That I didn't tell my boyfriend that I was a virgin before he and I had sex? The thing is that we talked about sex and I didn't make myself seem like I was a virgin. So I just decided not to tell him I haven't had sex before. He never asked. And I never told him. But I think he was assuming I wasn't a virgin. He probably was positive that I wasn't because of the way I talked and how much stuff I know. Plus I'm too old to be a virgin. I didn't bleed the first time because I do insert stuff when I play...
Do you think it's like I'm lying? Is it ok if I don't tell him?
2007-09-27 21:25:20 · 14 answers · asked by A 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thank you guys for saying it's ok. You really made me feel better :)
2007-09-27 21:36:05 · update #1
I can't choose a best answer because there are too many good questions. So I'm gonna put it to vote. I'm so glad that most of you said it's ok not to tell him. Thank you all!
2007-09-30 02:58:52 · update #2
S D, you're an ***.
2007-09-30 02:59:42 · update #3
He didn't ask, so you didn't tell him. Doesn't sound like a lie to me. It's fine! If you feel like telling him, then go for it... I don't think he has a right to be mad, though he may have felt that perhaps that was important to know. That'd be something rather petty to get mad over though. I guess since you were possibly being a little deceptive, he could get a bit peeved, but I'd hope he wouldn't dwell on it! Don't worry about it :)
2007-09-27 21:30:58 · answer #1 · answered by Cochy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well im not sure he'd care if you were or not. I know what you feel tho, like he may think you're not into it bc you've never done it. I was like that too, I'd play like I wasnt a virgin thinking it would turn on guys, and I guess it did. But later in life, guys prefer virgins, guys like being the "first".
But now it's kinda too late to tell him that you were a virgin, what will it change, he'll just feel kinda weird that he popped your cherry without even knowing it.
Don't make things complicated, now that you're not a virgin anymore just deal with it and move on. If he ever asks, then you answer that you were a virgin, he might find it lame that you acted like you weren't just to impress him.
2007-09-28 04:33:23 · answer #2 · answered by Gwen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have an answer for this one, but maybe if you have sex with me I can tell you if you seemed like a virgin. haha, it doesn't matter if you know shiet, I'm a virgin and I know a lot of things(porno) and who cares?!?! You know more that's a good thing! Did he have fun? That's the only that matters. If he asked for more then you have no problem. Inserting eh? Niiice.
2007-09-28 04:35:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not ok if you don't tell him. it's the most important thing in a relationship just to be honest and open between the two parties!!!
I'm sure that it would have not changed anything if he knew you were a virgin... most probably it would have a better experience and it would have brought you two closer if he knew. Now just be honest with him and tell him... explain your reasons why you did not bleed and your reasons for not telling him so.
2007-09-28 04:30:02 · answer #4 · answered by trushka 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you need to tell him. If he wants to know he can ask you. You did not lie to him. Since you said that he probably feel that you ain't a virgin and if indeed you are not then you can tell him. If this thing is tormenting you inside then I really suggest you tell him the truth.
2007-09-28 04:33:34 · answer #5 · answered by leviosa_cho 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not an issue for me, telling him your a virgin or not, so whats the big deal. A man who loves you can accept whether your a virgin or not.
2007-09-28 04:32:58 · answer #6 · answered by glen l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say if you're going to spend some serious time with this guy, tell him. It wont hurt anything. But if it's just a fling, and you don't feel like you're going to be with him long term, there's no need to tell him.
2007-09-28 04:30:25 · answer #7 · answered by TMama 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if it bothers you then its not ok, so if you want it to be ok, dont let it bother you.
look at it this way, if hes happy with it like this, then meh, thats fine.
its not hurting anyone right now except the guilty feelings ur having about not telling him. the guilt is just in your mind. youre not hurting anyone by not telling him, so if you stop feeling guilty itll still be fine. if you cant stop feeling guilty, then you better tell him or itll just bug you. he prolly wont care
2007-09-28 04:34:27 · answer #8 · answered by Ricardus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its short and simple ...
BETTER TO BE HATED FOR WOT U R !!
THAN 2 B LOVED 4 WOT UR NOT !!
tell him da truth ... its nuthng as such 2 hide ... oh cummon... if he really likes u dat really wont matter !!
2007-09-28 04:31:51 · answer #9 · answered by sheene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.... if you are really serious about him and him to you... then by all means....
beware of guys that really wanted to be the first to persons like you....
ofcourse if you value your virginity that much... but if not.... then... its all yours....
2007-09-28 04:31:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋