i need your opinion. its not my problem. and by the way I'm agnostic. anyway if a boy and girl really likes each other and wants be together, but they have different religion, and they are strong believers but also wants be together, whats going to happen? what they can do to make the relationship work?
2007-09-27 18:43:40 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
They need to have very clear and set boundaries about how they are going to mesh these religions.
Some religions have different holidays. If one is Jewish and the other is Christian, they need to decide which holidays they will celebrate and in what form! They need to decide how they will handle attending worship services (will they go to their individual services, or attend together, one on Saturday, the other on Sunday, etc), ceremonies (married in a church, or a synogogue?) how they will raise their children (most agree it is best to introduce a child to both belief systems and let them choose when they are older which one to practice).
The key to this is communication and understanding. If they have respect for each other, can listen to the other person's views without getting defensive, and can negotiate with an open mind, then they can resolve these conflicts.
Of course the Christian and Jewish religions are just examples. This would go for pagan/christian, muslim/christian, etc. They need to establish clear boundaries and understanding in all these areas so it doesn't pop up in future! Most religions can find SOME common ground (unless you're talking about a Satanist and a Christian).
2007-09-27 18:50:36 · answer #1 · answered by hrgirl1701 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on how deeply the differences of religion will effect the relationship. I mean for some religions they say no sex before marriage. Which is ok, but others say there should be a sacrifice of a lamb or something once a month. I say if there are some common things in both religions focus on those. But really you both should run through what you actually believe from that religion and compromise out the beliefs. Because some people may be christian but they don't fully believe everything the bible says. Or if they are Hindu or whatever find out what that other person is really believing and not what the masses are saying about what is right to believe and what isn't. This is about compromising just like any other aspect of a relationship.
2007-09-28 02:02:19 · answer #2 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They can make the relationship work but it wouldn't be a real relationship. If both are strong believers then they will eventually clash with their beliefs. What if they had children? Whose religion would the child be? What faith are they going to get married in? There are too many problems associated with differing religious beliefs so people who aren't of the same mind religiously shouldn't be together.
2007-09-28 01:50:05 · answer #3 · answered by smokey virginia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many things that have to be overcome in a relationship, which way to hang the toilet paper, who sets the table, how you communicate when things are rough... to add to the whole mix a difference in religion is a pretty big deal. It's been done and can be done. I think it greatly affects raising children, and in that sense could potentially be a deal breaker for me. I know I want to raise my children in my religion because of the values and morals it teaches. If the values and morals of my potential mates church didn't line up, that could cause child rearing issues, and confuse children. Not to mention issues between he and I simply about day to day living. You'd have to kind of agree to disagree and work to compromise. I guess to each his own.
2007-09-28 01:50:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know people in that situation that have been married for years. They each go to their own churches. They have learned about ech others religions, and respect each others right to have their own beliefs. They take turns bringing the children to each of the churches, and they teach them both ways of thinking. They explained that each of them have different beliefs, and tell the children that when they get older, they will need to decide which religion they feel more connected to.
2007-09-28 01:51:57 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there. I'm a believer in God, he was an atheist. I tried to ignore his rantings at any mention of God. I got fed up with his ugly speech on us "weak minded sheep" I tried to make it so neither of us mention our beliefs to one another. But as soon as he heard "God" or "Jesus" anywhere, like the television, or a visitor, he'd start in again. There was no way it would work for us. I'm not sure about two different religions.
2007-09-28 02:03:04 · answer #6 · answered by Isis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work on the relationship, and not worry about the differing religions.
2007-09-28 01:49:41 · answer #7 · answered by StoneCold 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well continue to what you both believe as long as u both understand and respect each others life and religion.its not a hindrance for your life go on.if u both plan to be married and no one will give up each other religion try the civil one...have respect to each other that will make your relationship work and love each other truly
2007-09-28 01:52:04 · answer #8 · answered by effy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's what all good relationships are partly based on: Compromise
2007-09-28 01:53:38 · answer #9 · answered by St John the Blasphemist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
http://www.americasfamilycoaches.com/
GET educated and counseling about marriage.
At church, from the Bible.
Else, they fail.
heh heh, not really
2007-09-28 01:50:41 · answer #10 · answered by Nooker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋