My boyfriend broke up with me about a month ago, and he didnt give me a good reason at all... and didnt call or email once after that break up... i was devastated but have been pretty good the past few weeks, and the the past few days I cant control my emotions... and I actually just found out a few hours ago he is with someone else..
I just feel like its so unfair, i loved him so much, I didnt do anything wrong, he found someone he prefers more than me, and I'm the one suffering??? why is this fair? I did nothing wrong!!
And I feel like emailing him telling him "HA I FOUND THE REAL REASON YOU BROKE UP WITH ME!"
but knowing him he wont even respond..
its not fair! he has already moved on to a better version of me while i'm still crying over him... and I cant help it... i know they say if a man makes you cry, then he isnt worth crying over, but its hard bc its like "why not me? why her? and why not just tell me you met someone new instead of blaming the breakup on me, which made no sens
2007-09-27 21:34:08 · 10 answers · asked by Cookie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and why cant he hurt too? why do i have to hurt? he is the one who broke my heart, he should suffer, not me! he isnt feeling an ounce of pain while I cry every night over him! why do guys do this?
2007-09-27 21:35:45 · update #1
and should I email him letting him know I found out that he is with someone else even though he denied it before?
2007-09-27 21:41:29 · update #2
Life is unfair sometimes... that's just the way it is. Unfortunately, you have no choice but to cry it out and let yourself heal. I promise you it will get better. This stuff happens all the time to people :(
Just forget him and don't try to hurt him back because there's no way you'll be able to hurt him as much as he's hurt you... it's better to just be the big one here and go out with grace.
2007-09-27 21:38:27 · answer #1 · answered by Cochy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember that when your heart is beat up from a bad breakup that its being tenderized for the real fire. It hurts but it couldnt have been love...he absolutely was wrong for you and life just sometimes shoves that down our throats by having us watch as someone does this sort of thing to us. You will recover and will have more love, more passion than he could ever give you. You dont need to email him because when a guy thinks he has "moved on" he usually finds he has "moved down". When you finally DO hear from him, when the novelty of the NEW girl wears off, it will be too late for him, you will be finito with his burrito....so to speak...There is no better version of you, You are a one of a kind! NO SUBSTITUTE>>>>you need to realize the problem is HIS...HE SUCKS! He cant even be truthful and definitely cant be loyal, and she is not getting any type of prize honey....he is nothing but garbage, you should have set him out a week ago! you will see. Just sit back and bide your time and enjoy it when he comes back and for his particular brand of a**hole, you need to rub it in when you talk about how nice your life has become WITHOUT HIM. Take Care hun, stay buisy...go get a manicure, pedicure, hair done, buy a couple new outfits and get silly drunk and have a ball, rent a limo with your girlfriends and then put that all over your web page about the wild a** night you guys had with the male strippers * which one is now your bf, something like that will do just fine :) hang in there sweety. Your gonna be fine.-Rachel.
2007-09-27 21:46:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh JK... we care, we just don't show it. Personally, I drink too much alcohol and try not to think about it. But we care madly.
And we cry, but alone, like in the car or the shower. The new person just might be unlucky to have such a coward as a boyfriend, though. You don't realize this now, but you should be glad to be rid of him. Go on to a man who will appreciate you.
hugs from
Antonio
2007-09-27 21:40:29 · answer #3 · answered by Antonio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, to be straight forward, he didn't break up with you because he found another girl it's because you're PSYCHO! Bietch(No offense), have you read your shiet? Read it again! You're waaaay too in love with that guy and it feels like you're on his *** all the time. One of the most turn off in girls is that they become too attached. Don't feel down, there's more fishes in the sea, but don't blame yourself. Maybe you can find a guy that likes girls to be on their asses, but I can assure you that 80% or even more of men don't prefer I girl to be like that. Read your question again and don't tell me that's freaky. Okay, well hope it helps! Good luck.
2007-09-27 21:42:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because his heart left the relationship long before his body did.
Go out and find yourself a rebound guy. Preferably he should be better looking than your ex, and have more money. Make sure that you flaunt him, and act like he is a thousand times better than the ex was.
2007-09-27 21:40:20 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
omg, i'm going through the same exact thing. Almost all men are the same :P I cried so much, it hurt alot when I found out earlier today that my ex was with someone else. Don't e-mail him at all.. I think you'd be wasting your time. Once guys stop caring, it's over.. they don't like clingy girls.
2007-09-28 18:02:12 · answer #6 · answered by whateverz 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
obviously it was just not meant to be honey,let yourself grieve,it's only natural,but you'll bounce back,we've all been there & we've all survived,i agree though,it is extremely painful,you were too good for this jerk & the way he treated you obviously proves it,there'll be someone else who will be alot better than this guy,look at it this way,he did you a favour,who's to say he won't do it to his new g/f,life does go on believe it or not.
2007-09-27 21:48:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they really do care its just that they dont wanna show it. i dont know why but for some reason when it comes to emotion, toughness is the only emotion guys have [or say they have]. but in reality guys are crushed. they feel like they werent good enough to meet your expectations so they say that they dont care. they try to act all tough and like it didnt bother them at all. guys are just like that. they dont wanna seem like a little pu$$y because only girls and gay guys are suppose to show emotions [as they say again]
2007-09-27 21:56:09 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Sher♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually when guys ask for a break up they are sooo decided.... unlike you girls when you break up ... there is a possibility to win you back....
by the way some have spare tires.... if you know what i mean.... thats why they dont hurt at all.... im not saying it in general ok.....
2007-09-27 21:39:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad you thought that was funny so get your fact correct
2007-09-27 21:48:44 · answer #10 · answered by Stephanie S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋