We've been together for 4 years, and i'll catch him from time to time checking out another girl. He used to do it a lot when we first started dated, fortunately he's kinda stopped doing it, or maybe he's gotten better at hiding it lol. But it really pisses me off, like how could he admire another girl, like i'm not good enough for him. I'm so jealous, it makes me feel like crap and like i'm ugly when he checks other girls out.
I may look at a guy or two, but not often, and I just look real quick, I dont imagine myself in bed with the guy, but I feel like my man gets sexually attracted to girls he finds pretty.
Am I just paranoid, how do I get over this ??
2007-09-27 21:09:56 · 14 answers · asked by Gwen 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes you're over reacting. Men are wired to be more polygamous. That means, they tend to be wired to "spread their seed" to the four corners of the earth and farther, if they could do it. That's just a little trick our maker played on us to keep the human race going. Men; married, dating, single, etc., will look at women they find attractive. It's just human nature. One guy I know described it as this: "Whether or not he's in a relationship, he's still going to look. He's going to spot a pretty gal on the street and think...'Duh...wowee...I wonder what it would be like to sex to her...' And he's going to wonder about it, all day long." That said, there's a difference between men who look and men who cheat. If your man is only looking, don't let it bother you. He still will want to be with other women but he makes a conscious decision to be willing NOT to be with them.
So, don't let it bother you. It's no big deal. It doesn't mean he loves you any less or that he will ever be unfaithful to you. It only means that he has a pulse. Nagging at him for this (which he has little if any control over) will only cause strife in your relationship. That's when you hear the guys complaining while on boys night out about their "naggy ball and chain." Don't let it bother you because it has absolutely nothing to do with you. Medically proven.
2007-09-27 21:24:45 · answer #1 · answered by maggieeld 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it something you can't control you can't stop someone from looking/checking out other people it's in our nature. I think your just being paranoid he's with you just cause he looks doesn't mean he wants them or he wouldn't be with you. Maybe he was good at hiding it or you just didn't notice it that much.
But you can't stop a guy from checking out girls and if you try they will probably just do it more.
You get over it by being more confident about your relationship think he's with you and has been for 4 yrs.
it's just a little jealousy try not to pay attention to it and if he does it in front of u and it bothers him nudge him or give him a little move so he knows u saw it and he might pick up u dont like it
2007-09-28 04:16:51 · answer #2 · answered by Rayray 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you suspect he is cheating. Try not to worry. It will only continue to haunt you, and make you feel bad about yourself when you have no reason to. Every now and then i catch my husband looking. But he doesn't comment, he doesn't STARE, he just glances. I'm ok with that. Now if your man is actually commenting on what he's looking at, or staring a chick down, or making eye contact with them, then tell him it bothers you. But you don't want him to know you're jealous, or self concious about it because it will only feed the fire.
2007-09-28 04:23:10 · answer #3 · answered by TMama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be worried if he wasn't looking at other females cause that would mean he was not normal!
It is totally normal to look just not touch and yes, you are being paranoid.
Don't assume the worst. Do you always think of doing it with a guy you glanced at cause he was cute? Prob not huh?
don't assume your man is either, he is just looking, no big deal.
2007-09-28 04:19:18 · answer #4 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to have a bf who also did this to me. He gave studies as an excuse to break-up with me. Weeks later he told me he just gave flowers to a girl he met in university.
I cannot confirm on my answer because I do not know your bf personally but from my experience I think that when he is constantly checking out other girls he is ok with getting a new girl and ditch you someday.
2007-09-28 04:14:44 · answer #5 · answered by leviosa_cho 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I started getting mad with my partner when he would get mad with me. So I started doing what he would do to me. Except I when out with family and he was doing he thing. I wasn't jealous as much, because I knew he loved me. That change when he change the rules. How can you say what I didn't do compare to what you didn't do for me. I always look at both because your never know what some would do to you. So I would look for safety.
2007-09-28 04:23:08 · answer #6 · answered by Stephanie S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its ok to look but i hate when ur boyfriend does it wen ur there with him. I just think its rude and it does make u feel insecure even if that not his aim. I think if it bothers u maybe tell him it does and ask him if he could try not to do it in ur presence. Boys will be boys but theres a time and a place
2007-09-28 04:19:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Silly question. If he stops looking at girls he is dead. Touching a different matter. He will be attracted to girls he finds pretty. Is this a surprise?
2007-09-28 04:18:51 · answer #8 · answered by Bill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should worry. If he is truly happy with you he wouldn't be looking at other girls. Maybe he is not the kind to settle down. Find someone who respects you enough not to look at other girls the way your current man is.
2007-09-28 04:17:54 · answer #9 · answered by Lizzie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just looking for a better girl ... the day he finds one ... he's gonna dump you ... thats my guess ... anyways i suggest u too start checking out other guys ... may be that way u won't be left alone in future ... u getting my point ?!?!
2007-09-28 04:18:05 · answer #10 · answered by ad\ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋