This is a question that comes up quite a bit in my conversations with students, friends, etc.. I am in the process of doing a lot of soul-searching and re-evaluation of my past relationships. There is a part of me that doesn't want to believe this common belief, but I have to admit that my best relationships in the past have been with men I had no interest in at first, but who enjoyed pouring on the romance and friendshp and getting me to change my mind. On the flip side, I also see this pattern of men either disappearing without explanation or putting a lot of distance between us as soon as I let them know I like them too and want to spend more time with them. I have found this to be esp. true of men in big cities like NYC. What do you think is happening here? If a woman nowdays has to play "hard to get" in order to get a man, then that leaves me out of the game. It goes against my principles or beliefs to lie, hide, evade, manipulate, or play games. Thoughts?
2007-09-27 21:54:12 · 10 answers · asked by Indi 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it has something to do with those hunter/gatherer genes. Men today still pay billions of dollars a year to go hunting. There's no real difference when it comes to their pursuit of women, in many ways. Let's just hope we don't end up as dinner instead of being invited to one. Even in bed, have you ever noticed the terms they use? I hate to be crude but words like, meat, eat, heat, beat, etc., not only rhyme but gives a man a certain rhythm to what he really enjoys, sex. The allure of sex is that men can never get to the one place that they are trying to attain, and that is back into their mother's wombs.
2007-09-27 22:06:04 · answer #1 · answered by Chiksita 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Young guys are in it for the conquest, show other guys you can get the puttiest sexiest girls. After we mature we learn some of what "Ladies" like in us, but then some of us never do and are little boys till we're old. The luck ones of us contact with something, not sure what it it (maybe you do) and can open up our feelings and listen to the Ladies as they do try with some of the "Less Mature" of us. I have had many girlfriends when I was young, long term relations with Ladies, and now married to a "Really Special Lady". Ladies, most girls(Young and older excluded), are great,easy to talk to, smart "Smarter then most people think and they let on sometimes". Myself I think I have more Lady friends then guys, most times when we sit and talk my Wife is there and some I think she like talking to them as much I do.
Sorry I could go on like this all night :-)
2007-09-27 22:19:45 · answer #2 · answered by sidecar0 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may be right to some extend. But based on my practical experience, intelligent men do not lose interest because they must have studied the person (lady) and must have developed confidence and trust on that said lady(ies)' behavior or character and that she is not all that cheap as supposed or thought. Friendly and open, does not mean that sincere men will lose interest, in this case, I would say it depends on individual natural believe.
2007-09-28 00:34:56 · answer #3 · answered by joe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even if your assumptions are correct that playing games keeps men around and being honest does not, you have to ask yourself what your ultimate goals are in a relationship. If you're satisfied just having a guy around paying attention to you, even if the relationship is not all that open or honest then play games. If you're willing to go through a relatively larger number of guys that can't handle the real you until you find one that can, be yourself.
2007-09-27 22:11:33 · answer #4 · answered by kfinn360 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i agree with you 100%
But there is two side to this. Men who are afraid to commit and are players usually want the chase.
The nice guys don't like to play games neither do the like being around women who wanna play hard to get.
It also depends on level of maturity.
2007-09-27 22:00:29 · answer #5 · answered by julia1975 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stop searching for elaborate rationales. You have made bad choices in men, as have most women, and that's the conclusion your evaluations should lead you to. Stop loving the "bad boy" then being upset when he acts "bad". I mean, where's the surprise in that scenario?
2007-09-27 21:59:02 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Vincent Van Jessup 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It's been my experience that guys like to guess. You may just need to not just lay it all out, keep some mystery. And after you do, still try keep things fun. Sometimes you need to play a little game, not all are bad.
2007-09-28 15:26:35 · answer #7 · answered by Katelynn L 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I beleive that mature men are interested and don't lose interest....
There are two extremes....a girl who gives herself away and doesn't tend to her needs and a girl who is hard to get...none of these are desirable....
2007-09-27 21:57:09 · answer #8 · answered by chaminda l 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men are the great hunters. They enjoy the chase more than the catch.
2007-09-27 21:59:22 · answer #9 · answered by missingora 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Some of them not all.actually it depend on the woman herself
2007-09-28 16:29:57 · answer #10 · answered by what do you talk about clear it. 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋