl back up like a warrior
* you change your circumstances for the better
* you take control of yourself and direct your positive energy unto the world

Hey, didn't mean to write a novel here, but hope it helps. I'll stress again - bring your mind to PEACE, be HONEST with yourself and others, do not be AFRAID to crawl back up. Life is GOOD and so are U!

Answer 2

Your never going to feel better if you ignore the bain and jsut try and forget it so the best thing is to stop find someone to talk to wether its a friend a family member or a proffessional and sit there adn alk and let all your emotions and feelings out.
i knwo what your saying, its not that easy to talk... so maybe right a few things down first... or right them an email?

then once its all out in the open its about making a change. so find things that could make a difference.

then its about rewarding your sucsess. so join a sport that you loved as a child or, try something new.

At work the other day we were talking about silly fun ways to just have fun with yourself.
Try pulling a face at yourself everytime you walk past a mirror... or just haave a random fake lugh coz your body doesnt know the difference between a real laugh or a fake laugh so it releases the same indorfans and gives you the same body functions.
also dancing and singing to your favourite music when your home alone is always fun.
its just about letting yourself relax and let it all out.

Answer 3

Nothing can substitute for help from someone who knows what she's talking about, but I would say you need to place yourself in situations and with people who can discourage your desire to self-injure. Of course, you can't have someone at your side 24/7, but it sounds like you were doing well until something triggered your depression and sent your over the edge. Find some people you trust and avoid situations that have proven bothersome in the past. This is all just my completely uneducated opinion, of course. If you're on medication already, then you should definitely bring this up with your physician. I'm sorry you feel as you do. I've never been there, but I've seen it before. I wish you the best.

Answer 4

Hey, in a way, I understand what you're going through.. My life is one big ball of stress!! I even had to move back home to look after my parents... Depression sucks, big time.. I'm medicated for mine, but for a few years, I wasn't...

People have different ways to pick themselves up when they're down..I usually do whatever I can to take my mind off things.. Sometimes I'll just go on pointless drives to beaches and stuff to clear my head (and have a cry where nobody can see me) I go to the shops, I crack jokes and do silly little dances, I visit friends etc.. i just do what I can to keep myself distracted and disappear into my own little world for a while :D You just have to try and distract yourself and keep your head up..

I hope things work out for you

Best of luck....

-KiKi

Answer 5

One thing that works for me is this: No matter how bad my life is, there are others worse off than me. If you are having chronic depression, I would suggest talking to your doctor for medication or a referral to a psychiatrist and a counselor. If nothing else, you need to be empowered to deal with these situations and these other people who are bringing you down. Good luck

Answer 6

Grab a Friend go have a coffee in a shopping centre (mall) and laugh at people that look strange(childish but fun)

Answer 7

Occupy your mind with something else, like crafts, or movies. Just set aside some time for yourself when noone [and nothing] else can bug you.

Answer 8

Hi lindsey...I can totally relate to you right now. If I had the money, I think I would get on a big bus, and go as far away from here as I could go, and not look back..Ever feel that way? It's like no one cares, isn't it...but the only thing that get's me through, and back on track...is my faith in God and Jesus...They sooth me, and assure me that I am going to be alright...Read this scripture, and feel better...God Bless, and I wish you the best...all things pass in time, and you will be stronger for the course...and there is a reason for that..Hold on girl,..there is light at the end of the tunnel xxxx :Luke 6:20-31
20) And he lifted up his eyes on his disciples, and said: "Blessed are you poor, for yours is the kingdom of God. 21) "Blessed are you that hunger now, for you shall be satisfied. "Blessed are you that weep now, for you shall laugh. 22) "Blessed are you when men hate you, and when they exclude you and revile you, and cast out your name as evil, on account of the Son of man! 23) Rejoice in that day, and leap for joy, for behold, your reward is great in heaven; for so their fathers did to the prophets. 24) "But woe to you that are rich, for you have received your consolation. 25) "Woe to you that are full now, for you shall hunger. "Woe to you that laugh now, for you shall mourn and weep. 26) "Woe to you, when all men speak well of you, for so their fathers did to the false prophets. 27) "But I say to you that hear, Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, 28) bless those who curse you, pray for those who abuse you. 29) To him who strikes you on the cheek, offer the other also; and from him who takes away your coat do not withhold even your shirt. 30) Give to every one who begs from you; and of him who takes away your goods do not ask them again. 31) And as you wish that men would do to you, do so to them."

Answer 9

what i usually do is write a poem about how I feel then share it with people. Knowing that people appriciates what you can do makes me feel whole lot better.

Answer 10

try doing daily exercising ,like 30minute brisk walking light exercise to tighten your abs.and think positive.
scotty