2007-09-27 21:32:38 · 13 answers · asked by BTB2211 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i plan my wedding 3months ahead. we are inviting 50 families, and it does mean we dont have to spend alot of money for the wedding.
my wedding gown is ready, for the family uniform such as braissed maid etc i trusted it to my younger sister and she said OK. all the vendor also ready and nothing special happen during this pre-wedding moment.
2weeks before the date. i could not contact my husband, he was in Beijing with the bad weather condition and stuck at the airport for 3 nights because he cant speak chinese and also the typhoon wind makes people could not walk out the building, so for one week we are lost contact, as a matter a fact we must attend a Pre-marriage class, the prist said he cant marry us because the groom is never attend the class, and also he feels the groom does not care at all, so i have trouble with church document one week before the wedding day. ive got confused so i decided to ask my friend help, he helped me as a management in one christian church (not catholic) so i made decision we are married in christian church, and the trouble solved.
2days before, my sister call me, the family uniform are ready, i am so excited to see, but i cant because i was in another city (quite busy worker).
all the budget is spread away and paid already, include the building where we are going to have the reception in the night, but suddenly my father said he dont want to attend the reception in that building because alot of people think this 5stars hotel are place to one night stand for high class prostitte!!! can you blieve that! 2 days before!!! and the invitation was spread away! sH!t...
i tried on my gown, and it is TOO SMALL ( i gain weight until 3kgs) i cant zipper it, gosh... i call the bridal, and they said will fixed it asap, but maybe it wont be perfect as before!
so we fought and i left house, as a matter a fact the wedding is in the next day! i felt so iritating!!! why my dad should ruined everything like that, and he also just change his religion, so he said he dont want to come to the church,OH MY GOD, why he did not say it before!
ON THE BIG DAY...
the car for picking up the groom was stuck in the road and got lost some where no body know, and also the driver was not able to speak well....
my make up and hair dresser was change suddenly, i order the best hair dresser in town but then he is not come because he feel sick! my goodness, and i was end up my hair and face like chinese doll, so heavy make up and my hair was hair sprayed so heavy until i can feel it so crunchy and like a bad witch! but i have no time for that, everything should goes on...
get in the car without my dad! and go to the church, when i saw the uniform of the families and especially the braissed maid, IT IS HORRIBLE... it was in dark purple and dark blue, and some of them using oranges they are using diffrent uniform! it is most likely gown for carnival... i was so disappointed to my sister! and she only said the uniform is out of budget! gosh....
after the matrimony (my uncle was represented my dad), we are having tea and coffee break in the church terrace, well it wuite nice the decoration is just perfect, but then the guy who responsible to bring the wine and sampagne was forget to come, he thought it will be tomorrow so he came very late when the party is done, all the guest was drink a COLD COFFEE AND TEA, i felt so embarased...
while having this break, me and my husband talk a little bit, and we disscuss to apologize for those inconvinient, my goodness, its a hard day for me, at the end my husband go to the podium and asking for attention and it is so surprised me, after he apologized he said every family will get 2 tickets to BALI and the reception will be held on bla...bla bla with a beach party etc, and every guest who came are very happy and they seems surprised too,
well, the gossip was spread very fast in my town, but al least the free trip to BALI should be fixed everything...
in the night, i just thank Him, i know it is not a perfect wedding, because the groom lost the wedding ring in the airplane, so we are bought a toy fake ring, and when i try to put it on his finger, it is not fit on him, and all people are just laugh at us...
it is horrible day in my life, but then i realize, nothing is going perfect, and to be honest with you, i still feel iritate until the reception in Bali.
when our wedding picture has ben ready to see, and also the DVD which record our matrimony, i was terribly sad, because my face there was like a hungry weak vampire!!! with black eyes because i couldnt sleep well thinking about my dad! sh!t...
now everything just fine, i can smile remembering my wedding, it is unbelievable ruined!
so i hope you learn much from my story, if your wedding is not perfect, dont be sad, it is a part of your life that you wont forget.
cheers,
2007-09-27 23:45:21 · answer #1 · answered by MaDaM 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Where do I start?? This all happened 2 weeks before the wedding. It wasn't entirely bad, it just pissed us off A LOT!
1. One of our groomsmen calls us to tell my fiance he's in Germany (we knew this part) but he's not coming back to the states because he applied for a work visa and gave his passport to the German govn't. Why'd he wait until the last minute to do that?? Why'd he wait to 2 weeks before the f*cking wedding to call us? (he's been there in August, this happened last Friday)
2. We found out this past Monday that our reception venue doesn't allow alcohol and that the person my fiance originially spoke to said they'd make an exception because its a wedding, but the Ranger for the camp and everyone else said no. Now we have a case of wine we can't serve and the 2 other places we could have the reception are either booked or you have to be a resident of that area to book.
So far thats the worst thats happened. We have 8 more days to go.
2007-09-28 04:28:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, no matter how hard you plan, something will always go wrong on your wedding day. All you can do is go with the flow and not let it upset you. Enjoy your day and the meaning behind it. Don't get caught up in the small stuff, or worry too much! Everyone told me this before my wedding, but I was convinced it would be perfect.
Trust me, they were right. But it all ended up wonderful in the end, and it was the best day of my life, so far.
Congrats, God Bless, and good luck!
2007-09-27 21:37:33 · answer #3 · answered by sos_sweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!!!! Well, not to me, but to a wedding that I was supposed to attend.
This was in the summer of 2004 (?), if I remember correctly.....we traveled to Detroit on a Friday for a wedding that was to be on Saturday. I don't know if any of you remember, but there was a HUGE blackout across the eastern portion of the country.....I can't remember where or how the chain reaction of power outages went.....but in any case the power was out in Detroit for Friday. We stayed way out of the city where there was still power. Anyway, on Saturday.....still no power in most of the city (and on the east coast).....so what do you think happened? Yes, the wedding HAD to be cancelled. They had to make the call in the morning. Detroit was only one of many major cities in a blackout so can you imagine how many people had to cancel their plans???? TONS! I felt so bad.....all of us said...."well they can still have the church service......but how do you get ready without electricity????? You take it for granted.
Then, wouldn't you know by about 2 p.m., the power was restored, but it was too late then. EVERYTHING was cancelled. They ended up getting married at a small ceremony a few weeks later (only family) - not the 300 people that they had invited!!! :(
2007-09-28 13:31:04 · answer #4 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
presents are presented yet a reception is unlike a bath or celebration. you do not open the presents there. the start of the reception is commonly even as the 'professional' pictures are taken so the visitors are milling round slightly, looking their tables. once all of us is seated the bridesmaids and groomsmen are presented, then the bride and groom. Dinner is served after that. it is the time even as the bride and groom make their rounds, thanking all of us for coming so don't be shocked in case you do not get a danger to eat. next comes toasts. once it is complete, you've your first dance. Then this is the bride and her father and probably the groom and his mom. then you do the cake. After that, there is not any agenda. this is only a large celebration. in some unspecified time sooner or later the bouquet is thrown. once that occurs, the nighttime is rather slightly over. of direction this isn't a series agenda that each reception might want to keep on with. there is not any such element.
2016-10-20 03:45:20 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh we had loads went wrong, problems with caterers, suppliers, the registry office called on the Thursday before the wedding and said that they had no paper work and they were going to cancel the wedding (their error, we had filed our papers and paid the fees) so that was a bit of a nightmare but we just took a few deep breaths and made lots of phone calls, you have to expect things to go wrong, if you don't expect disasters then you won't be prepared for them.
2007-09-27 21:47:11 · answer #6 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reception hall my brother had booked was destroyed in a tornado 2 days before the wedding! The thing is, they are in Delaware, and tronadoes are extremely rare, and it was the only thing really damaged! They had to get a whole new reception place with only 2 days' notice...the new place was very accomodating, and it all worked out for the best.
2007-09-28 01:51:15 · answer #7 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think too often we tend to strive for perfection on our wedding days when we really need to say "hey, I planned it the best I could and now it's in God's or fate's hands" . . . and just focus on marrying your beloved and knowing that this is in and of itself one of the most sacred ceremonies you will ever be a part of . . . Half the time if things do go wrong most people don't even notice. .. Of course the bride is hell bent on the finer details, but the most important thing is the love that is being set between the happy couple... Soon you will on your honeymoon, maybe laying on the beach, kissing, swimming, drinking beautiful cocktails. . . Ahhhhhh! No matter what, the fact that you have found the one of your dreams is absolutely wonderful..!!
2007-09-27 21:47:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
We had to bury my Step-mother, who died suddenly, the Saturday before my daughter's wedding. She had made all the bridemaid's dresses, and a beautiful quilt as their wedding present. It was the saddest, and the happiest day. So to any Bride, who freaks because of some trivial problem in their plans, be thankful that's all you have to worry about.
2007-09-28 02:44:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My grandmother died right before my wedding. The day before the ceremony, I picked up her flower, which I changed from the one that she would have gotten to a single rose so that I could put it on her grave. My fiance/husband now and I went to her grave together and put the flower on her grave and told her that we loved her.
We didn't do it on our wedding day because we wanted that day to be for us and for our joy............but she was a part of it in our hearts.
2007-09-28 01:21:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋