ive been dating him for over 2 years.. and ever since my senior year in high school i really started to get intrested in wicca.. i never really studied it or practiced it because i lived with my dad and step mom and my step mom is a true hard core christian..and i knew if i brought home books or anything that had to do with wicca she would kick me out..(she wouldnt even let me have scary movies) im now 24 and have been living with my boyfriend for almost 2 years..and since iv been living with him ive been reading up on it and really getting into it and practicing it. i love everything about it.. my life style and the way i feel about things really go hand in hand with this religon.. my boyfriend knows ive been reading books about wicca for a while now.. i just dont think he really knows that im wiccan..he dosent really have views on any religion so i dont think it would bother him.i just dont want him to think of me as a different person.even though i have been wiccan for over a year
2007-09-27 19:51:44 · 15 answers · asked by misshotcakes2u 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Just tell him.
2007-09-27 19:57:12 · answer #1 · answered by Mamapie2u 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Do they really need to know? It could put undue strain on your relationship with your boyfriend. Sometimes its better to just let these things go. But if you are set on telling them, or if it actually comes up sometime, I would have a brief explanation ready of what it means to be a Wiccan. Maybe include some stereotypes, and then give the actual truth near the end. Just explain it in a way in which they won't run you out of the house screaming, "Witch!"
2016-05-20 22:08:15 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have him read the Wiccan Rede first, then tell him you are one (before he can say something stupid that he will regret later). Discussing the rede first tends to pre-handle most of the incorrect info about Wicca. Then IF he is curious, you can get into it more.
Dont push tons of info at him. For the first conversation all you are shooting for is
A) it exists
B) you are one
C) its based on rules of no harm
If he has to drop it at that point and digest it abit then let him.
2007-09-30 05:33:21 · answer #3 · answered by Gandalf Parker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After two years, I think that it is time to come out of the broom closet. (Wicca joke: those that are gay and hiding it ar "in the closet" Those that are Wicca and hiding it are "in the broom closet")
Just tell him. If he has seen you reading the books, and the fact that he hasn't shown any strong views to any specific religion, there is a good chance that he will accept it. Now, telling your parents is a whole other story.
2007-09-27 20:05:48 · answer #4 · answered by PaganAndProud 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've researched your religion. I respect it. As a matter of fact, if I HAD to label my religious beliefs, Wiccan would be it. Anyway, you need to tell him and let him accept you for who you really are. At your age, there is no time, rhyme, or reason for secrets and games. You're too mature for that. Either he accepts it, and you move on, or he won't. And you'll still move on. Be honest with him. I'm sure the initial conversation is a lot less scary then you think! Good luck. (and blessed be)
2007-09-27 19:59:54 · answer #5 · answered by munkees81 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you even need to tell him? If you're planning on getting married the religious discussion definitely needs to happen at some point, but is there any need for it at the moment? You may find that when it IS time to tell him the method of telling him will make itself known. Especially since he knows you're reading books on the subject, it's not like this news is going to blindside him.
2007-09-28 11:07:25 · answer #6 · answered by Nightwind 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can start off by asking him his thoughts on different religions. You say he doesn't seem to have any strong views on the subject, so it seems reasonable that he would be impartial about it. If he doesn't go to church or anything, he wouldn't be the type to judge you for it. As long you don't try to pressure him to join you, I doubt he will ever hold it against you. If anything you might feel a lot better knowing that you don't have to hide your beliefs from him.
2007-09-27 20:04:36 · answer #7 · answered by forgottenmorals 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't out right tell him, you'll scare the pants off him.
Try leaving books and other wiccan objects laying around the house. When he asks you about them just say how you're interested in 'this wiccan stuff'. He'll be gradually introduced to the idea, of course, he may just reject it out right but if that's the case no matter what you do you'll fail.
2007-09-27 20:00:43 · answer #8 · answered by Skaggy says: 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not like he would never have suspected it :)
.> have been living with my boyfriend for almost 2 years..and since iv been living with him ive been reading up on it and really getting into it and practicing it. i love everything about it.. my life style
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2007-09-27 19:59:30 · answer #9 · answered by par1138 • FCD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you dont have a very open relationship with the Man you have been living with. Just tell him.
2007-09-27 19:56:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he probably already knows by the sound of it, but if not, I'm sure he'll be ok with it, just tell him!
2007-09-27 20:02:20 · answer #11 · answered by Diane 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋