I honestly hate my man's ex girlfriend. I guess its bc he really liked her and I'm almost always comparing myself to her, in hopes to be better. but now I cant take it anymore, like I wish she fall from the surface of the earth lol.
But now im thinking, maybe i'll stop stressing about her if I make peace? Should I just confront her and get over my obsession by being kind to her? She hasnt done anything to piss me off besides exist lol
Maybe I'll find peace of mind if we become friends...or will it make things worst, maybe I'll get to know her more and it will make me even more obsessed about her past relationship with my man.
OMG help me
2007-09-27 21:15:34 · 11 answers · asked by Gwen 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no, you dont have too... dont be plastic... just try not to compare yourself to her coz youll lose your self-esteem and youll always be insecure... let go of the past and focus yourself with your relationship with your bf.
2007-09-27 21:25:17 · answer #1 · answered by brazenlove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop obsesssing about her! as you said yourself she never did anything to you... have you ever considered the fact that your man is with you entirely for the fact that you are different than her?
if you want your relationship to last, stop immediately your obsession to be like her. stop your hatred towards her and thank god that their relationship did not work, otherwise you would not have had your man!!! You don't make friends with your man's ex... that will only hurt your relationship with him. If he wanted her in your life (both yours & his) he would not have ended his relationship with her.
Think about it and make sure to be yourself and not imitate someone he either got hurt by (thus making him think you'll hurt him like her) or someone he outgrew of love towards to (he'll think again that you are like her and your relationship will go through the same path).
Good Luck! And JUST BE YOURSELF
2007-09-27 21:23:52 · answer #2 · answered by trushka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is better if you be-friended the ex- of your bf, thats a proof of sportmanship. Thats the way you can prove your open minded,maturity,self-confidence,understandle. In day way your trying to imply to them your being unique person,
Don't mind what other says or comparison, remember no one is the same personality coz everyone is unique, similariy maybe.Every one has his own capacity and limitation.
If you gain her raport and that girl then that is your chance to her better and what differs you and her. To that point maybe you can improbe your self better and your relationship with your man/bf.
2007-09-27 21:30:17 · answer #3 · answered by mae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 2 choices for you - one, you can have sex with her so both of you will love each other and your man will be satisfied or two, tell your man/***** to get off her because the more they see each other the more they think about memories of each other, resulting in sex with a midget, but without a midget. Trust me, they're not called "ex" for nothing. Experienced, excellent, extra, and Excalibur. The last one was just for show.
2007-09-27 21:20:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do not have to be friendly if you do not want to be. If he keeps bringing you two together then it might be him that you should stop being friends with. If you re not friendly to her and he does not like it then as I said he is the one ti go.
Do not let anyone control your life to that degree.
2007-09-27 21:35:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
gerl let it go! have u talked to ur man bout this? if HE was the one that was always comparing u n her than there's some problem but having YOU urself compare to her? that's plain weird in my sense...
he's wif u for a reason.... HE LOveS YOU! there's no reason for u to stress over the fact that he USED to like her....if he reali like her he would have been honest with you...
RELAX...even if u wanna be friends with her does that mean she wanna be friends with u? u're with her ex...but it would be good if both of u guys reali end up as friends...
talk to your man bout this... hope this helps =)
2007-09-27 21:24:35 · answer #6 · answered by yuki_natsuo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you shouldnt ..why what good would it do..if you think you compare yourself with her now you are really going to
2007-09-27 21:21:37 · answer #7 · answered by ღOMGღ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, never...........
she will take advantages....
she will bring in all the past, all the memory...
2007-09-27 21:22:33 · answer #8 · answered by HAFIZbrad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't think about her.
2007-09-27 21:20:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can find peace of mind..... then by all means...... go....
2007-09-27 21:21:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋